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only been split up two weeks and he's already back in touch with his ex :(

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fedupofthisshit · 17/07/2015 19:04

Hi All, I feel like I am being unreasonable with this and I know it shouldn't but it's really upset me. Posted about a week ago about ex and I splitting up and all the problems caused by it. It was me who initiated the split as I just couldn't bit with him any more with everything going on and then things went massively downhill from there. We've been split up for about 2 weeks now and I've just found out he's back in touch with his ex. He stopped talking to her when we were together (his choice) as the only 2 reasons they ever spoke was 1) when she wanted money and 2) when one or both of them wanted a shag. Now he's back in touch with her already. They're only chatting about normal things so far but I can imagine where he wants it to end up :( They're chatting really publicly on his facebook, I know I should delete him but finding it hard to fully make that break. I know I have no right to be upset about this but it just seems really shit that we've been split up less than a month and he's already out looking for someone. Just feeling a bit down about it all really.

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SolidGoldBrass · 18/07/2015 01:29

Sorry, confused - are you going to renew the tenancy on this flat and move back in there? Or have you simply found another home? If it's your flat, and you intend to carry on living in it you need to throw him out - and do so forcibly if he won't go (I don't mean kick him bodily out of a window but serve notice and/or call the police to remove him).

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TheDowagerCuntess · 18/07/2015 04:55

Deleting him off FB is the right thing to do.

The fact that he immediately noticed you'd done it, and sent you a torrent of texts says it all.

Onwards and upwards.

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FaithLoveandHope · 18/07/2015 08:48

Sorry for the confusion solid I'm not renewing the contract, I've not found a new place but am staying with friends whilst I look. I'd already handed in my notice before we split as I wanted to move but didn't manage to find somewhere in time. I think I was hoping we'd sort things out between us and could look for a place together but we couldn't and for my own mental health I had to leave.

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Fedupofthisshit · 18/07/2015 08:50

Sorry for name change halfway through thread! Was trying to keep my relationship issues separate but in my half asleepness forgot to change my name back!

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ArmfulOfRoses · 18/07/2015 10:23

He's pissed that you've deleted him?!

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ClarkeyCat · 18/07/2015 11:30

Well he needs someone to pay for him to go to the pub all day doesn't he?! And support his child!

OP you are well out of it. I only feel sorry for the next one.

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JohnFarleysRuskin · 18/07/2015 11:43

he can smash the hole out of whoever he likes.

Wow. That's someone who hates women right there.

OP, delete and move on. It's tough but as PP have said some people will do anything to avoid being single.

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PoundingTheStreets · 18/07/2015 11:48

If you have no DC together, you have no reason to stay in touch. The "we'll remain friends" approach only works if the split is mutually agreed, amicable, and everyone has behaved respectfully. It usually helps to have had a little bit of time go by, too. None of that applies in this case. He needs the door shutting on him.

Rather than think you've been 'got over' so easily, try to think of it as a luck escape. His current actions more than prove that you've dodged a bullet. You should be congratulating yourself on having the insight to see, and the gumption to act, before finding yourself saddled with a weak, emotionally incontinent man.