Aibu over weekend away or are my friends?

[Underdogsbollocks]

Me and my friends are in our last year of uni and to celebrate the end of exams decided to book a weekend away in a holiday cottage. There's 20 of us altogether so from the start we knew it would be hard to find a weekend we could all make it. As it turns out the one weekend the other 19 can do is the one weekend I can't as I go away with my boyfriend on the Monday (could do fri-sun). So I said it was fine just go without me, and that was that. They finally got round to booking the cottage last week and were told they would now have to vacate by 12pm on the Sunday, not the Monday thus meaning I could go as I would be back home by Sunday night. The accommodation has cost each person £38 for the two nights so I asked the group if they would all be happy for me to pay them back £2 each so I could come and we all will have paid the same (well I would have paid an extra £2 which I'm not bothered about). Everyone was happy with this arrangement apart from two of the girls who have said I made my decision not to come and I need to stick to it as it is going to mess up how much everyone has paid. Now I could understand this if it meant I had to pay everyone £20 or something but it's not, it's £2. AIBU in thinking they are being unreasonable for kicking up a fuss over £2 each or AIBU thinking I should be able to go?

[Underdogsbollocks]

Wonder, don't worry I will be viewing them a lot differently from now on, quite a few of the others have told me they're glad they can come which shows I clearly wasn't being unreasonable.

[shouldwestayorshouldwego]

Let's hope they weren't taking a Maths degree!

[WonderingAspie]

I'd say they possibly have an issue with you. First they didn't want you to go and leave early because it messed up the kitty (um no it doesn't) and then they 'joked' that you couldn't join them when it turned out you could go. Not getting g their sense of humour. Now they are being deliberately obtuse about you paying everyone £2 each so you would have covered your share. Don't share a room with either one of them. I'd not trust them as best friends at all.

[roundaboutthetown]

At least there are 18 other people going with no weird agenda or dyscalculia.

[roundaboutthetown]

Yes, I would say so what, too - they don't sound like the sort of people that are worth being long term friends with. They sound more like the sort that have tried to embark on a manipulative campaign to exclude you.

[Squiff85]

They are being difficult! It sounds like an awesome weekend, have fun! x

[RockUnit]

They may well not like the OP, but so what? They're a small minority, and OP, I think now you've seen what they are like, you should just ignore their silliness.

[roundaboutthetown]

Are you sure they like you?! Odd way of showing it...

[Underdogsbollocks]

One is doing English Lit, the other events management so I suppose not numbers based, but they should still be capable of doing simple maths! Velvet, good idea I'm tempted to do something like that.

[VelvetDandelion]

Tell them you are going to the bank and get a load of £2 coins, then get a packet of envelopes and put £2 in with the persons name on in shiny glitter pens and give them out when you are there.

[ElementaryMyDear]

Are they mathematically challenged or something? They seem to be obsessed with messing up the calculations for sharing costs.

[Nocoffeenouppee]

I don't think they sound dumb but agree with pps that these girls don't sound like friends.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

Also interested to know what degree your 'friends' are doing as they don't sound like the brightest buttons in the pack.

[RockUnit]

Hopefully the other 17 people are more sensible! Enjoy your trips OP.

[TwentyCupsOfTea]

Not whether you do, but sometimes friends feel it - whether rational or not! You're right though - you are going have a great time!

[Underdogsbollocks]

Twenty, my boyfriend is back home so I only see him every 4/5 weeks whereas I see them most days so can't really see how I prioritise him. Oh well, I'm going now so I'm just going to try and forget all this happened!

[Orwellschild]

I had a couple of friends like this.

I don't anymore.

[TwentyCupsOfTea]

Do they feel you often prioritise your boyfriend? This will be the issue I think.

[CaptainCrunch]

They both sound a bit dim tbh and completely obtuse. It's as though they can't handle any deviation from their "plan".

Whatever happens, I hope you enjoy it. Hopefully neither of them will have an attack of the vapours because someone forgot to bring enough bread and milk and the kitty will be forever "off".

[RockUnit]

it is going to mess up how much everyone has paid.

Of course it isn't! It's not rocket science They don't seem very grateful for you doing the hard work of finding the cottage. Just go along anyway and have a great time

[Underdogsbollocks]

Okay maybe cottage wasn't the best word to describe it but that's how it is described on the website tbh, it's just a very big house in Shropshire. I had originally said I wouldn't go because the same two girls were making a fuss over leaving a day early as it would 'mess up' the food/drink kitty, even though I had said I was happy to put the same amount in as everyone else, I thought they were being a bit funny then but just ignored it. The only reason I can honestly think of is because it's my boyfriend I'm going away with, but even that doesn't make sense as I had originally asked them if they wanted to go and they turned me down, that's when I asked my boyfriend.

[ExitPursuedByABear]

I want to know where this cottage that sleeps 33 is............

[Cabrinha]

Before I read the similar views, I straight away thought it was to do with you declining to begin with.
I think it's quite odd to miss Fri-Sun because you're going away Mon. I'd have seen it as a snub and honestly thought "fuck you then". Especially as you were so involved in booking it - just seems weird. I don't get you at all - I doubt they did either.

That said, of course the only response I'd make is "so glad you can come now!"

[OnlyLovers]

Really funny joke.

They sound a bit thick, TBH, as well as not all that nice. I hope your other friends are nicer.

[Underdogsbollocks]

I messaged them privately and they both said they we're joking, although imo some of the things they said clearly weren't s joke. I have then gone on to ask if they are happy for me to pay everyone £2 when I see them next and they said they didn't understand check with everyone else. So I think the problem all along has been them not understanding how I would pay, despite a lengthy explanation last week. They still don't understand but have taken everyone else in the groups word for it that I will in fact have paid more than them.