I went to visit a family friend who has recently lost her father. She lives in another town, so I drove and slept there.
We spent the evening drinking and reminiscing about her father. Her half brother was there with a friend. A very familial atmosphere. Lots of chatter. At leaving time the friend offered to walk us home. On arrival it got weird . It started with him insisting to come in. We politely declined. He got aggressive started talking all sexual and vulgar and tried to push his way into the house. We were pleading screaming for him to leave. He got his leg into the house, and his arm around the door and was jammed there, with both of us pushing the door closed. He must have been in agony bot refused to leave. It was scary. If we had been weaker, or alone he could have got in. He is a young man 20 ish. This lasted for about 10 minutes. My friend does not want to call the police . Her dad just died and I guess she has dynamics to consider. I think this man is a future rapist and deserves to be arrested.
AIBU?
Shaken and freaked out. Future rapist for sure
Chitterchatter1 · 30/12/2015 12:03
Chitterchatter1 - '.... your opinions have helped me form mine.'
That is a very beautiful thing to have written Chitter and I cannot tell you how glad - and proud - I am that you have reported him. I cannot speak for others but for me, it felt vital to write of my own experience in the hope it would help you see how very clearly the rest of felt we could 'see' the situation from the outside; likewise that his card would get marked felt beyond imperative.
MNHQ mailed me asking if I was sure I wanted my first post to stay up given the possible legal implications for me, given his trial has not yet occurred, and at that point my answer was yes given how much seemed at stake.
Given you have now, and so brilliantly, acted and reported him I have messaged them to ask them to now take it down but if it helped in the tiniest iota then I remain bloody glad I wrote it. Likewise, my vicarious pride in all the other women who posted is just immense; MN at it's very best.
{{{{hugs}}}} to everyone on here 
Agree - very hard to go against the opinion of your friends - you have done the right thing
Great post, Atomik
And well done Chitterchatter1
If you google his name, you might find some items from the local newspapers - they still report from the small courts...
Chitter
You may never hear of the woman/women who might one day may be grateful for what you did. But all the same you have done the nearest thing you can do to provide something of a female shoulder to lean on, in a time of crisis. It has the potential to counter any worries she/they that she/they will be perceived as hysterical, making a mountain out of a molehill, or not being entirely truthful. Which can be a massive boon in one of the more awful moments of life. So
Don't forget about you in this, Your sore muscles will get better soon. There is no hard and fast rule that says you will have an unavoidable, long, complicated emotional hangover from this. But it can take time to manage and come to terms with for some people, sometimes. Whatever tools and support you may need, depending on how you feel, know you deserve access to them.
Sometimes "he didn't actually get to hurt me that way, despite the evident intent, so really it's nothing" guilt/minimising can get in the way. It's worth being aware that it is not an uncommon stumbling block, just in case.
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