to wake a sleeping baby to change their nappy?

[MoveYourArmsLikeHenry]

Friend thinks I am. I always change ds soild nappy even if it is at a late hour and he is asleep. I would definitely not like to be lying in my own waste all night if it could be helped and dont expect my son to either.

Said friend said she just leaves it til the morning to change her dd. I have looked after her dd many times and this would explain her awful nappy rashes I guess. I know obviously sometimes it happens when mum and dad are asleep and of course dont know their child needs changed so thats not included here.

Whats the verdict? What do/did you do in this situation?

[BuntyCollocks]

My midwife with dd told me unless they have a nappy rash they're good to leave, wee or poo. With ds if changed him regardless. Dd was the queen of getting her fed, asleep, just put in bed ... And then she'd do a massive, breastfed baby shit.

So, we left her as per instructions. She slept. We slept. She's never had nappy rash. It went againsty instincts, but I didn't have an upset newborn at being fiddled with when she'd just gotten back to sleep being woken with freezing wipes (December baby).

[Theironfistofarkus]

Your friend is being v unreasonable. If you know your child will very likely be hurt unless you take action, you can't just do nothing even if it is the middle of the night and you are both knackered, tempting though it may be (and I was seriously tempted when one of my Dc went through a phase of pooing in the night, twice a night).

[2tiredtoScare]

Yeah right

[pinkr]

Flip where are these people getting the babies who sleep through nappy changes? ! !
I've just changed dd and the screams she makes are ear shattering....in the dark, soft voice, quickly etc....none of it bloody works. That said she wakes if she hears a spider fart

[JollyStoutGiant]

You asked : If it didn't wake them up and it was after your last check on them why would you be in their room to smell it?

So I said why I'd be in the room. I was just answering the question.

[2tiredtoScare]

Thanks for that jolly I dont see why you are telling me that ( like I didnt know) I have 3 DCs and the youngest is over 6 months in any event

[lionheart]

Wow. Everyone is agreed on this one.

Move, does your friend not realise that the nappy rash and not changing might be connected?

[Jengnr]

Not everyone does though Jolly. My son went into his room at 3 months. It was more than enough.

[MamaBear17]

I always changed dd, poop or wee, before I went to bed. My dd woke up twice each night until she was one and then once a night until she was 20 months. Changing her nappy meant that she would sleep longer in between wake ups, I guess because she was more comfortable.

[mumofweeboys]

Always change, not just for their wee bum but my nose. He stinks out my bedroom when he has a poo.

[JollyStoutGiant]

2tired

SIDS Guidance says you should sleep in the same room until your baby is 6months old.

[Bogeyface]

DD1 used to bleed if she got left in a nappy with poo for more than 10 minutes or so, so YANBU to change it.

I had a health issue that lead to leakage (sorry, tmi but it is relevant!) and it was horrible. It was itchy, I bled, it was just awful and that was from a tiny bit of leakage, nothing like a full poo that a baby would do. It is downright cruel especially if the poor child has nappy rash.

[FirstStopCafe]

I'd always change a poo. Luckily ds hasn't pooed at night for ages. He's a light sleeper and would always wake then take ages to get back down.

[bubalou]

I always changed ds's.

Keep the room dark, don't talk at all! Not even to soothe and they leant very quickly to stay asleep.

Ds did and didn't wake after only a week or so of doing this

[FriendlyElephant]

As others have said, always change a poo nappy - aside from being unpleasant, it's really bad for their skin.

That being said, my DD is 7 months and I'm still rubbish at changing nappies, I havent had to change her in the night for a while but I did used to hate it because it meant spending however long trying to settle her down again.

[foreverondiet]

Would wake baby for a poo always. Not for a wee even if nappy v full. If I left all night would have nappy rash that would take a week to shift.

[happydaze77]

Not my dd GoldiChops

[puntasticusername]

What everyone said. Always change a poo!

If, for some reason, someone really felt they couldn't possibly disturb the baby if it pooed while asleep (I would never recommend it but, you know, we've all had our parental desperate moments in our time, haven't we), I'd suggest that a pre-emptive application of a really good barrier cream at bedtime might help alleviate any resulting nappy rash. But changing the nappy is always the better option if you possibly can.

[MoveYourArmsLikeHenry]

2tired we are talking about changing a nappy that you know is soiled, rather than deliberately leaving the child in it all night. Not when you dont know the child is soild :)

[TheGinLushMinion]

Poo yes, wee definitely not-that would be just plain daft.

[GoldiChops]

Oh but maybe not at naptime- unless they do it right at the start of a 2 hour nap or something.

[GoldiChops]

As a nanny and maternity nurse- I'd change a poo at night, maybe not as a really tiny (liquid-poo!) baby. It's possible to do it without waking most children- low lighting, soft singing or humming, get everything ready before moving baby, do it quick, back to bed.

[2tiredtoScare]

If it didn't wake them up and it was after your last check on them why would you be in their room to smell it?

[MammaTJ]

Yup, although I was told by Hv ignore DS no matter what, I still changed him when he did his frequent and in need of attention poos!

[WandaDoff]

Always change for a poo.