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AIBU?

To feel sorry for this bride to be?

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Utterlyclueless · 26/10/2015 10:29

Last week I went on an email account of mine I very rarely use to find 4 emails with the subject URGENT!! I obviously opened them they're for lady who is due to be getting married 20/11/2015 and apparently there is issues with her theme and 'love letters' whatever they are.

The e-mail says that they've tried contacting her mobile number multiple times but it goes straight to voicemail and they don't have the grooms contact number.

I feel really sorry for this lady and it's actually playing on my mind, I've rang the 'events planner' and informed them it's the wrong email address yet they emailed me again this morning saying they cannot continue to organise the wedding without her getting in touch by the end of this week!

I don't even have Facebook or anything or I would try and find her and let her know!

What do I do? I'm probably being completely unreasonable to be thinking so much about it!

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99percentchocolate · 26/10/2015 11:48

If you really want to get in contact with her then call the weddings and events manager for the venue. It's unlikely they'll give you any details but you can ask them to pass on a message to bride to contact this company urgently. That's all you can do. Unfortunately it could well be a scam - they take all sorts of forms now. I work in the industry and recently had somebody contact me with what looked like a relatively normal enquiry. We spoke several times about his requirements and then I asked him to pay a deposit (I only do this face to face as I also need to meet the client first). He wanted me to send my bank details to do it online "for my ease". I told him I couldn't do that as it needed to be in person and I never heard from him again. Apparently he had contacted a few other vendors too.

MrsBojingles · 26/10/2015 11:37

Sounds like phishing to me. I do some work in the wedding industry and its becoming more and more common.

MrsJayy · 26/10/2015 11:33

Aye this

Arfarfanarf · 26/10/2015 11:27

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Utterlyclueless · 26/10/2015 11:23

She was only going to see if Worcestershire had a selling page etc like Liverpool does and was going to say if anyone is having their wedding at this particular venue on 20/11/2015 please contact them as they're trying to contact you.

I'll tell her to leave it.

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 26/10/2015 11:12

OK, I've just re-read and see you don't have facebook so you might not be aware that it is not unheard of for abusive ex-partners to try and track people down on social media. Easiest thing in the world to say 'such and such is missing, we haven't seen her for 24 hours, we're devastated, please come home love, your family misses you - if anyone has seen this person please call xxx on xxx, please share'

I know it sounds over-dramatic, but it does happen, so you need to be very careful if looking for 'lost' people.

Utterlyclueless · 26/10/2015 11:09

I'm not sure how it could be a con but I'm just going to ignore any further e-mails now.

My sister wasn't planning on putting her name as it happens to be my name anyway so they would just say that's your sisters name, that would be how they got my email address its just my name.

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 26/10/2015 11:09

It's either spam or the 'bride' has ducked out of the wedding. Seriously, do you think even the most laid-back of brides would be out of contact to their wedding planner a month before their wedding?

You sound lovely. But honestly, you are over-thinking.

And please don't put it on facebook - supposing this person doesn't want to be found?

Arfarfanarf · 26/10/2015 11:07

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pearpotter · 26/10/2015 11:05

It's probably phishing. Ignore and delete.

Gileswithachainsaw · 26/10/2015 11:05

Surely stuff has been emailed before? they can't just have discovered the wrong address

and surely all numbers would have been given

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 26/10/2015 11:04

And no to spreading it on FB, in the unlikely event that it's real that would be a gross invasion of privacy.

Spotifymuse · 26/10/2015 11:04

It's probably spam.
And you ( and your mother) are definitely over thinking this.
Delete the emails and forget it.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 26/10/2015 11:01

Ynbu. You feel what you feel. But personally I would be losing any sleep over whether or not a stranger's wedding was going to pan out right or not.
I've got enough worries of my own.

scatterthenuns · 26/10/2015 10:59

My sister is going to try and spread the word on Facebook and Twitter.

My mum thinks maybe the weddings been called off and the lady doesn't want to face cancelling it.

I think you are over thinking this.

mmmuffins · 26/10/2015 10:56

My sister is going to try and spread the word on Facebook and Twitter.

You've done all you need to do. Reply to the email to reiterate that you are not the bride, and then leave it, really. Don't go spreading details of someone you know nothing about on social media.

Shutthatdoor · 26/10/2015 10:52

This screams spam to me.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeG0es · 26/10/2015 10:47

I suspect spam, I simply can't believe they wouldn't have an address. They haven't got a premium rate phone number I hope.

MrsJayy · 26/10/2015 10:41

It just doesnt sound right i too am trying to think of a way it could be a con i think what a pp said about the bride enquiring and they are touting for bussiness. Is it easy to get email addresses wrong? I would just block the emails and forget about it a bride would contact her own services surely

MaidOfStars · 26/10/2015 10:41

The venue may kniw who the supplier of the love letters are (I had to give my venue a supplier list). Could you then contact the supplier to find out who the bride is?

I'd be the same OP. Last week, I phoned Argos to let them know that they'd mistakenly sent me a customer resrvation number and I was worried the actual customer would miss out.

Utterlyclueless · 26/10/2015 10:37

I'm in Liverpool the venue is in Worcestershire

My sister is going to try and spread the word on Facebook and Twitter.

My mum thinks maybe the weddings been called off and the lady doesn't want to face cancelling it.

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Shockers · 26/10/2015 10:36

Oh, they did have her number.

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AliceInUnderpants · 26/10/2015 10:35

Oh, I would be worried too about them not being able to contact her. I would assume the bride would contact the planner when she hasn't heard from her though?

I'd be happy to put the word out on Facebook if you have a name, location.

fuzzywuzzy · 26/10/2015 10:35

How does a bride to be not speak to her events planner pretty much constantly in the final run up to her wedding?

I'm trying to figure out how this could be a con.

MrsJayy · 26/10/2015 10:35

Oh you did phone them sorry

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