I realise how stupid this is, but have argued with DH and am really not sure if I have been awful. If it has any bearing I am pregnant and have been in and out of hospital with serious complications.
I spent most of today wrapping presents upstairs while DH played with children and watched Christmas movies with them.
I came down when finished, they had all just finished their evening meal, none saved for me. I was a little fed up so DH offered to make me something, I asked for a simple meal but was told it was a waste of ingredients for one person. I told DH not to bother then and went out to kitchen to make toast. DH told me he would do it, I said I was fine. He grabbed the knife in my hand, I refused to let go of it so he yelled at me and grabbed my wrist to force it from my hand. It hurt a lot and I was crying, so I trod on his foot to try and shock him into letting go of me. He swore at me and called me abusive and has stormed out. My wrist hurts but is not marked.
We are both wrong I know, but should I be worried about his temper and grabbing me? This is totally out of character for both of us.
AIBU?
Who is unreasonable
Snowflake98 · 22/12/2015 19:28
he was abusive. he physically hurt you. never acceptable, never your fault.
present wrapping.. did anyone notice op has pregnancy complications that required hospitalisation? quite likely she needs to rest. at least she was doing something while taking it easyish.
beware op. start an exit plan. you may not need it but it is worth it now he has crossed a line and hurt you. he may find that he will do it again. if you are lucky he might not. but I have concerns about him not cooking for you inthe first place and then refusing you your choice. (bet he did nothave toast!) be careful. 
Turning it on its head a bit- the op had a knife in her hand and was being arsey to her dh over a meal. Is it possible that he grabbed her wrists to restrain her as he felt threatened?
He has prevented her from hurting him with a weapon.
We only have the ops version here.
If someone who is angry with you grabs a knife and you feel it is a threat or danger then common sense tells you to back off and leave the room. If safety is your concern of course 
you dont try and wrestle it off them!
This thread is terrifying. Thank goodness for Jeanne, the first voice of reason.
This is not a 50/50 blame situation. This is the husband laying down the law about what it's worth his pregnant wife being allowed to eat and then physically hurting her.
The replies here are shocking. Mumsnet and AIBU wasn't like this six months ago. What's going on?! 
Goodnightdarthvader, I have absolute sympathy for OP but obviously I didn't make that clear enough to be understood by all.
I do not and never will condone any violence. In my previous post I suggested to OP that she make it clear that actions that occurred tonight should never be repeated, if dh apologises, to me that is not enough. This is a warning about possible future behaviour and I thought I made that clear.
OP I am glad you are putting it behind you (it was obvious to some, but clearly not all that it was a butter knife), however clutching your wrist til it hurt is still extremely wrong).
Times are stressful for both of you but he needs to understand basic clear boundaries and be warned that you will not stand for anything less.
Good luck and 
That's good news OP.
If you ever need help meal planning...... 
honeysucklejasmine
Every Mel is prepared to the taste of my health conscious GF, chocolate loving DD and easy going me. In fact my GF often finds recipes shed like me to cook and I source the ingredients and portion control them to take into account calorific necessity and taste.
I'm not in the frugal threads, but I do read them, there's some proper experts over there, I'm merely an amateur.
Anywho, I hope OP comes back and let's us all know what's happening.
I completely agree with Jeanne.
Snowflake, AIBU isn't the place for this thread. Too many people pile in looking to find fault, when what you need is support.
If I were you I would report my op and ask MN to move this thread to Relationships.
he had no right to lay a hand on you, and trying to get someone to let go when they are hurting you, is nothing more than self defence.
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