I have a fairly good friend who is convinced that everyone fancies her, to the point where another friend was talking about introducing her new boyfriend and she said "oh but what if he fancies me, that will be awkward!", which I thought was a completely inappropriate thing to say.
In actual fact the boyfriend in question (and indeed other men) have made joking but derogatory comments about the friends appearance beforehand - not exactly giving the impression they fancy her, but I've always totally and utterly defended her, said she's gorgeous etc.
It's just getting a bit wearing, particularly when she tells me I need to dress more like her, lose weight, change my hair etc. I'm no oil painting but I do think I can hold my own, I get the odd bit of male attention/compliments from strangers etc.
I do love her and in my eyes she's beautiful and I'm sure there are a lot of people who think that too, but AIBU to be fed up of being constantly told how many people fancy her and how I should be more like her?
AIBU?
To be sick of my friends arrogance
NancyShrew · 07/11/2013 12:17
this is one of the best threads in a while,
the mate I referred to above pursued the best looking lad in our class for a year, but this was because he was gayer than Christmas and took lots of care of himself in the grooming dept. 
You've reminded me of someone I'd long forgotten.
I used to work with a girl who was an absolute stunner. Thinking back I'm pretty sure I used to tell her this all the time (I was a bit obsessed 
) but she was out of this world and very humble with it.
She and her sister (also v attractive in a doesn't-know-it kind of way) took on a new housemate and we all went on a night out. The housemate, who was extremely plain and not entirely dissimilar to Katie Hopkins in the looks department spent the whole evening talking about how attractive she was, how she got too much male attention and how women tended to be jealous of her 
. Seeing her next to the two beautiful sisters, singing her own praises whilst the others smiled and nodded politely was positively mortifying!
In her case it was an insecurity thing. In the end the sisters had to ask her to leave the house share as they discovered she'd been nicking their makeup! (Presumably in an attempt to look more like them ).
For those saying I should stop telling her she's gorgeous, I don't tell her unless she brings it up/asks. If she asks if I think she's good looking I can hardly say no!
If she said "do you think I'm good looking?" I'd say "compared to what?!" then laugh 'cos I've got a sarky sense of humour.
If she can't laugh at herself then she's too miserable to be your friend anyway!
Seriously though, who goes around asking that all the time?
She sounds desperately insecure to me.
If she said "you need to look more like me", I'd be saying "nope, I'm quite happy being me, thanks."
Nah, nothing exciting. Had a drink and I didn't return his calls after that . It would make a better story if I'd married him. Should have done - he was an investment banker!
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That is pretty funny tbh.
I think my response to 'what if he fancies me' would be I think we can all rest easy on that, to am I gorgeous would be, your fine, why have you done something special 
and as to telling you to look like her, ( ) No thanks, I'd MUCH rather look like me. She'll either drop you or stop being so mental pretty quick!
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