To be very happy being single

[iluvshoes]

Come on ladies give me your feedback on this one. If another colleague at work tells me to try internet dating I think I'm going to scream. Is it wrong to be very happy on your own and not really have any interest in meeting a man ? My son is my main priority and I cannot see that changing if ever.

[PollyPelargonium52]

As for the you know what department there is always options online to enjoy a bit of casual which to be honest is all I can be bothered with. Unless they are a gay man and then they can make a great friend. I have even stopped having platonic friendships with men as I think it is just too complicated.

[PollyPelargonium52]

Just adding to this interesting thread albeit a rather old one.

I much prefer remaining single. As women get older and remain with their partners they watch them getting sick and becoming a burden. Of course this does not happen to all of them but plenty of men get sick earlier in life than women and then become a bit of a burden and trial to cope with. Some have chronic degenerative conditions that women have to cope with also. It must be very hard on the female.

Also so many have cancer these days. Hope I am not being depressing! I sympathise but to be honest I have found men quite selfish over the years and they need a lot of keeping on top of. It just isn't worth it if you ask me.

I just cannot understand that more women do not clock on to this reality that being single is bliss. I can spend my money how I want and improve my home and clean it when I wish to without digs or criticisms or refusals to help.

I am in my fifties and doubt I would bother with a partner ever again. I certainly wouldn't move in with one and lose my independence. I have learned to keep my spending to a minimum which helps pay for repairs and so on for handymen /gardener etc.

I just wish I knew more single women. I am joining a choir soon and hope to meet some interesting happy single women there who aren't seeking some urgent man rescue as there is no such thing anyway and we all have to be happy with ourselves irrespective of whether we are single or not. Women who are happy on their own and enjoy the simplicity.

Any views at all?

[IggyPopsicle]

Before I met DP I was single for many years and I loved it. I did try online dating, but I hated it because I'd been forced into it by my "friends" and made to believe it was what I needed. It bloody wasn't. It was a big waste of time all round.

I love my DP but if we split up tomorrow, I would be fine and happy on my own. I like my own company, and am financially independent.

[jeaux90]

Love it love it love it. Single parent with all the decision making power, no negotiations (apart from with DD of course) and when you are out or travelling for work etc you can do whatever the fuck you like

[SpookyPotato]

I loved being single, now I love being with DP. There are many different ways to live a life, as long as you are happy and content then that's all that matters. Some people have such a rigid way of thinking everyone should be and can't cope if you do something different... Small minded folk!

[Livelovebehappy]

Loved being single! After the initial shock and panic of being dumped with 2 DC, I thoroughly embraced it. How smug and contented I used to be when out with girl friends hearing their gripes about their OH's. No longer single, but really, really miss it!

[mycatwantstokillme1]

Have spent the majority of my adult life single and for me life is so much better. I don't know if I'm just fuck up unable to function in a relationship, but I am much happier alone. Admittedly one of my exes was an undiagnosed psychopath but some my others were really nice and I'm still happier alone. I can't ever imagine living with someone ever again. I already have a child, I don't want any more!

[maggiethemagpie]

I think it is good if you are happy single! When I was single, I desperately didn't want to me, and I was miserable about it to the point of quite bad depression. Granted, I actually wanted to be in a relationship, whereas you don't. That makes a big difference. But I tried to be happy single nevertheless and failed. Thankfully it was not a permanent state of affairs.

It did annoy me when I was single when people asked me 'why are you single'.. like I knew!

[chitofftheshovel]

I love being single. For all the above reasons plus no compromise!

[ghostyslovesheep]

YANBU at all - 6 years and counting

I am really happy with myself and my life - it's lovely

[thesnailandthewhale]

Another happy singleton here

Positives:
Bed to myself
Can get into said bed as early as I want with the laptop without someone whinging
No shirts to iron
No MIL
Christmas with my family every year
In control of my finances

Negatives:
Hmm ... still looking for one

[MollyBloomYes]

Needed this thread! Mostly I enjoy it after having it thrust upon me last year. Will love it even more once my finances are back on track and I can move out of my parents (something that seems infinitely more doable now that my ex and his ridiculous lack of money sense is out of the way).

Could do with a couple more single friends though. Meeting another single parent friend would be the dream, my toddler and baby aren't quite at the fun conversation stage yet if we go out anywhere!

Other than that though, it's pretty awesome. Especially the total power over Netflix

[SoleBizzz]

Yanbu. All men are smiling assassins.

[gunsandbanjos]

Definitely not unreasonable, I was very happily single for 3 years after leaving my husband. Spent time concentrating on making sure my daughter was ok and getting on in my new career.

My single friends and I discussed it many times, we were all happy and successful in our relevant fields and if we were to date someone they would have to bring something to the equation. We would all rather be single and happy than in a relationship just for the sake of it.

I will say I'm now in a relationship with a man I met online, he's absolutely fantastic, I feel very lucky to have met someone so amazing.

However there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single, as long as you're happy fuck everyone who tries to tell you otherwise.

[Lucyccfc]

I have been single for 8 years and love it.

Just DS and myself. What's not to love:

Great job
Lots of friends
Lovely home
Complete control of my finances
Complete control of all decision making.
No one to mess my house up
Toilet seat down
No petty arguments
Don't need to worrying about not shaving my legs or bits
Happy with my own company or seeing friends
Not having to worry about where someone else wants to go on holiday - just DS and I decide

When DS is at his Dad's:

Slob around in my PJ's all day and watch crap tele or read a book
Go,out for lunch with the girls
Go to the cinema
Pub crawl with the girls
Shopping and buying clothes without being moaned at for spending money
Spend ages on the internet looking for fab holidays

I get on well with Ex-H, but he was shite with money and had a gambling problem and did end up stealing money from me. It's less stressful without him.

The same as another poster said - I read the relationship board and say a huge, loud, thank goodness I am single.

[FlyHighLittleBee]

I've only been single a month or so, but I'm beginning to realise that it's a much bette situation to be in (than a shitty abusive relationship anyway). Really like this thread

[Somanyvipers]

YANBU I bloody love being single, got years in, and wouldn't change it for the world. People find it odd, I am pretty quick to tell them to fuck off.

[Childrenofthestones]

Yanbu.
I loved being single, I had couple of friends but loved spending time alone.
The worst part was putting up with all the gay comments. I mean I must be gay mustnt I if I don't spend half my life running around after women.
I equally love being married with kids now but there should certainly be no shame to being a singleton.😄
Full control of the remote? What's not to love?

[Babynamechange]

YANBU! I love it.... x

[jay55]

I love being single, not having to run anything by anyone, no one faffing.

[maisiejones]

I love being single. Nothing could tempt me to share my house with a man again. I look at the relationships board here and offer up a silent prayer of thanks.

[iluvshoes]

Thanks for the feedback on this . I'm sure where I work they think I'm some sad old bird who needs to get herself a man. Hmmm can't see that happening anytime soon. I'm thinking I'd actually rather get a dog! Ha ha ha

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

YANBU

I've been single for nearly two years and I've never been happier.

[debbs77]

I love it!

[BitchQueen90]

YANBU. Single for 2 and a half years over here. I'm just starting a new career, I like managing my home and my finances exactly the way I want, I like cooking whatever meals I want, I like having whatever I want on the TV. I like having a superking bed all to myself. I like it being just me and DS.

I'm not opposed to relationships, I'm just not looking for one and I'm not willing to settle for anyone who comes my way. The next man in my life will have to be someone pretty special, and if I don't meet them then I'm fine with that. You're not alone OP, here's to the happy singles club