About this woman in the pub

[dontsufferfools]

Tonight after work the DH and I popped into our local to meet friends and catch up about the week.

We were laughing and joking when all of sudden a woman started shouting loudly "don't talk to your fucking mother like that" and "if I hear it again I will sort you out". I turned around and she was shouting at a boy no older than 5/6 cowering in his seat and she was in his face.

I was furious. Really furious.

Everyone in the pub stopped and stared but no one actually said anything. And neither did I.

Despite staring at her and wishing she would say something so I could have a quiet word.

I now recognise my behaviour was purely emotive, not necessarily helpful and could well have made the situation worse. But at the time I was so mad.

I now feel bad for the boy and am not sure I shouldn't have intervended.

So, AIBU to have kept my mouth shut as it was none of my business and I could have made the situation worse.

[StickTheDMWhereTheSunDontShine]

I think many of us would have done similar in a similarly extreme situation, starry.

Kids can be adult size at 12. They do a lot more damage when they get physically aggresive than at 4. Sometimes you need to lay the law down before you can even begin to address extremely dangerous behaviour, in a less hostile manner, that teaches them to find other outlets for anger. Kids that age often need to hear "yes, life can feel shit, but you don't make it better by hurting the people who want it to be better for you because other people truly care about the people you hurt and get angry about it"

[seasidesally]

maybe the child was pissed of his mother was in the pub again and spending money they dont have

ive seen this in my local,thankfully its shut down but this does happen