To think life can be really hard if you have emotionally immature parents

[ChowBloomingMein]

From my experience, and in my opinion etc - I think if your parents are emotionally immature - you usually have a rigid, fairly miserable upbringing. Emotionally immature parents do not have the maturity to be flexible with their children. Also they tend to use tactics like emotional blackmail to manipulate their children. Parents like this may or may not be high achievers professionally. This can often damage a child's future relationships as the quality of their relationships is often low - and they often form friendships and romantic attachments to abusers.

[flippinada]

yorksha that sounds a lot like my stepmother.

She had this image of herself as a wonderful, nuturing caregiver that loved children and when my Mum was taken seriously ill my DSis and I went to live with her. The reality was very different. She just didn't have the resources to cope and instead of admitting she was struggling and asking for help or even saying 'I can't do this' she took it her stress, anfer and resentment on two already traumatised kids. Tantrums, rages, emotional abuse, bullying and emotional blackmail were a feature of everyday life.

My Dad was emotionally immature in a different way. He basically checked out of any responsibility (his job was terribly hard you know) and didn't bother his arse with us as long as his needs were met. Although he would make sure to let us know what a disappointment and embarrassment we were every now and then.

It's caused lasting issues and neither me or my sister have much of a relationship with either of them now.

[TheVirginQueen]

NO, I don't think it's wanky mangoes

I just thought about posting this guy on my facebook, because I can relate what he's saying to the journey I've been on........ feeling like I'm edging towards real growth now. And maybe it does sound like an essay question!

[maggiethemagpie]

My mum is ridiculously emotionally immature. No self awareness, very sensitive to criticism and it's always YOUR fault, emotionally manipulative. It annoys me, and over the years I have distanced myself from her.
She'll never learn though as she has no interest in learning about herself.

[iwantthegroundtoswallowmeup]

Yes absolutely. It wasn't until I reached my earlier twenties when I realised the extent of the damage. Nice to know that I'm not alone