to hide all threads about depression which pop up on Chat and Aibu?

[Mintyy]

I always feel guilty, but I come on to Mumsnet to look for proper chat (ie. a two-way kinda thing about matters relatively trivial), practical advice, and a laugh.

This is why I have the mental health topic hidden and I would hide relationships if I didn't want to lurk on brave babes.

But aibu?

[Minnieisthedevilmouse]

You feel a bit pants clicking hide all the time? Seriously? What you do in the privacy of own home is up to you! Why are you telling me?

And your issues are well documented here but others should be moved?

Well so long as you're alright then.... I'll be ignoring this thread now and feeling no guilt.

[valiumredhead]

You can hide whatever you like but yabvu to announce it imo.

[MilllyMollyMully]

I think most MNers do give considerable thought to which topic they start their thread in.

Also, lots of us do use the archives. That's why so many zombie threads are revivified - and that's not always a bad thing - you can get a discussion going again, based on what people originally posted, while recognising that times change and things move on. It's interesting to compare. Eg, info about historic child sex abuse might look different in the light of Jimmy Savile's monsterhood being revealed.

I probably use the archives at least once a day, sometimes loads more than that.

[TEErickOrTEEreat]

Fuck.

Moved a thread from Chat to a more "appropriate" topic without asking the OP and were vilified for it. It's what led to their policy of checking with the OP before moving anything,

People claimed HQ were "hiding" a difficult subject, although I can't remember what the thread was about.

So it's not just a matter of "keep to the topics" or "you'll get better advice elsewhere."

[TEErickOrTEEreat]

Interesting conversation.

I dint know if anyone else remembers this, but awhile a go, maybe even over a year ago, HQ moved a thread fr

[AgentZigzag]

True BOF, maybe some people can't be arsed aren't able to search out whether they're starting the same thread if they're on a phone or are techy incompetents?

It's interesting to see the unbelievably different twists and turns the same subject can spawn in two separate threads, and shows the posters saying all MNetters are sex crazed pervs nasty bastards that we're not a (an?) homogeneous group.

[BOF]

Oh, definitely.

People don't even check Active Convos before they duplicate current affairs threads. Hence all the McCann threads/Roma threads/RIP Lou Reed threads.

[AgentZigzag]

The posters starting new threads might be the tip of the iceberg though, you'd can't know how many people read the old threads.

I sometimes look on here for advice about stuff before doing a more general google.

And tons of posters have found MN by googling a problem they've got, it's how I found it.

[MaryZombie]

I don't think that anyone uses the vast archive these days

Everyone starts a new thread.

[MurderOfBanshees]

"Reaching out to other people can be really difficult at times, and if they've made that effort then whether the replies are nice or not can be irrelevant, they're being seen."

This is a fair point.

[MilllyMollyMully]

Then a vast archive of useful experience would be lost forever.

[BOF]

Maybe there should be a tick box in topics for self-destruction after 30 days then?

[AgentZigzag]

Sometimes though Maryz, any attention is good attention, and even though there are lovely posters on the MH boards with great advice, it's the contact with another person they're looking for.

Reaching out to other people can be really difficult at times, and if they've made that effort then whether the replies are nice or not can be irrelevant, they're being seen.

[LyannaStark]

Completely agree about Chat.

I haven't hidden a thread in seven years. If the title is triggering I don't click, and if the OP is unsettling I don't open it again. I do have a good memory though so can understand hiding.

[MilllyMollyMully]

Chat is the very best place to post about most sensitive issues, becuase all the personal info disappears forever after X days. Plus because there is so much traffic, you will get lots of helpful responses, and the fast moving traffic means the thread will move swiftly down the Chat list and off the front page pdq.

[SPsTombRaidingWithCliff]

Mary I know what you mean. There's some really helpful people who stick to certain topics and could help a lot of people but when people post in different topics they seem to be missing out on the help they could have got.

Hope that makes sense.

[MaryZombie]

But, AgentZ, the problem isn't that they "have posted in the wrong place". It's more a concern that they won't get good advice in Chat. Whereas they might elsewhere.

I do see what you mean. But I've seen vulnerable posters torn to shreds in aibu, for example, and I just want to move them myself so they get nicer replies.

[SPsTombRaidingWithCliff]

There seems to be millions of topics. If the topic list was shorter it might be easier.

[AgentZigzag]

I think moving 'AIBU to love my new fluffy kitten' over to chat is obviously fine, it's because it's not being discussed in a general way but on a thread about MH that I feel so strongly about it.

The fragility of someone in that situation maybe couldn't take even a suggestion that they're in the 'wrong place', it can be so isolating as it is when people don't understand why (and you don't understand why yourself) it's just a further kick in the head when they don't need it.

[MaryZombie]

SP, I think that is a good reason for getting rid of most of the topics.

Most people post in Chat. So let them - but stop pretending that the topics are there.

Except for Christmas. The Christmas bit really gets to me, as there are people who really (and for very good reason) hate Christmas. They dread it. They should be able to come here and not see a gazillion Christmas threads in Chat and AIBU in September and October.

Others may think I'm just being pedantic. But I'm not. I know it upsets people

[SPsTombRaidingWithCliff]

If I needed advice on an important matter then I go straight to chat as its where most people are. Just like my thread about the toddlers hearing, it should have been in children's health but I just went straight to chat.

I have no topics hidden but I will click on threads and if I have no advice I will bump or ignore. If someone sounds desperate for help and no one else has commented then I post so they know they aren't alone.

[MurderOfBanshees]

I don't think the OP is trying to shove MH out of the way at all.

But not everyone is going to be in the right frame of mind to be able to see MH threads, and that's just as fine as posting MH threads in chat and AIBU.

[MaryZombie]

I often think that when you go to start a thread, mnhq should have a pop-up saying "would you rather start this thread in a topic" with a link to topics.

But there are too many.

Maybe instead of the topics we have, we should have "I want uncritical support", "I want advice", "What should I do - be honest", "I'm looking for a laugh and a bit of banter" and "I have no idea what's going on".

It would give everyone a guideline as to what the op wants from a thread.

[BOF]

I've just read your post, AgentZigzag- I totally know what you mean. I'm not suggesting that MNHQ 'banish' threads, for exactly that reason, but that they first sort their topics out and radically trim them, and then have a uniform moving policy.