Wibu to only ever cook pasta again?

[AdmiralCLingus]

Just pasta. No sauce. No cheese. Just plain boiled pasta?

Yet again two dinners are going in the bin because dd and he dad won't eat it. It's not like I've cooked something fancy.... just chicken and rice, with some carrots and sweetcorn. No matter what I bloody cook, someone has to pick fault or they dont like it or part of it.

The only thing that I can guarantee will get a clean plate and no waste is plain flipping pasta. I BLOODY HATE PASTA!!!

so wibu to only ever cook them pasta again??

[BitOutOfPractice]

"He doesn't even know how to cook fucking pasta "

He does. He just chooses not to. Bloody man child. My absolutely spoiled kids know how to cook pasta

[dontcallmethatyoucunt]

In a situation like this an adult gets to behave like an adult, or fuck off

[MaQueen]

My 12 year old DD cooks pasta FFS.

This is why I only cook 5-6 meals, which we all like. I refuse to be stressed by meal times and food.

[Zaphodsotherhead]

If he can read, he can cook. I really don't understand people who say 'I can't cook'... that's what recipe books are for! FGS, most things have cooking instructions on the frigging PACKET...

[PickAChew]

He needs to start catering for himself if he's so impossible to please, even if he ends up living on cornflakes.

Even if she has genuine sensory issues around food, your DD will learn to more honestly and less over-dramatically explore tastes and textures and you will find it easier to lay and reinforce developmentally appropriate ground rules regarding adventurousness and making sensible choices without a churlish manchild throwing a tantrum across the room.

[ThatGingerOne]

When I was little you either ate it or starved I had to sit at the dinner table for 3 hours once because I wouldn't eat broccoli - wasn't allowed to leave the table until it was all gone. I soon learned to eat up - food I didn't like tasted worse when it was cold and I had to eat it the next day for breakfast.

[Serialweightwatcher]

Just let him cook for himself and you can tempt DD with things she's never had before - please try to get her into the habit of trying - one of my DS's is 13 and really fussy and it drives me mad - wish I'd pushed it sooner but didn't want to put him off food altogether ..... as regards your DP, he needs to do his own!

[Pythonesque]

Different situation (long commute, dropping son to school and coming home later made more sense for several years), but I don't usually bother making meals for my husband on work days. Too unpredictable as to his timing, too likely to get held up and get something on the way home, and even if he was home and you said "there's XYZ" he'd decide it wasn't what he felt like, and eat something else an hour later or somesuch. My mother helped me out at home for a while at one point; she was horrified when I told her not to make anything for him to heat up later. Couple of weeks of his normal behaviour and she accepted I was right.

So agree, forget about your partner, just focus on your daughter. Decide what is acceptable, and stick to it. Meals re-offered rather than thrown out may be helpful, within reason. (eg grizzles half an hour later as hungry - there's your dinner, do you want it now?)

[Gottagetmoving]

I cook a meal...they eat it...or not. They don't get any other option or choice.

[DontTouchTheMoustache]

If it's his breakfast direct him to a box of cereal or the toaster. Job done.

[Graphista]

Your partner needs to grow the fuck up and realise he's the problem regarding your daughter's fussiness!

I was raised pretty much 'eat it or starve' too. The exception was mum did try to accommodate GENUINE dislikes (not fads). If we were presented with something new we had to try at least a decent sized mouthful before being allowed to reject it and certainly wouldn't be allowed to reject an entire meal!

While it was a fairly traditional marriage my parents had my father did take the attitude that my mother planned prepared and worked hard to produce nice meals every night and the least he could do was eat it! A couple of things he really didn't like but he'd eat then say please don't give me that again. But this was rare.

As for being unable to cook - balls! My 15 yr old can do a full roast! Boiling up some pasta or hearing something in oven is NOT hard!

[Popularcontrarian]

Beige food preferences are often seen in those who are on the autism spectrum.

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

Saw your header and thought YANBU because we live off pasta here - though we like a nice sauce with it.
Although are having potatoes in a tomato and veg sauce tonight.

One thing in DH's favour is he's always very appreciative of his food, however simple. He seems to genuinely think I'm a good cook, bless him.
Knows which side his bread is buttered

And DD and DS have followed suit thankfully. I do think if one adult is doing most of the cooking it's a big help/ the least they can do really to set a good example in appreciation and manners.

Good luck to you all. Maybe take him up on the idea he just gets himself breakfast?!

[AdmiralCLingus]

There are foods she genuinely doesn't like... but i think it's a textural thing rather than flavour (she won't eat cooked onions but will eat raw for example) but I either avoid them or allow her to take them out. Its just getting bloody ridiculous now.

In the last week the only meal she's actually eaten is pasta bake. She's gone to bed without eaing anything yet again

[Graphista]

And in the past week what's your partners behaviour at dinnertime been like?

[Starlight2345]

For DP...serve him a bowl of weetabix as it is breakfast...See how he feels about that.

For DD as she will eat it at school it is a control thing or learned behaviour from partner. She might prefer foods in separate piles to all mixed up together that is common in little ones.

[AdmiralCLingus]

He's left some or all of every meal. I don't care what he says about portion size (tonight's huuuuge portion for him was a chicken breastfeeding, half a bag of micro veg and a third of a bag of micro rice) no matter what is put in front of him something is wrong.

I made chasseur. He won't eat chicken on the bone so I asked the butcher to fillet some chicken thighs. He wouldn't eat the chicken because it tasted funny.

[AdmiralCLingus]

No no no... a chicken BREAST. not a chicken breastfeeding!!!!!

[Leanback]

I bloody love pasta

[DashboardLightParadise]

Ha to parents enabling fussy eating in children. Mine have been fed the same, one will give anything a whirl and loves most of what's put before him, the youngest (5) is a fussy mare. She's very similar to yours op and it's definitely a texture thing and is no different in school. Loves pasta too.

Your dh however I would tell to get a grip, if he doesn't like it he can make his own.

[Penhacked]

Honestly, your 5yo is completely normal. I have one at that age who is so bloody fussy and has only just progressed from pasta al pomodoro to al ragù! We did blw and have a very varied diet. It was definitely his devlopmental issues! Dd on the other hand will eat anything you throw on her highchair. She eats insects on the floor. Literally anything she can stuff in her mouth, she does! So May have no connection to dh fussiness.
I just make what i want to make, usually Minus anything salty or spicy, and give it in a somewhat deconstructed form so he can take any element from the meal and eat it. If not, it's fruit, bread and yogurt!
Your Dh is not allowed to be fussy like that. It's cook his own boring pasta or shut up

[MaQueen]

Kiiilllllll him...

[AdmiralCLingus]

ma I'm incredibly tempted tbh...

[icy121]

Let him live off shreddies then if he's too useless to cook.

Cook for you and the kid, and eat together. Don't let him eat with her if she's going to learn to be a critic off him! Fussiness is so SO unattractive I agree!!