Ok I will start this by saying that I am a total book worm, we have a house full of books, I have always read with dd when she was small and I always have a book on the go myself.
DD however HATES reading despite the fact she has always had a good reading age. She struggles phonetically and has devised her own methods entirely. (She has some learning needs)
Anyway dds secondary school has a reading scheme. The school rule is that children must always have a library book in their bags all the time. At the start of year 8 dd went up a set to a new teacher. Following the year 7 teachers rules she went and asked the library staff what her level was and chose a book as she had always been told to do (they had done a test the week before)
As I posted at the time DD was 50 odd pages into the book and enjoying it which was within her level range and simple when they had their next literacy lesson. Dds new teacher saw the book and bollocked her.
Basically in front of the class shouted that she didn't know why she had chosen that book and when she was scoring 100% on tests then she could chose which books she wanted. DD was scared of this teacher anyway as she had heard she had called other classes stupid etc.
DD was having self esteem sessions at the time at school and real issues with feeling stupid, was asking to leave the school already and really not coping and is not the kind of child to get in trouble at school and so was heart broken to be shouted at in front of all the class.
She was left picking a lower level book which there were few choices and she had read them all at primary where her reading age was assessed as above average by the people who came out to assess learning difficulties. Ironically she did score 100% on the next test!
I spoke to school and said that if she required a lower level book I had no issue with this but was upset with how she had been left feeling given school knew of the issues she was having. The teacher made it all about the book saying that she wanted them to start from scratch so she could judge them which I had no issue with, it was made all about the book and levels which was not my issue.
Following all this dd will not read at all, She is meant to read two books per half term. She has read one since September, it has made her more determined not to read, the teacher is obviously not happy with this and has wrote a note in her planner. Her reading age has for the first time ever dropped and she is lower now than she was at primary school.
I buy her books all the time, I am always encouraging her to chose stories to buy. We have mounds of books. She never gets more than a few pages in and then leaves it. She cannot stand reading. I cannot physically force her to read and I am a bit at loss of what to actually do or what they want me to do when they cannot get her to read either.
AIBU?
To think I cannot physically force dd to read! Sorry long!
bangheadhere · 28/01/2016 21:20
Apologies if you have already done this, but if not:
Reading doesn't have to be a solitary activity. You could pick up a book she loves and read it together. Take it in turns to read a paragraph or a page, do silly voices, chat about what she thinks of the characters, and bucketloads of praise. Make yourselves hot chocolate and snuggle up together with a book. You could choose books a bit ahead of where she is now as you will be there to explain words or help her pick up on subtext. That might help spark her interest too. Key phrase "I love to hear you read".
An alternative is the reverse: if you have smaller DC or a friend does), ask her to help you out by reading with them or listening to them read and talking about the story - taking on a teacher role can do loads to boost confidence, and she will learn from it too. Again, bucketloads of praise.
As a teacher I usually leap blindly to their defence but on this occasion I'm struggling. 
for your dd.
Actually, itchy has a good point. The quiz requires you to know the story, so if you read it 'together' then she could do the quiz 
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Thank you, you are all brilliant. Is Accelerated Reading website the renaissance one? Yes I have debated reading it to her for her to do the quiz as clearly encouragement is not working. Think we will try that.
I am going to have to go back to senco again. I am actually a bit cross as a whole with them at the moment. I have had to fight every step of the way to get her allowed in the sen main room because she cannot cope with the yard and get help.
They identified her for a program, forgot to do her and then sent me a letter saying they were taking her off the program because she had done so well on it 
. She was the only child using the sen room in her year that was not taken on a trip (they left her behind in the sen room!) because she for some reason did not qualify. (I would have paid).
She has also commented the sen ticks on the register have disappeared this year. I think because she is quiet and mostly gets her head down even though she struggles and is finally making progress she is not seen as having sen but she did go up on the sen register on school action plus and an iep and has a diagnosed additional need so I do get annoyed.
She has been having packed lunches since year 7 because she cannot cope with the canteen for long periods and she could not cope with being in there in the noise for the massive amount of time it takes to queue and then eat. She was eating out in the rain in the year 7 yard for a while.
I have today found out there is a pass she could have had so she could have got her lunch at the front of the queue and eaten it in the sen room!
I am not bashing teachers what so ever. I am an ex HLTA, some of her teachers are amazing. She has an exceptional teachers in some areas who have massively turned her around.
But by God it is a slog to get the help she needs.
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