To report this

[Blueberrymuffint0p]

Dd has come home from school saying a boy dropped a green bean in the dinner hall. The t.a said 'pick that up or I'll make you eat it like last time'. Boy picked it up and ate it.

Dd has no reason to make this up but she's 6 and could had mis heard /mis interpreted the situation.

Would you report it? Who to?

[thatsshallot]

Hmm OP where are you roughly, London/Surrey borders. We have an awful TA at out school that makes kids do this :(

[dreamcometrue]

When I was at primary school the dinner ladies would force you to eat everything. One girl hid her sandwiches in her flask, all smushed up. She was made to eat the soggy mush even though she was crying and heaving. My mom believed me when I told her and reported it to the school. Op I would have a quiet word with the teacher.

[momieplum]

I agree with littlejessie.

However, something similar happened to us (we saw an exchange between a member of staff and another child when we were late after a doctor appointment one morning) and I spoke to the relevant person. However, the next time I had feedback re my child there were a couple of slightly negative comments for the first time. I do hope the two things were not related.

[momieplum]

sorry, that was not very well written, hope it makes sense. I agree that you should mention it to the appropriate person at school.

[Blueberrymuffint0p]

update I saw my friend and neighbour this morning, told her what dd had told me but without naming names (this is the only person I've told and I won't be telling anyone else). She said 'was it Mrs x?'. She guessed correctly. She told me this particular t.a has been disciplined before for something very similar but more serious so I will report the incident.

I feel bad that I ever doubted my dad's version of events-she might be 6 but she's not stupid.

[Blueberrymuffint0p]

*dd not dad

[ceebie]

Blueberry, my view is that it's fine to seek clarification about a situation. If there is a reasonable explanation, then you can thank the school for reassuring you and also enabling you to explain to your daughter what actually happened (otherwise she might be concerned that the TA might treat her in a similar way). And of course if the TA is found to be out of line, then you are certainly doing the right thing by reporting it.

I once raised a concern with nursery. The member of staff concerned was immediately able to offer a very good explanation which I was very happy with - and I was very impressed at her professionalism in the way that she dealt with my concerns.

[Goldmandra]

She told me this particular t.a has been disciplined before for something very similar but more serious so I will report the incident.

Which explains exactly why we should let schools know when our children say things that concern us. It may be that the only reason this is being dealt with is that other parents have acted on information shared by their young children.

[littlejessie]

Just catching up. Interesting to see DD's observations have been given some credence and you're going to mention it to the school OP. That little boy will be glad of it I'm sure .