Changing rooms...

[HeirOfNothingInParticular]

My daughters best friend works in a high street store which sells mainly lingerie. A man came in and proceeded to tell her that he was a straight man but wore women's underwear. He then asked to try various items in the changing room. They only have women's changing rooms. Daughter's friend felt uncomfortable but checked with manager and they said go ahead, although they weren't that happy about it. He went off to try items, left without buying anything. When I was discussing it was the friend earlier, she said that she felt conflicted as her instinct was to not discriminate as she has friends who are gay, lesbian, non binary etc, etc, but felt that this man had another agenda... I'm inclined to agree with her.

[sst1234]

Which store lets people try underwear and put it back on the shelf. Please name them. Aside being from perverted that this man’s fetishes are being indulged this way, it’s disgusting and unhygienic.

[Laughlol]

Wrong just wrong

[WorraLiberty]

Meh! No-one has to mention the girl anyway. If they'd been in the shop they would have overheard.

I'm not fussed either way, just thought it might be helpful to those who are bothered, to be able to complain.

[PovertyPain]

I agree Worra, but that won't help this young girl. You are wise enough to know that company's don't like their name being linked to a negative story and will find some way of punishing her.

[WorraLiberty]

Disciplined for what?

She hasn't done anything wrong.

[PovertyPain]

If the OP names the shop, then the poor girl with be recognised and possibly disciplined.

[Bambambini]

Ha, how things have changed when a man happily grabs some silky undies and queues with the womenfolk to try them on and everyone's too cool to raise an eyebrow. Won't look at me new Markys undies in the same way again.

[allsfairinlove]

Sorry, forgot to say that was tatertots's post above.

[allsfairinlove]

I'm confused. Was it a communal changing room? If yes, an obvious no. If it's individual cubicles, what's the issue?

I'm also confused as to whether it was communal or individual -- AFAIK, if the shop is indeed Anne Summers they are usually individual cubicles.

[Comejointhemurder]

This thread is going to be interesting.

[WinchesterWoman]

Countdown to the accusation of cross dresser phobia

[WorraLiberty]

Becuase it's very hard to find a shop with no male changing area.

Huh? Sorry, dim moment but I don't know what you mean?

If the OP names the shop, then the people can Tweet their concerns.

[HermioneWeasley]

Of course not heir - equality is nothing to do with imposing yourself sexually on someone else. You don't have to touch someone to violate their boundaries.

[HeirOfNothingInParticular]

HermioneWeasley - that'what I think. This is young woman has strong ideas about equality, but is confused about what happened. Should equality and acceptance mean that people can get their kicks and and sexual gratification by making minimum wage shop workers uncomfortable?

[CousinCharlotte]

I was thinking he probably had a wank

[toooldtobeyoungandstupid]

I worked in a lingerie shop with a men's section through uni. A similar situation happened, but he took both men's and women's options into the changing room. He was in there for ages and eventually had to be asked to leave. When the manager went to check, he'd left his mark

[BlasianFashionista]

I don't think the guy in question was innocent at all...

If the shop sells only womens underwear no way should they have let a man into the changing room.

[WinchesterWoman]

yes like the smarmy boss who just mentioned in conversation that he had an open marriage [leer] after about two days
it's just not necessary

[HermioneWeasley]

coldilox you really think a bloke wanting to see what women's underwear looks like on himself is for innocent reasons of fit and whether he'll get a smooth line?

He's an absolute kinky fucker and imposing in women only space and making the young assistant feel uncomfortable is part of what he gets off on.

And I guarantee he had a wank in the changing room

[2kids2dogsnosense]

Don't know how to do a link. Here's the thread title

AIBU: to think Urban Outfitters were right?

[user1473537716]

I just don't see why so many assume he was being a pervert.

So why did he mention he's straight? The fuck does a woman working in a shop need to know that for? It's non of her business. People sometimes think I'm gay, daring to be a non feminine woman and all, I don't correct anyone. Saying he's straight when there's no fucking need says "I might be wanking into these wearing underwear aimed at the females, but I am totally available to fuck you."

[WinchesterWoman]

Yes, if this that and the other Coldilox

but you know, if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck

[Jasonandyawegunorts]

I wonder why the OP didn't name the store when asked?

Becuase it's very hard to find a shop with no male changing area.

[2kids2dogsnosense]

I have a feeling of deja vu about this. Where is the Urban Outfitters thread?

[Coldilox]

Maybe he wanted to see what it looked like? That's why I try stuff on, as well as to see the fit.

And it may not have been bras.

I just don't see why so many assume he was being a pervert. Yes he could have bought online, but maybe he doesn't like buying clothes online? I don't. I like to try stuff on. To see what it looks like!