I'm hoping I can explain this properly.
I was chatting to a friend today, who is very pro home birth, about the news the other day recommending more home births. I said I remembered there being a conversation on MN a few months back about the same topic and there was a general opinion that all women wanted to experience the same sort of birth - as in, an intervention free, probably significantly pain relief free, vaginal birth.
I then said that was quite honestly the last thing I wanted to ever experience. I had 2 days of labour before having an emcs and I hated it; I will fight tooth and nail for an elcs next time. I then said that if I was in a position where I knew that an epidural or spinal wouldn't work and so I had a choice between a vaginal birth with only G&A and pethidine, or an elcs under a general anesthetic, I would chose the later (if there ever was a choice).
My friend was incredibly surprised by this. She thought that everyone wanted to 'experience' birth and that everyone hoped for a vaginal birth. Which got me thinking about other threads I've read on MN and it struck me that's probably the general assumption. And that that expectation might drive maternity planning. Which probably isn't an ideal thing - the ideal thing being to support women to try and have the birth they want, whether they is a home birth, epidural, or elcs.
Does anyone agree?
AIBU?
to think there's an expectation that all women want the same experience of birth?
ScarlettOHaraHamilton · 06/12/2014 18:29
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