to really feel like I'm not coping with my son

[pastajar]

-nc but a regular- (Also posted in chat but here for traffic)

My son is 20m and I hate to admit it but at times I dont like him.It feels from the moment he wakes up to dropping at nursery/my parents, all he does is whinge and paddy. No happy morning whatsoever. I pray for a smiley happy morning. It never happens. I almost breathe a sigh of relief when I drop him off. My mum says he occassionally paddies with her but not a lot and I havent asked at nursery but probably should. I am struggling to find joy in the time I am with him because he then paddies, cries and creates after work. So I get home at 515 tonight and he pretty much created from about 530 til bedtime 7.

I just dont get why he is such a misery at home. What have I done wrong? Why? Tonight I found myself shouting in frustration which I hated.

I feel so shit admitting how much I am struggling. I felt reassured yesterday morning when my husband even commented this morning that our son is hard work right now.

Please help.

[Jw35]

You have a busy lifestyle. Your goal in the morning is to get ready for work and nursery, his is to spend time with you and play. After nursery he's tired and grumpy and needs lots of attention. I'm guessing you're tired too? I'm a sahm with a 15 month old. Her best times of the day are 10-12 and 3pm-4pm. It's hard enough without working and needing to go places so I can only imagine how difficult it is to get the balance right

[namechangeformypost]

My son (2) can have 7 trantrums in 20 minutes! He is really frustrated because he can't talk
I identify with the kicking during nappy change, health visitor suggested talking to him and telling him what I'm doing, could you try this?
I also feel like every day is a huge struggle and just one battle so yanbu

[namechangeformypost]

'Their trantrums become hilarious' yet I was ridiculed for finding trantrums in public funny, MN is a minefield sometimes

[scampimom]

You are not alone OP!

[DieDeutschLehrerin]

My DS was the same. I remember telling my mum he didn't lovely me, he just enjoyed manipulating me. He's 4 now and still quite stressy but he is lovely and much easier to deal with. 1-2 is a difficult age. Even after 2 when other people's kids started kicking off, he was better (and I was more used to it). Get him outside, somewhere where he can run about safely as much as you can. That way I found I could have a break from the fighting. Hang in there, it will get better