to eat nuts on a train.

[SpiritOfTheBuskersCat]

so I'm happily eating my pistachios on the train and some woman comes over and says 'could you put them away my friends allergic' I said 'oh yes of course' started putting them back in my bag when she adds 'to be honest you shouldn't eat things like that on trains anyway' turned on her heel and stalled off. They then spend the next 10 minutes throwing me filthy looks. Now I understand nut allergies can be fatal and was prefectly happy to put them away, but was I bu eating them in the first place? Surely you cannot assume every where will be nut free and especially on public transport at 4 in the afternoon there is going to be risks?

[Suzieismyname]

If someone's allergy is so bad that they can't be in the same train carriage as nuts then I would question their judgement in using public transport.
Yanbu

[ZingWantsCake]

YABU, it should have been !

[Lizzabadger]

Yanbu.

I think they sell nuts in train buffet cars so they must expect people to eat them there.

[ZingWantsCake]

maybe she felt threatened by the presence of other nuts

[Tee2072]

Where did the friend says she was anaphylactic? Not all allergies are. Some are much less severe.

Ask someone to put them away, NBU. Glare at the person? Stupid and childish.

[HicDraconis]

I have a bad enough nut allergy that if you eat a bag of peanuts next to me I'll have serious breathing difficulties. So if they'd been peanuts and I was right next to you I might have apologised, explained my allergy and moved.

Yes, they still serve peanuts on some airlines. You have to fill out various forms requesting that they don't serve them in your part of the cabin, it's a horrendous hassle for all concerned. And if you need to walk through the plane to the loo and someone further down is eating them there isn't much you can do. I loaded up on steroids and antihistamines before my last long haul flight but I appreciate some people's allergies are worse - once had a child in with anaphylaxis after walking barefoot across an area of floor where someone had spilled something she reacted to. They'd vacc'ed and cleaned but there was enough residual that the child reacted. Hell for her parents.

OP I don't think you were being unreasonable. I try to make my allergies my problem rather than someone else's.

[Stravy]

Do they no longer give out nuts on a plane? I haven't flown in years.....

I was on a 'nut free' Ryan Air flight where they couldn't serve hot food so everyone bought a snickers bar

[WhiteAdmiral]

Tee usually of an allergy is so severe that a person reacts to airbourne particles they are very likely to be anaphylactic.

Suzieismyname Unfortunately allergy sufferers do not always have the money to never use public transport.

[LaurieFairyCake]

She was rude and because of that I'd have told her to choose another carriage or get off and walk

If polite I'd happily put them away

[PeoniesPlease]

YANBU. I am very allergic to shellfish, and have started to randomly react in public places in the past, where someone has clearly been eating a prawn sandwich or something. It can be scary, but I accept that this is part of life and I can't and shouldn't try to control what other people eat when they are near to me. I carry an Epipen for this purpose too.

If we all took account of every possible food allergy and adapted our eating habits in public accordingly, none of us would ever be able to eat anything!

The woman was crazy and unreasonable, pure and simple.

[Tee2072]

Well, WhiteAdmiral, I hope she never sits in a seat on the train where someone was eating nuts, then. Or walk where someone spilled some.

Allergy sufferers still have to function in the real world. In the real world, their allergen can be anywhere. And there was no need to be rude.

[SpiritOfTheBuskersCat]

I think she was spoiling for a fight and didn't get the reaction she wanted. My overly polite 'I'm ever so sorry put her off

nuts were shelled over a the pot and put back in the pot.

You know when there is that moment you think 'what a nutter' then 'shit is that a massive no no now?'

[CrohnicallyLurking]

When I went on a nut free flight, the whole flight was nut free and as far as I'm aware that included things like snickers. But then that wasn't RyanAir, with RyanAir I'm surprised they didn't try to stick an extra charge on the person requesting the nut free flight!

(Yes I'm aware that would contravene the DDA, but then so would the toilet charges they proposed a while back)

[ZingWantsCake]

white

I don't think that a person with that severe of a nut allergy will risk public transport.

[BrokenSunglasses]

She was rude. I don't even think she should have asked you to stop eating them, some people need to snack on healthy things like nuts because of diabetes, and one persons need does not trump another.

[WhiteAdmiral]

Tee I agreed that the woman was unnecessarily rude.

The constant checking of every situation, brushing seats down, placing things down for dc to sit on, wiping everything and having our hearts in our mouths every time they go to a birthday party or a friend's house, is an allergic kid's parent's reality. Every day.

This previously unimaginable amount of vigilance, becomes our reality out of necessity. That's what we have to do to avoid our kids dying I'm afraid.

[Viviennemary]

You were polite. They sounded awful. I was on a flight and they announced there would be no nuts served at all because one of the passengers was allergic. It didn't bother me but I was still a bit surprised about it.

[NuggetofPurestGreen]

I'm allergic to nuts but I would just move away from someone eating them not ask them to stop! I've never had an airborne reaction but still makes me a bit uneasy being near them. YANBU. She was BU.

I'm a bit about the snickers on the Ryanair flight I'm due to fly with them soon!

[WhiteAdmiral]

Lots of schools are nut free because the risk is so very high for one child (death) and asking people to avoid nuts at school is actually not that big an ask.

I do agree that the woman was rude, just trying to explain how hard it can be.

[Stravy]

There were bags of nuts too. Everyone was starving, the flight was delayed and it's what you get, isn't it when you are hungry and need to choose between pringles, gin and snickers.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

Really, I think if you're that allergic, you need to find an alternative form of transport. It's not necessarily cheaper to travel by train, so a bus or car would be an option, I would imagine. I would probably have moved, were I the nut allergy person, and OP, I think you were very polite. Love a pistachio nut!

[NeedlesCuties]

Can I hijack a bit, but still stay within the nut allergy theme?

Last week at a packed event for about 200 people I happened to mention to a friend who'd help organise the event that I had a sealed pack of cashew nuts in my handbag to eat on the way home. She told me off, said that anyone could be allergic, so I "need to be careful carrying them."

My face was a bit like and I really started to doubt myself. Please someone tell me if she was BU, or was I? It wasn't like I planned to stick cashews down the back of people's backs to catch them unawares.

[NuggetofPurestGreen]

Thanks Stravy, I haven't seen any peanuts for sale on a Ryanair flight any time I've been on one. Maybe bags of other nuts but I don't mind them. Hope my flight doesn't get delayed!!

[Tavv]

YANBU. Trains are a place where you'll find the general public eating all kinds of things. They sell products containing nuts in the buffet car too.