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AIBU?

people who split their food shopping into 'batches' to pay for separately

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BooCanary · 22/09/2013 21:25

How annoying is that?
Today I went to Asda and BOTH people in front of me at the till did this.

Person one paid THREE different times, one for the majority of the shop, one for a few essentials ( milk, bread etc) and a third time for an item of clothing.

Person two then proceeded to pay for their shopping in two sections.

I was waiting bloody ages, fuming and wondering why these people can't just pay once and then divide it up later based on the receipt if they happen to be buying for other people.

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ChinaCupsandSaucers · 22/09/2013 22:48

those that pay with pence

Do you mean people who use coin cash?

Blame the banks, and the surcharges on those change machines in the supermarket lobbies - I run a cash based business and I'm jiggered if I'm going to incur costs to pay cash into my account just so I can use a card/notes in the supermarket.
So yes, I split my shop into home and business (as advised by the HMRC), I pay with coins and I organise my packing into different bags depending on where I'm going to use the shop (home, shopfront or catering kitchen) , as well!

But then, I put £000 through the supermarket tills every year; which keeps the prices lower for those Sunday shoppers who only need one or two items a week Wink

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 22/09/2013 22:52

I do get annoyed at people using more than one card at cashpoints though. It's because you think you're nearly there, they have pressed every single option it's possible to press, thought long and hard about whether they wanted a receipt, and just as you think it'll be your go next.... out comes another card.

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WetDog · 22/09/2013 22:56

YABVU.

My nan would love to be in good enough health to do her own shopping - and it would mean I didn't have to annoy people like you by doing a split shop while she can't physically get to the supermarket.

In fact, if she's feeling well enough in a couple of weeks, I'll take her to Asda. She's looking forward to it already :)

But for now, while she's recovering from a major operation and hoping for her Parkinson's symptoms (which have got considerably worse due to the operation) to hopefully improve a little, I'm doing her shopping for her.

Which means it's easier for me to split the shop, as I can give her her own receipt and the right change.

I've never seen anyone get visibly annoyed or impatient because a) it takes an extra thirty seconds for me to pay for part of the shop separately and b) I think the vast majority of people have a little empathy and probably realise that I must have a good reason (like a poorly grandparent) to be doing two separate shops.

Have a bit of a heart for goodness sake. And if waiting in a queue for any reason is this much of a problem to you, then shop online.

Things are hard enough as it is without me having to worry about sensitive souls quietly fuming because I'm taking an extra 30 seconds of their time while I pay for my poorly nan's shopping Angry

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HildaOgden · 22/09/2013 23:02

This is a classic example of somebody with children thinking that their needs/wants/requirements come above anyone else.

The customer in the queue in front of you had every right to be served the way they were.You don't get special entitlements just because you have a child (perhaps you would be better trying to teach that child to behave better for the few minutes it took?Is that beyond the realms of reason?)

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Sunrunner · 22/09/2013 23:10

I have to do this once a week as I do my uncles weekly shop and as I am there (and it's my day off) I may as well do my shopping.

I like to have his stuff on a seperate reciept, not that he ever looks at it though.

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notthefirstagainstthewall · 22/09/2013 23:12

HildaOgdenThey are expecting to be served twice though or in the Op's case 3 times. Whats the point of a queue if you effectively have 3 people's shopping for every one.

I'm amazed at the amount of people who suggest the Op should go online and shop. Her transaction seemed relatively simple.Why don't all you who spend ages trying to play the supermarkets do it online instead? Even better since they usually get something wrong online you can complain and get even more of it free/cheap.

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TedMoseby · 22/09/2013 23:13

I just fail to see how it took that much longer. There was the same amount of shopping to go through the till as if they had paid in one go, just they had to change cards/get cash out.

Let's say it took 2 minutes for each transaction (which is generous tbh). You lost 6 minutes of your life. I hardly think it matters in the grand scheme of things.

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BooCanary · 22/09/2013 23:14

No it isn't Hilda. I didn't hold ANYONE up with my shopping. I was ready to pay promptly, I packed my shopping speedily and got the hell out of there.

Why? Because I am thoughtful of other people and don't like to inconvenience them. If i pay with vouchers, I get them ready beforehand, if I am asked about cashback I give a decisive answer, rather than fishing around in my purse for 5 minutes trying to decide.

It has nothing to do with my DCs. They did not inconvenience or effect anyone, other than me! I do not expect anyone to make allowances for my DCs but I do expect other people to be generally understanding that there are other people in the world.

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ChinaCupsandSaucers · 22/09/2013 23:17

I do expect other people to be generally understanding that there are other people in the world.

By ensuring they follow your expectations of their conduct at the checkout, rather than do it the way that is more convenient for them.
Oh, the irony!

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BooCanary · 22/09/2013 23:17

You'd be surprised how long people can take to pay, Ted. In an ideal thoughtful world it would be quick, but add champion faffers into the mix and it takes ages.

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BooCanary · 22/09/2013 23:19

I would have thought SOCIETY would expect that if there were a long queue of people, it was only polite to be thoughtful of that fact. I certainly always am, but perhaps I shouldn't bother.

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Turniptwirl · 22/09/2013 23:20

Yabu it doesn't take that much longer as they have the same amount as you saw

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Binkyridesagain · 22/09/2013 23:21

Maybe OP you should try understanding that there are others in the world and that they have reasons for doing things the way they do.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 22/09/2013 23:26

BooCanary - we do this in Tesco, when they are doing their 'Spend £40, get £5 off your next shop' - if we split it up, we can get £15 off, which is jolly useful. We do do our best to do it as quickly as possible, so as not to hold people up too much.

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DaleyBump · 22/09/2013 23:28

YABU.

I do this occasionally. I go to the shops for my gran and if I pay for all of our things at once she won't actually split the bill, she'll just give me all of the money so she ends up paying for my things too. If I was able, I would just pay for her shopping too but I can't afford it. I have to pay for our things separately.

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Delilahlilah · 22/09/2013 23:29

Yabvu. People have reasons, usually of the selfless variety, e.g. shopping for those who are unable.... and your excuse is that your 4 yr old is unable to behave for that period of time? I don't think that reflects badly on the others involved, does it?

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McNewPants2013 · 22/09/2013 23:29

You would hate me.

Last week in tesco 4 loads of shopping. Mine mums Nan's and FIL

FIL is practically housebound, my nan was due out of hospital, my mum as she didn't have time with going back and forth at the hospital ( my nan is fine now)

Next week it will be back to 2.

I did this on my own with 2 children, the one has ASD so very difficult I was proud of myself :)

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HaroldLloyd · 22/09/2013 23:31

SDTG, I never thought of that!

Bring on the batches I say.

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TSSDNCOP · 22/09/2013 23:33

But it would seem that the pesky queue hoggers are in fact doing their bit for society in helping with other people's shopping.

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TSSDNCOP · 22/09/2013 23:34

Except me, I'm doing it for petrol vouchers and I don't care that much about the people behind if I can save a tenner at the pump.

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Misspixietrix · 22/09/2013 23:38

dCould be any number of reasons OP. My DM used to run à Church Coffee morning and all their things had to be on seperate receipts. Also my SIL os a Carer and I remember many years ago she would be in Asda at 9pm buying 5 différent peoples bits of shipping too :)

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candycoatedwaterdrops · 22/09/2013 23:40

Well aren't you a little ray of sunshine!

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footballagain · 22/09/2013 23:45

This thread is bonkers.

Only you op made mention of your kids.

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WetDog · 22/09/2013 23:49

Why don't all you who spend ages trying to play the supermarkets do it online instead? Even better since they usually get something wrong online you can complain and get even more of it free/cheap.

My nan is 81. She doesn't want to trouble people. Other family members shop for her sometimes as well. But quite often I'll call her if I'm on my way to see her and ask if she needs anything and she'll admit she's not felt well enough to do her own shopping. But that she's at least got enough bread for breakfast tomorrow :(

So I have to get her shopping as and when on my way over to her house. It's stuff she can't wait for, I just do it when I can.

It's so sad that so many people seem to completely lack any concern or empathy for others.

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ontheallotment · 22/09/2013 23:51

I shop for myself and my inlaws, I need to keep careful records of whose is what and make sure the right shopping goes in the right bags. This is far, far easier with separate receipts and with the shopping rung through separately so I virtually always do this. I like to think I am reasonably quick at paying up and bagging so not too much extra delay for the person behind - far less in fact than if I had FiL in tow and let him pay for his share (this takes for ever), though I appreciate the sight of an extra person might put people off joining the queue. But really, OP, until you have actually had the extra hassle of regularly purchasing and claiming back the costs of all of another persons shopping just relax and stop fuming. It really does create a lot of extra work just doing the shopping (I hate having to choose for other people) and getting out a calculator to figure out the total owed (not forgetting to include the relevent BOGOFS and discounts) afterwards and annotating the receipts accordingly for accounting purposes would be the last straw.

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