I scraped dh's car today

[kansasmum]

I live in a rural area and take ds to piano lesson in the back of beyond on the moor! Very narrow lanes.
Today I had to drive dh's car as mine is getting a fault fixed. I hate driving dh's car it has shit visibility. Anyway turning left out of VERY narrow lane there was a horse ( moorland pony) on the corner so I was driving slowly to avoid spooking pony. Turned left and didn't see a bloody rock til I hit it. Scraped all the sill on dh's car
Got home told Dh what I'd done and apologised profusely. Explained about trying to not to spook horse etc. The sensors didnt go off either probably rock was too low.

Anyway Dh was understandably annoyed. I said I would organise repair if he wanted.
Anyway after a frosty 30 mins he was ok but now for the past 2 hours he's been really sulky and barely replying. I asked him what was wrong but just got 'nothing'.
I get that he's annoyed. It was an accident I have apologised and said I'll sort the repair but he's just really moody with me.
We can afford to repair it without going through insurance.

Aibu to think he's being childish now by sulking?

[pictish]

Why was he embarrassed at the dealership? What a nonsense thing to have wounded pride over.

[MintJulip]

Glad he has got over it, shame he is embarrased at such sill things though, as if the garage cares.

[MaddyHatter]

Pan, no-one is saying you can't be annoyed about it initially, thats natural. I could have killed DH when the first time i let him drive my car we'd just spent 6k on and he managed to scrape the wheel trims.

The issue here is the SULKING.

Its not cool to sulk, suck it up and get over it. Shit happens. Most scratches can be repaired.

[AugustaFinkNottle]

If it were a dress that DP was offering to repair/replace at his expense, I don't think I'd be that bothered, Pan.

[PanGalaticGargleBlaster]

I love all the "it's just a car/thing" comments. The condition of the bodywork of a car is one of the single biggest factors in determining resale price of the vehicle. Obviously if we are talking about a twenty year old £200 rusty banger it's not such a big deal, but if it's a £35k newish motor it can be very costly to repair.

No doubt many people on here would not kick up a stink if your DP accidentally spills a glass of red wine all over your favourite garment and he tells you to stop sulking it's just a dress.

[BombadierFritz]

Glad your dh is happier. I'd be really pissed off if dh did this to my lovely new car, not bothered if he did it to the knackered old dented car. I love my new car. Some fucker has already scraped the side of it in a carpark. I wish people would treat other peoples property better but i guess thats supermarket car parking for you. Good you didnt clip the tyre at least - a blow out would be a real pain

[witsender]

I did this, on a newly converted camper van. His reaction was a "eeeesh, did you forget the corner?" (It is known to us!) And that was that. He was disappointed that the new toy was dinged, but it was an accident! (A previous girlfriend had actually crashed his vintage VW camper so he has practise I guess.)

It was an accident, of course he might be annoyed that his car has a ding but it can be fixed, the car isn't unusable and you didn't do it on purpose! He's being an arse.

[kansasmum]

Dh appears to have got over it! He is now teasing me about ' the dangers of inanimate objects on Dartmoor' ( in a nice way!)

He was a bit embarrassed at the dealership when they noted the ( rather large ) scrape before taking it in to fix the fault!
He told them I'd had a disagreement with a rock whilst trying to avoid a horse! So he has his sense of humour back.

I do feel bad, it's not like I don't care. But what's done is done.

(By the way Dh was very understanding when my mother was incontinent in his car 2 weeks ago causing the airbag sensor fault that he had to get fixed today)
We can laugh about it now.

[kansasmum]

Dh appears to have got over it! He is now teasing me about ' the dangers of inanimate objects on Dartmoor' ( in a nice way!)

He was a bit embarrassed at the dealership when they noted the ( rather large ) scrape before taking it in to fix the fault!
He told them I'd had a disagreement with a rock whilst trying to avoid a horse! So he has his sense of humour back.

I do feel bad, it's not like I don't care. But what's done is done.

(By the way Dh was very understanding when my mother was incontinent in his car 2 weeks ago causing the airbag sensor fault that he had to get fixed today)
We can laugh about it now.

[ThisWasCrownjewel]

Araiba are you OP's DH?

[WeeHelena]

He is overreacting I loaned out my car for a weekend and it came back with massive scraped to front side bumper.
Don't know who done it but
When they pointed it out I just oh god it's quite bad and then carried on with my day as normal.

[Amy214]

I crashed my dads car really badly one night, completely wrecked it, the drivers side was the worst hit the door wouldnt even open no one else was involved and i wasnt hurt (5 months pregnant at the time) after 5 minutes of sobbing i plucked up the courage to call my dad and he was fine with it, he said as long as you are ok the car can be replaced you cant. I still get laughed at to this day when we see a road sign that is lopsided but its fine.

[eeyorestails]

Bolshier isn't that different because a) it's your car b) it was the OPs fault where as yours was not. And c) she she scrapped a rock presumably at a slow speed not to spook the horse/pony. So likelihood of injury minute.


OPS said he's generally fine so in your circumstances I doubt very much her DP would be upset mostly about the car

[Palomb]

A knob!

I hope you took a picture

[BolshierAryaStark]

Yesterday a knob drove into the side of my car, it's a mess & whilst it wasn't my fault even if it had been DH wouldn't have sulked-it's an object & what's done is done.

[eeyorestails]

Mintjulip so the OP shouldn't have driven the car? As I said in a previous post. People said if you can fix it, then it's no problem. So what if DH ruined a room in your house, say the bedroom all possessions like clothes ruined. If you can afford to fix up the bedroom then people can't be pissed. Not even for s few hours

[MintJulip]

a car is usually a persons second most expensive purchase in their life (after a house)I don't think its unreasonable to be upset when someone doesn't take care of it and damages it

well its the nature of the beast, if you cant handle this car better kept in pristine condition in the garage.

[MintJulip]

Can't understand anyone really giving a shit about a car. It is like people being passionate about microwaves

Hilarious your right!

Hate people getting all uptight about crap that really doesn't matter. and if you have enough money to repair a scratch, then it really doesn't matter

Me too, mine extends to most material items, like CARPETS floors, surfaces anywhere in house.

I don't have and don't want anything I have to worry about. I have enough to worry about with general life, i don't want to add a cold hard floor to my list, or a non scratch able kitchen surface.

[KERALA1]

We were so relieved. None of us (her friends) had seen him smile once. The car incident revealed perfectly to my lovely friend how crap he really was (though she had to put up with her awful mother having a fit of vapours about her being "single at 29") ffs!

[MintJulip]

KERELA, your friend got lucky, Imagine if she had married him!

[MintJulip]

I can't bear this attitude to cars. It's just a thing - a thing that can be repaired or replaced. I'd want to tell your husband to grow the fuck up

I cant either.

My goodness DH would never talk to me again if he sulked out on me all the times I have scraped OUR car! But then He has done a few as well, and as long as the car still goes I could not give a shiny shite about a lump of metal.

I am sure If I ever got my dream car, I would be precious about it, for a few weeks but not to the point of sulking if DH scrapped it.

Ridiculous. Thankfully DH is not materialistic.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

It was bad luck this happened when you rarely drive his car. I would feel sick too but don't know if I would be in a huff for so long over it. These things happen!

If your DH thinks over a car's lifetime it won't suffer the odd bit of wear and tear he is deluded. It wasn't as if you were driving at excessive speed. Good he has calmed down.

If you said you'd clipped the gatepost or made a hash of reversing I think it would be different. Not every stone or pothole is immediately visible. Hedges and briars can make quite a mess. Not to mention stones flung up by other vehicles.

[Pseudo341]

God, I wouldn't like to be on the road with some of you lot - reversing into cars on your own driveway

I had newborn induced exhaustion and he'd parked much further over than normal due to having to get something else past I think. I'd had 6 years of being able to go straight back with no problem and I was on a bit of autopilot due to my sleep deprived state. I didn't think a full explanation was required for the thread but there's no need to be so rude. Human beings make mistakes don't you know?!

[KERALA1]

My friend was engaged to a man, lived with him for years. She had a car accident, unharmed but shaken up. Got home to tell him. He ranted and raved about the cost of fixing the car (her car ffs). Not one word of concern for her. She ended the relationship that night, met some 100x nicer and is now happily married with lovely dc.