to think this is rude

[dejarderoncar]

I am a 70 year old lesbian with various physical problems. For many years I have rented a separate part of my house to a friend who is in her fifties. Friend has a new boyfriend, but also has elderly family staying with her at present.
I was away for one night recently, and said to her that she and bf could sleep in my room in my part of the house to give them a bit of privacy. They knew I would be back the following day, and know I am very rarely out late.

I returned the following day at 7.30pm to find them both in bed in my home. They made the excuse that they 'didn't think you'd be back yet', and slunk away like teenagers, but with no apology.

I have just changed all the bedding. AIBU to think that as I was kind (stupid)enough to lend them my bed, they could have left in good time, and stripped the bed ready fo me, as they had undoubtedly been having sex on my sheets?

[FarFromAnyRoad]

Definitely a wind up and certainly not worthy of a place in classics. Straight into the 'rubbish troll' bin would be more suitable.

[Pumpkinpositive]

Maybe there was no "heterosexual fucking", ewww or otherwise?

Maybe they had a nice evening/day watching TV and relaxing?

[RobbStarksBitch]

I'm at the OP's sheer double standards in regards to attitudes towards others sexuality. No actual advice as I'm just stunned really.

[UterusUterusGhali]

I might change my user name to BuiscuityEyeroll

[Sleepyhoglet]

Why didn't you offer your bed to the relative staying?

[musicalendorphins2]

YWNBU. I wouldn't want to have to sleep in soiled sheets either. Plus, the bed should have been as you left it and the gone at 7 pm. Give some people an inch, they take a mile.

[DumbledoresKnobblyWand]

Yeah they should have changed your sheets. Did you want them to do it in front of you, though, or would you have minded if they asked you to leave the room before they did it? You caught them in bed. It's not like they had hours to change them.

Why do you find the thought of hetero sex so disgusting? Are you heterophobic?

[ohtheholidays]

YANBU they were though and they both sound old enough to know better.

You were extremely kind to let them use your bed,but don't ever let them use it again.

It's disgusting that they didn't change the sheets,they were taking the mick.

[NoisyOyster]

Your sexuality makes no difference to the event. If you think sex is ewwwww why let them stay in your bed if you thought that's what they'd be doing?

They should have vacated and changed the sheets though

You need to stop being so defensive to other people on here though

[Stratter5]

Hmmm

[CrystalHaze]

OP is a wind up.

Yeah, you've got a point:

OP: I'm a lesbian, AIBU about this thing that happened?
Some other people: What's being a lesbian got to do with it?
OP: How DARE you question why my sexuality is relevant?! Concealed homophobia!! But also, eeeeewwewee heterosexual sex!

[ImADonkeyOnTheEdge]

You are bang on the button there QueenBean

[QueenBean]

Your comments about heterosexuals are disgusting. If any poster came on and said that homosexual fucking was disgusting they'd be, quite rightly, torn apart.

Show some damn respect the other way around.

[ConsulateMenthol]

Are her elderly parents approximately the same age as you, OP?

[ConsulateMenthol]

Why were they in bed at 7pm when she had her elderly parents staying? Presumably she doesn't see them frequently if visiting necessitates them staying over. Seems pretty rude to let them traipse up to see her and for her to then bugger off to bed for an all day shagging session.

[DorotheaHomeAlone]

Yes, they were rude. If you have sex in someone else's bed then you change the sheets after. Gay, straight etc is irrelevant and your language is pretty offensive in that front. You might want to examine your own prejudices before accusing others.

I can see why you mentioned your age though if that makes it trickier for you to change sheets. Also for context, I would have imagined you all as students based on your flatmate's grubby behaviour!

[messyisthenewtidy]

I understand that you wanted them out way before 7.30pm but what else did you expect them to do if you lent them your bed for privacy...play scrabble?

[Pagwatch]

Classics?

Really?

[Pagwatch]

They should have changed the sheets but surely you lent them your bed in order to facilitate the very fucking which you now see to find so repellent.

So I think you are on a sticky wicket really.

[mrsdavidbowie]

What a bizarre thread.

[NRomanoff]

Personally I don't want anyone shagging in my bed, of any sexuality. So on that yanbu.

Yabu over the 'ewww hetrosexual fucking' comments. I would also say Yabu to comparing your identity to someone mentioning their dh. My dh is my dh, not part of my identity.

[catlovingdoctor]

This has GOT to go into classics!

[SoldierBear]

Deja, yes they were really rude.
Any chance your friend will come round later to apologise?

[steff13]

Well, since you offered your bed and didn't give them a specific time that you planned to return, I can't find that they were all that rude to be in the bed. However, they should have changed the sheets. Maybe they were too embarrassed? Did you say, "hey, change the sheets before you go?"

[GeorgianaDevonshire]

OP is a wind up.