AIBU to make dd 13 take some exercise?

[YellowFern]

Dd is nearly 13. She likes sedentary activities rather than physical. She is a beautiful sturdy girl with a womanly body at a young age and is heading for being overweight. I can already see it in her face that the Xmas indulgence is starting to make her put on weight. We have quality home cooked food but she wants seconds and bigger portions. And to stay in And watch Xmas films and not even go on a walk with the dog. I have tried to explain in a kind and supportive way about making healthy lifestyle choices. It mostly falls on deaf ears, however sensitive I am. I was the same at her age so I am very aware that I don't want to contribute to ' body issues'.

She is skiing with the school over new year. If she puts on any more weight her ski trousers won't even fit her and that will upset her.

AIBU to make her come on long country walks with us?

[Viviennemary]

I think it can be counter productive. I loathed walking when I was young and mostly try and resist walking anywhere except when I think gosh I must have some excercise. I think trying to get her into a more fun physical activity would be better.

[DisgraceToTheYChromosome]

Got the tshirt. Your DD, like mine 5 years ago has been given a completely different balance and movement map, along with her brain being hosed with mood altering chemicals.

So she tries not to move because all these new bits wobble about disconcertingly, and she overeats because it gives her a rush. This is what DD told me herself.

Counselling worked for us, nothing else did. 17 stone at 16, 10st 7 this morning at nearly 19. There is hope.

[QTPie]

Best thing is not to "make" her exercise, but to find things that she enjoys and will want to do (swimming, cycling, dance, judo, karate, climbing, fencing, Tae kwando, riding etcetc)

[specialsubject]

indeed - any movement counts.

but she needs to do something. Otherwise she won't be fit enough to enjoy her skiiing holiday and that means it will be wasted. It's very late to do anything now, she should have started getting fit for the holiday weeks ago. Being unfit raises injury risk, even at 13.

[notagainffffffffs]

Say no to seconds for starters. Try to cook exactly what you need or freeze extras asap

[PerpetualStudent]

I was a chubby girl in my teens, you couldn't have dragged me screaming to any active/exercise activities.
When I got to about 17, of my own violation I wanted to do something about the extra jiggle & joined our local gym, over the next 3-4 years I got increasingly into it & by the time I finished uni was slim, healthy & happy.
Personally I would have reacted very badly to my mum making comments on my weight & encouraging me to exercise, however well intended.
So I would suggest leaving it with your DD, she may well approach you in her own time & ask for advice in becoming more active.