to think that working

[yorkie84]

One year above you year does not necessarily make you scholarship material. I have a friend whose ds has been working at one level above his age in a couple of subjects. Friend is talking about applying for a scholarship to an independent school.
Aibu to be a bit concerned about this as I fear she and her ds will be disappointed if unsuccessful. And that there will be many candidates with greater academic ability.

[winterhat]

Why would you be "concerned" about this?

[Pippintea]

7a!

[IdRatherPlayHereWithAllTheMadM]

Where people are forever being told that 5c is nothing special at the start of year 5.

Really! so what would be special at end of year 5 then!

[Taffeta]

First off these sort of threads always end in tears on MN as they are usually plagued by people whose DC are working at Level 6 in Y3 etc.

Lots of scholarships aren't just academic, they can be sport, music etc, and as already mentioned are often minimal eg 10 percent off fees.

So presumably if your friend knows this they can afford to pay 90 percent at least so if he doesn't get the scholarship would she send him there anyway?

[Doodledumdums]

YABU.

I didn't work above my year group, and I didn't even gain admission to grammar school, yet I got a scholarship for an independent school. You don't know what they are looking for, it's not always just down to academia.

[lottieandmia]

Tbh it's probably easier to get a scholarship in some private schools than it is to get into a super selective grammar.

[Guitargirl]

YABU. It's for his parents to determine whether it would be an 'ordeal' for him or not.

[yorkie84]

Apologies. Damn ipad.

[lottieandmia]

I'd be really pissed off if a so called friend wrote stuff like this about my child on mumsnet.

Why don't you just focus on your own child OP?

[yorkie84]

Maybe wrong words used in op. Aplogies.

[yorkie84]

Maybe I am also being swayed by g & t boards. Where people are forever being told that 5c is nothing special at the start of year 5.

[Ludways]

If he doesn't try he'll never know. A reality check is easier to handle than a missed opportunity.

[Anonymai]

Why don't you just go round and shit in her face? That should put her back in her place.

[notthegirlnextdoor]

Scholarships also aren't 100% based on test scores etc. They allocate them based on several things including potential and parental income.

[HadABadDay2014]

My niece has always worked a year above her level, last term she got a letter inviting her to an open day at a university. She is only 12 and only 5 out of a year of around 300 pupil got the letter. It said so in the letter.

[yorkie84]

That lovely to hear mrsp. Maybe I should be considering it for my ds too.

[yorkie84]

Of course I would never say this to friend. I have been supportive. Just mulling it over.

[MrsPatrickDempsey]

I know one size doesn't fit all but my niece worked in the year above since year 2 or 3 (can't remember) and still is in year 12. She got about 12 A stars at gcse. She did gain an academic scholarship in year 7.

[yorkie84]

10. I guess I was just surprised that she was considering it. He is a lovely lad but quite sensitive and shy. Just think he may find it abit of an ordeal.

[ChocolateTeacup]

YAB a bit of a bitch tbh, he could get in and it be the best thing for 'your friends' ds or he could not and learn you have to try and work hard and can still get knocked back (a good lesson)

[lottieandmia]

As an aside though, scholarships are not worth much money. Usually it is a kind of recognition award. A bursary is worth a lot more financially.

[BrownSauceSandwich]

Ugh! "Scholarship material"? What a revolting way of wording it. I wonder if you're dressing up a touch of snobbery about this child's abilities as concern for his welfare.

Sensible parents would treat this as a potential increase in the child's choices, and encourage them to see the "all for the best" in the outcome. Any disappointment will be fleeting.

[lottieandmia]

Why are you posting about it? It seems mean for you to be putting your friend's child down in saying there will be loads of better candidates. How would you even know what someone else's child's potential is?

[drnoitall]

Best of luck to her and her ds.
Being disappointed is not a reason to not try.

[Pippintea]

DD has been in year above her own for two years. She is not scholarship material. Your friend's DC may be though. There are some very bright children out there.