i have a DD (15months) I had a very up and down pregnancy with DD and and i worked literally until i gave birth (did a 15hr shift the day before i went into labor and then the next day went into labor during my lunch) by about 34wks I was in a rut of going to work, sometimes picking DS up and then going home and passing out in bed as soon as DP could take over. This was pretty much expected, I gave birth to DD and went back to work when she was just weeks old (financial reasons), and we found an ok work life balance that we could live with. Our sex life went down the pan, as also expected but from pretty early on(when dd was a couple months) I tried to salvage it. tmi warning, a couple of months after dd was born I went out and bought some suggestive underwear, tried to woo DP and he burst out laughing and told me to just go to bed :( lots of these sort of things happened and I also tried it on with him almost daily (basically whenever the kids were sleeping and we had nothing else demanding our attention!) rejected. every single time. itd be "im tired" "my back hurts" etc... then my laptop broke, work includes running the work fb page so need access to a laptop, i borrowed dps. Btw DD was bang on 4 months that day. when i clicked on the search bar the most visited web page came up. it was a porn site but not the usual, it was one where you interacted and talked to and could instruct the women on the other end of things (via webcam, i doubt dp cammed back because we have no webcam but still) I went onto this site and scrolled through the cam chats on there, no idea which ones dp watched but still. dear god im crying about it again! on these videos/cams I didn;t see a single woman on there with a hair out of place nevermind one with hairy boobs (ta very much, hormones) stretchmarks and just general flab :(he was on this site at least every other day btw. im not going to lie this destroyed my self esteem, to this day I cannot walk past a mirror unless i walk very fast and am fully clothed, ive been unable to use a full body mirror since then and have cried myself to sleep over it too many times :( Im starting to hate him for doing this to me and for rejecting me like he did, weve tried talking about it but nope hes about as useful as a chocolate teapot!! "its only porn" I didnt fall down with the last shower of rain if he wanted porn he'd have gone to a porn site,not to a sexy chat site. Would it be unreasonable for me to walk out now, about stuff that happened a year ago?
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