To feign illness to duck out of special family party

[PearTree201]

I'm 6wks pregnant and it's my SIL's 40th birthday party coming up. They're having it at their house.

No one knows (about me being pregnant) and I want to keep it quiet for a few weeks yet. I'm not feeling the best and it would definitely raise suspicions if I turned down a drink as I have never been known to do this before!!

I don't particularly want it coming out at the party since we'll be celebrating her special day and because we want to wait a while. But my DSis will be upset and probably annoyed if we don't turn up to SIL's party.

WIBU to pull a sickie or any suggestions of how I could hide this??

[Spog]

I wouldn't go and i would feign illness.
Fuck it. it's easier that way and much less stress.

[Wishful80smontage]

Yes I did the fake drinking really no one noticed if I'd have uttered the word antibiotics the game would have been up! Everyone's too busy getting drunk to notice what your doing plus house party perfect to wander off put drink down/tip drink away. I went to 2 big bbq's and no one noticed.

[Findingthissohard]

The time I didn't get away with it was when I used the antibiotics for tooth problems.

I got away with it when I pretended to sip and held my glass. Good luck!

[shattered77]

I would definitely try and find a way to go home early and leave them all to it. When I was pregnant 8 o'clock was a late night!

[PearTree201]

Thanks for the congratulations Very excited!

Loving how sneaky everyone is and how you've all managed to get away with it!

[Chillyegg]

Congratulations!
Just nurse one "drink" all night. People wont notice.

[yellowdinosauragain]

Drinking not driving

[yellowdinosauragain]

I found out I was pregnant just before bil and sil got married .We didn't want to share and steal their thunder so I drank 'gin' and tonic, aka just tonic. Whoever anyone other than dh offered me a drink I either said I felt a bit pissed so was going to sit out this round, or asked for a softy which I got away with as it was a really hot day. Given that the rest of the time I had a 'gin' I got away with that.

During the meal dh and I put our wine glasses next to each other, he drank from both and I pretended to sip it without drinking any. No one noticed.

People are less observant than you think if it seems as though you're driving since if the time you can pull the hungover card too to explain if you're having less or a different drink than normal. And once everyone else is a bit drunk they won't notice

[NiceBitOfCheese]

A friend got pregnant just before she left for a new job, and told no-one at that point. Her usual is vodka and cranberry. At her leaving do she always had a glass in her hand, and was seen to be drinking - but it was just plain cranberry, no vodka.

She ran round getting drinks for everyone else, so that nobody got to buy her a drink. Lots of high spirits a glass always in your hand ... no-one will notice. You'll draw more attention to yourself by not going.

Congratulations, by the way!

[threestars]

I used to say I was on a diet, so that covered the no alcohol and the fussy eating (e.g. no pate etc)

[PearTree201]

Thanks for the tips everyone.. Will mull it over some more but looks like I'll be going with the always having a glass in my hand and seeing how it goes..

I don't think anyone will cotton on that I'm hiding a pregnancy when I've always got a glass of wine on the go.

[Rainbunny]

One thing you could do if it's generally known that you are trying for a baby is simply to say that you have cut out alcohol and caffeine to increase your chances of success "going all in". Close to the truth and no one can argue with that.

[Fleecyleesy]

Have a glass of wine in your hand. Periodically get your dh to out some in his glass or pour a bit into a flowerbed. Nobody will know you aren't drinking as you have a drink in your hand!

[Trooperslane]

Half glass is the way forward.

A friend of mine got her DH to fill up brown beer bottles (she always drank Budweiser) with water.

[SolidGoldBrass]

Go with the migraine - or hangover, if everyone knows you don't get migraines. Claiming to have a 'bug' might freak out anyone with a delicate immune system (especially if anyone else is also a few weeks pregnant and keeping it quiet )

[ThroughThickAndThin01]

Go. Have half a glass of wine with you at all times. Just don't drink it. The half a glass is essential; people don't necessarily top you up, and it's noticeable if you always have a full glass.

People will notice less than you think.

[Sparkletastic]

I'd go with the raging cystitis excuse

[PearTree201]

I normally drink wine, DP drinks beer then goes onto vodka. I drink vodka too which is easy to disguise as a soft drink but not so easy when everyone is hovering in the kitchen and pouring you drinks or when I'm trying to not poor vodka into my glass.

Hopefully everyone will be too steaming to notice what I'm doing..

Worried about the non alcoholic wine now in the normal wine bottle! There aren't many other wine drinkers, mainly my DSis who normally sticks to her own then goes onto vodka.

[MaryBerrysLostCherry]

Antibiotics is code for pregnant. DH has had the snip and people who know this still assume I'm pregnant if not drinking. Stealth drinking but not the alco free bottle as someone else will try it and old felix will be out of the bag. what do you both usually drink?

[jorahmormont]

There is genuinely one antibiotic where you can't drink. I had a southern comfort and lemonade while on metronidazole a couple of years ago and was so poorly as a result of it I thought I was going to end up in hospital.

I'd go with the "fake drinking" excuse though.

[Happyringo]

I did this last year. I could never say I wasn't drinking, so we decanted some alcohol-free wine into a bottle and I drank from that. It was a bit touch and go when my brother poured himself a glass and almost spat it out as it was so vile lol but we got away with it!

[LokiBear]

Buy a bottle of wine, screw top if poss. Empty it out and rinse out. Fill with non alcoholic wine and take to the party. No one will be any the wiser

[WinterOfOurDiscountTents15]

When people give lots of excuses, thats when its obvious. Simply accept a drink and hold it in your hand, nobody pays attention to whether you are actually drinking it.

You can drink on almost all antibiotics, the minute any woman throws that one around they might as well just shout that they are pregnant.

[Rainbunny]

The one time I had a urinary tract infection and was on antibiotics (and strict instructions not to drink alcohol anyway as it's acidic and makes your pee even more painful) everyone kept asking me if I was pregnant. Really annoying since I didn't really want to share about my infection, but if you're not shy you could go with the UTI excuse!

[Kbear]

say you've had a migraine earlier in the day and you're not drinking in case it comes back then you can leave early cos the migraine came back....!