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To think this is not an appropriate film for baby club?

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DfanjoUnchained · 27/08/2013 08:07

I was looking forward to going to baby club and checked what they were showing and was quite taken aback to see it was the movie about a porn star.
The story of Lovelace the star of 'Deep Throat' Confused

Aib a bit precious, or is this inappropriate? What parent would want to watch that with their small baby?

OP posts:
TheBuskersDog · 27/08/2013 10:15

To those who wouldn't go and watch an 18 film with their baby, do you apply the same rules at home, have you stopped watching adult themed films and tv?

CMOTDibbler · 27/08/2013 10:15

I went to see the remake of Wickerman at baby screening. Ds's only interest was in my boobs anyway.

TravailsInHyperreality · 27/08/2013 10:19

I do think they turn the sound down mrsjay - we had to ask for the operator to turn it up twice the last time we went to Big Scream.

OP, you are being unreasonable. Don't go to the film which is not a porno. End of.

forevergreek · 27/08/2013 10:25

Yes they usually turn the volume down and the lights up a bit ( so you can actually see to walk around/ leave if you need to)
I went every week virtually with ds1. Dh tool long lunch breaks sometimes to join us

gordyslovesheep · 27/08/2013 10:27

everyone on facebook??? what even me?? don't remember that

OP you have completely misunderstood what the baby cinema is - it's not cinema FOR babies - it's a special slot for ADULTS to see films whilst accompanied by their small babies - who wont be actually watching the film - hth :)

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 27/08/2013 10:33

'Funny, because everyone on their FB and twitter are all saying what I'm saying, i.e 'what a strange choice for a lunch time mother and baby club', and 'is that even legal?'and just find it a bit distasteful.
But mnetters think its fine.'

Maybe 'everyone' on FB and twitter, like you, haven't seen the film, or read/heard much about it, but the people commenting on here have and therefore think it's 'fine' because they have an idea of the content?

Which is more about the downside of Linda L's porn career and her subsequent career in anti-porn and feminist activism.

Also, 'The point of the film screenings is that new parents can't get out to an evening screening.'

This.

MortifiedAdams · 27/08/2013 10:37

Well, im.not.paying to take a newborn to see fecking 'PLanes' or some.other kiddy film.when they cant even see two feet infront of their face.

These screenings are for parents. The baby will sleep, poop and feed. THats it.

Tiredemma · 27/08/2013 10:39

I think this club is a brilliant idea.

kiwimumof2boys · 27/08/2013 11:13

I remember the cinema refused to play the Sex in the City movie due to 'sexual' content for a mother and baby screening, yet were quite happy to show the Indiana Jones movie which was really violent . . . we were all a bit Hmm

ButchCassidy · 27/08/2013 11:13

I will be going.
Why would being a mum holding my baby stop me watching films that interest me.
YABU

WilsonFrickett · 27/08/2013 12:14

kiwi if it was Sex and the City 2, maybe it was just on grounds of good taste?? Worst. Movie. Ever. Wink

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat · 27/08/2013 13:06

Just because a woman has a baby, doesn't suddenly mean she's only interested in baby things. Or is the OP suggesting that mothers shouldn't be allowed to be interested in such films? A baby is not going to be following the film, for heaven's sake!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 27/08/2013 13:18

Quite, Wilson Grin

pinkdelight · 27/08/2013 13:46

From the queues at the local Odeon, Lovelace has a mainly female audience. It's not Deep Throat and it's not for men to whack off to. As I said, I'm not a fan, but it's always worth looking a little closer at what a film's actually about before leaping to conclusions / censoring what's appropriate for whom. We don't need another Mrs Whitehouse!

SarahAndFuck · 27/08/2013 13:47

I thought the film sounded very sad. The man in the interview I read wrote a book about her and said he believed she never wanted to be anything other than a wife and mother and her abusive husband and then the culture in Hollywood forced her into a porn and prostitution life she never wanted to live.

It's meant to be about her life, not a recreation of her porn films, so even if they have scenes of her acting in them, they would hopefully not be presented in a porn way. If that makes sense. It's not a porn film, even though it's about a woman who made porn films as part of her career.

The little I've read about her and this film made me feel very sorry and sad for Linda Lovelace. And I do think the film might be interesting and very sad. Your baby won't care though.

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly · 27/08/2013 13:48

I don't understand why having a baby with you makes any film suddenly unacceptable. What difference does it make if I have my baby with me or not?

JADS · 27/08/2013 13:49

YABU OP, but I do kind of agree with you, so I am BU too!

My DS took DN to see the Hurt Locker at a baby club screening. I thought that was weird, but they made the explosions quieter so that was OK Confused. You have research saying that under 2s should never watch any TV because they grow up to be violent but babies being exposed to 15/18 films is OK {tongue-in-cheek}. I actually don't think it will do the baby any harm btw, I would just find it odd. And I wouldn't judge anyone who took their baby to one either.

When BF, I used to watch Ugly Betty a lot which I think is a 15 and I am therefore a massive hypocrite, Dh wasn't allowed to play Fallout New Vegas though which is an 18.

ScariestFairyByFar · 27/08/2013 14:04

I thought even though the films were meant to be for parents they still had to be a u or pg.

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly · 27/08/2013 14:10

There is no research that says under 2s wtaching tv will make them grow up violent. I think you're conflating about 3 separate issues there.

MyThumbsHaveGoneWeird · 27/08/2013 14:27

Another person here who spent the early breast feeding days working my way through True Blood! Can't beat a bit of gratuitous hot vampire sex for keeping you company during night feeds Grin. But you know what? It's totally fine because tiny babies just don't notice. And when they do start noticing it stops being fun and you stop doing it.

I wish I lived near your cinema. My mother and baby screening options this week are a crappy looking snail cartoon called Turbo or the One Direction movie Sad

MyThumbsHaveGoneWeird · 27/08/2013 14:31

Did anyone else find that the look of bliss the vampires got as they bit into a person was really similar to the look a breast feeding baby has when they latch on? Or was I just sleep deprived and a bit dillusional?

LadyBigtoes · 27/08/2013 14:39

I loved baby cinema and the fact that they put on loads of normal films aimed at adults, that I could enjoy - all sorts of stuff. I would have been most peeved if it had been sanitised for me.

However, I did see one ad for a baby cinema that was showing "We Need to Talk About Kevin" Shock - now that does seem less like something I'd want to attend as a new mum...

pinkbear82 · 27/08/2013 14:39

Op I don't think you Abu. I get its the topic of the film, not the rating that is strange. Wouldn't be my cup of tea to sit and watch with a bunch of strangers.
But get that some would be more than happy. However, it strikes me as a very select choice and not something that would hold mass appeal.

What ever floats your boat.

WilsonFrickett · 27/08/2013 14:42

Shock Ladybigtoes that's certainly not a new mummy film! Can you imagine!

LadyClariceCannockMonty · 27/08/2013 14:42

pinkbear, if you wouldn't want to watch the film 'with a bunch of strangers' then that's a different issue. It has nothing to do with the presence or otherwise of a baby. Hmm

It's also not a particularly select choice ? it's a fairly mainstream film.