Neighbor i HATE has signed for my parcel

[lockex]

This man has harassed me and made me feel uncomfortable since i moved in here with constantly knocking on my door, i complained to the landlord who have told him NOT to knock on my door and to leave me alone.

came back from work to find He has signed for my parcel
WHY would you sign for A parcel that belongs to a neighbor who has complained about you harassing them, and i only complained about 3 days ago so WHY?!
This man a few days ago when i left my flat and drove around the corner, i pulled up to answer my phone, i then saw him at the end of the road looking at my car, he then walked off and came back and PEAKED around the corner.
i see him outside just staring at my car and then he turns around and looks up at my window and stares.
He is so creepy!
This is really stressing me out, i have told amazon they need to collect the parcel from him as i will NOT be in ANY communication with him.

He is absolutely OBSESSED with me!
He was told not to ring my door so now he has signed for my parcel so he thinks i have to ring his door
He also signed the WRONG name, not even his name and YES it WAS him who signed for it, amazon have CONFIRMED

(EXAMPLE: he signed his name as TONY when his name is TOM)

i dont like him even knowing my full name he is so creepy
so im asking SHOULD I GET THE POLICE INVOLVED
im sick of this shit i JUST WANT TO BE LEFT ALONE!!!!!

[DoorsAndWater]

Blimey, OP is getting some stick!
I personally would also be on edge at this, and I'm sorry to hear about your anxiety
From the line of work I do, I would actually advise calling 101 and registering this so police are aware. If this man is genuinely making you feel uncomfortable then it is worth a call, you have made it clear that this attention is unwanted and he has continued. It might be that the police are aware of him, for the reasons you have stated here, or it might be that he is vulnerable himself, and they may be able to put a vulnerable person referral in to the relevant service. Whatever, the reason, you shouldn't have to feel threatened/worried in your own home. He may or may not be fully aware of what he is doing, but either way, it needs sorting so you can continue to live in your home without feeling so anxious

[Totality22]

You are a lucky bunch to have never had an odd (and sometimes scary) neighbour.

I had a horrible time with my old neighbour, he had mental health problems which resulted in a lot of bizarre behaviour - refusing his carers entry / allowing all the local scallies in to smoke weed in his place / rubbish in the communal hallway. He was always polite bless him but his behaviour was so unpredictable.

I often felt unsafe and I lived with my DP.

So I completely sympathise with the OP. I think people are being incredibly harsh...

[ilovesooty]

You sound more than normally anxious to me.

Perhaps you should find an alternative method of parcel delivery in future.

[redbinneo]

This thread is turning a bit ageist.

[ListenWillYou]

I'd ask someone to go with you to collect the parcel. I would really try not to appear too nervous or angry in front of him. Try to appear totally casual. If he is a weirdo then showing him that he is getting to you may make it worse. Creepy blokes get off by creeping people out.

I think your worry about him signing with the wrong name is completely misguided. The chances of anyones signature being able to be read accurately on one of those hand held devices the delivery guys (and women ) carry is very slim and the chances of one of the delivery guys taking the time to listen carefully to someone's name is also close to zero. I'd be more supposed of they got the name right.

In future it might be best if you had parcels delivered to your nearest parcel collection point. Mine is in the local corner shop which is open all hours.

It's impossible to say if he is 'creepy' from your description. Everything you describe could be perfectly normal non-creepy behaviour or it could be the behaviour of a weirdo.

[swallowed]

I do think the PEAKING is odd.

[SrAssumpta]

VICTIM BLAMING?!

[ImperialBlether]

Yes, I said that, SrAssumpta! The OP said he was harassing her and people said she was paranoid, he was lonely, she should be nice to him etc.

What happened to "We believe you"?

[Capricorn76]

Sympathies OP. If you're already prone to anxiety his behaviour will make it so much worse. I wouldn't like this.

Also not all old men are nice, he may have always been creepy. Young creepy people will grow into old creepy people. I've twice been assaulted by 'overly friendly' old men. One was a neighbour who hugged me and felt me up when I was about 8 laughing in a jovial manner as he did so. I never told my parents because I never thought they'd believe me (I even second guessed myself for ages!) - he always seemed like a laughing jokey harmless old lonely man to everyone.

[HowD]

OP you are right to ensure boundaries.

[etKrusTe]

I agree with capricorn.

Also, a level of creepiness that was acceptable fifty years ago when these creepy old men were young men, they don't even understand that that's wrong now. so old does not = good, and old does not = harmless.

find some of the posts here very naive.

[SavoyCabbage]

This happened to me about ten years ago with Amazon. I contacted customer services and they resent the parcel.

[Janethegirl]

Any way you can get deliveries elsewhere ie work or a friends house?

[CarbeDiem]

It doesn't matter the age of the guy nor if he's lonely - that's not OP'S business.
If she finds his behaviour unsettling, uncomfortable or scary then no way should she accept it.
Yanbu OP - it would have me on edge and crank up my anxiety levels.
do try to sort out delivery issues for the future to stop this happening again.

[squoosh]

I'm sure we've all met people who've left us feeling unsettled even if when recounting their actions to someone else it wouldn't sound particularly creepy.

[maddening]

You can get stickers from Royal Mail to stick on your door asking not to deliver to neighbours and going forward leave instructions not to deliver to neighbours on your order.

[SilverNightFairy]

Op, you are under no obligation to be friendly to any who makes you feel uncomfortable. I would call Amazon, explain the situation and request they resend the package. Read Gavin DeBecker's The Gift of Fear. Women often feel societal pressure to be polite to people at the expense of their own safety.

[RhiWrites]

Can't believe some of these responses. He's not a nice old man doing a favour, he's a creepy harassing man who's trying to get the OP into his flat when she doesn't want to go.

Getting amazon to recover the parcel is the right move.

[MissDuke]

Op I agree with previous posters, ask amazon to resend and inform the non emergency police number. Hope it all settles down again for you. Does he get many visitors?

[totty12mum]

Have a similar issue. Neighbour over the road would accept parcel then come round shouting about the inconvenience and how inconsiderate I was. Now add special delivery instructions not to leave at that house and note on door to postie not to deliver to that house. Seems to work. Get someone else to collect, if there's any nonsense walk away and report to amazon.

[mimishimmi]

YANBU at all OP. Old men can be very creepy and think that somehow they have a free pass to act like this because of their age. I used to hate it when I'd show up at my grandfather's retirement villa and sometimes, especially if he knew I was coming alone, he'd be walking around in his underwear and cracking semi-lewd jokes. Hated it and he'd stare at women too. Yes, he was lonely but there was a bloody reason for that!!

Just because he's lonely doesn't mean you are obliged to entertain him every, or any actually, time he knocks on your door. He could take up hours and hours of your time at best if he's harmless or, worse, see your kindness as a 'come-on'. I'd be reporting the harassment to the manager of your block of flats.

[chippednailvarnish]

Welcome to MN OP.

Interesting first post.

[SorchaN]

Sometimes people are harassed by their neighbours. It can be distressing when that person won't back off when asked. People who are being harassed should report the harassment to the police if they think they're in danger, or if the nature of the harassment is less imminently threatening, they can talk to the CAB about other ways of dealing with it.

Loneliness is not an excuse for harassing people.
No one should be expected to put up with harassment.

[governmentworker]

Do you know any of your neighbours in the other flats? If you're fairly new, maybe you could get a bit of background from them e.g. if they've had similar problems and how/whether they were resolved, whether the previous tenant in your flat had similar issues etc, and they might be able to help you e.g. go with you to collect the parcel.

[drudgetrudy]

Yes-this thread is becoming ageist in two ways. Firstly the patronising "he's only a lonely old bloke" and secondly the "old men can be very creepy-they think their age lets them get away with it". Unless someone has cognitive decline age is no excuse for behaviour. I think people should just take OP's word for the fact that she finds this man creepy and should feel free to avoid him. Agree to request in future that parcels are not delivered to his address.
Creeps come in all ages, colours, shapes and sizes.