DH - Tosser
Ok - so me and DH have been out tonight for a meal - couple bottles of wine. Result is we are now at home having had a disagreement and sleeping in separate rooms.
The issue being that he is constantly criticising my input with supporting the children's education. Let me explain. ...
When the children were toddlers I took a career break ( never went back to that career) because of the of working part time and DH working long hours and abroad at short notice. I was a SAHM with two young children whilst DH worked ( plus went out drinking / socialising with no regard of responsibility at home ).
One child had health problems which resulted in back and fore to hospital and therapists which I organised and attended appointments. I was always around for school picks up drop offs , school holidays , illness , you name it I picked up the pieces when DH was working etc. Did the usual helping reading etc at school etc
I also during this time did some voluntarily work and did evening classes to retrain in a more family friendly job ( I e term time working) and when children at school found employment which worked around school hours and term time.
Role on 10 yrs or so. Both children at secondary school , I am now in full time work with quite a responsible role ( due to my previous career and then subsequent voluntarily roles) . DH semi retired and works from home which means he had now taken over the role as main career and has main oversight of what the children are up to.
Re the children's education , with one approaching GCSE , I take responsibility for certain subjects and DH others. Whilst I was a SAHM I always got the children into the habit of doing homework straight away when they got home so the later part of the evening they could relax. This continue to this day even though I am not at home when they get home from school .
I have been criticised tonight by DH by having no interest and putting no input into the children's education. I got somewhat pissed off by this ( constant) criticism and tried to explain that I work full time and that he is at home and that 10 yrs ago the tables were turned. I got quite pissed off with him and said ( righty or wrongly) that I was obviously a crap mother despite being around in the children's early years.
At that point he walks out of the restaurant leaving me sit like a complete idiot !
We are now at home in separate rooms .
Need to rant , feel like DH is a complete tosser .. I may be ... I don't know
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TheChimpParadox · 12/02/2016 22:41
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