To be mildly disappointed that all of the brides I know have been rather reasonable?

[nenevomito]

Just that really.

I've met a few who've got stressed before the day. I've been there myself, waking up at 3am because of cake boxes, but none of them have been even remotely cunty. Not one.

Am I alone in never having been abused by people who are having their special day or are the Bridezilla threads on here the state of play now?

Have I just been rather lucky in having friends and family that aren't arseholes, or should I feel disappointed by missing the excitement and drama?

Anyone else out there managed to just have rather nice times at weddings like me?

[KatieScarlett2833]

My very lovely work mate is getting married in a few weeks. She had to be nagged into a gift list, utterly refuses to allow us to organise a hen/ celebratory meal and has loaned me accessories to wear on the day. She is the best behaved bride ever

[nenevomito]

Inconsiderate aren't they?

humph.

[Jan49]

I have been to a wedding where the bride's ex-boyfriend was amongst the guests and it didn't cause any fighting, not even when the bride's elderly dad accidentally used the ex-bf's name instead of the groom's name as in "Jane and Steve oops err Michael". (names changed)

A friend was planning to marry at a similar time to us and after we'd booked our date she asked if we'd change it as it was the date they wanted (rather bridezilla). I said no, it didn't cause any problems, they had their wedding the week before ours and we all stayed friends.

When my sister got married abroad (where she lives), my siblings and I chose not to travel so we missed the wedding but some close family friends went. The same happened when I got married in our home country and my siblings chose not to travel from abroad to attend. No one minded and no one fell out over it.

No one's ever sent me an invitation requesting cash or with a poem.

It's very disappointing but I live in hope that there's still time.

[BackforGood]

I too am deprived babyheave.
I've been to loads of weddings in my life, and have enjoyed them. I've been very happy to let each host plan what they want on their day, and then I've been able to make up my own mind if I want to go or not. On the very rare occasions when I've not been able to go (once I was inter-railing and once I was giving birth ) I've still managed to remain friends with the couples and not fall out over it. Even the one where we were starving is remembered fondly, and joked about to this day.

[nenevomito]

I've never been asked to save a date either Dammit.

I'VE BEEN ROBBED!!!!!

[Bullygirl]

I was a woeful Bridezilla. My sister is getting married next year and was asking me all sorts of "what did you do" type questions and my two main answers were "I don't know mum did that bit" and "I don't know mil did that". I remember showing up and having a great time. I got a bit tipsy, did the Macarena then went to a lovely hotel for the night. That was 16 years ago. Got a feeling my baby sister might make a pretty decent impression of a Bridezilla though. We'll see. ;)

[nenevomito]

How have you all managed to come to terms with the disappointment of not knowing anyone who is an that arse-like?

I'm almost tempted to do a 'renewing of my vows' ceremony, just so I can snub people in rhyme.

Please send me some money, honey
But don't expect an invite cos I'm tight.

That kind of thing.

[Flobbadobs]

YANBU, it's all very unreasonable!
The only person who got a bit that way was me in the run up over flowers of all things, half of the people didn't want to wear the buttonholes for a variety of really rather crap reasons so I cancelled the order after having a bit of a strop at the IL's after some 'helpful' suggestions... Flowers ffs...
I gave myself a slap when I'd calmed down

[TheMagicKeyCanFuckOff]

YANBU. I have a large family and friends are very accommodating and don't ask for a repeat of the Hungef Games to decide who goes. They might get a bit crabby, but in a reasonable way, and laugh at themselves at the same time and are never cunty, and always polite. They send well thought out, sensible and simple invitations, and happily allow babies to come along.

[EagleRiderDirk]

yanbu.

i never went bridezilla for the first one, mainly because my mil was having it as her perfect day and flung tantrums when she didn't get her way. my upcoming is what I want, small and informal. hard to get bridezilla about that. though if oh doesn't set some time aside soon so we can talk through some of the basic arrangements I may kill him. or maybe I should go cunty bridezilla on his arse until he realises...

all my friends are obviously boring too...

[ChunkyPickle]

Same here, my cousin was particularly nice and invited me/dp/ds literally at the last minute when we moved back to the country at short notice - no fuss (well, except the good kind), wedding was lovely, she was lovely, all was fantastic.

Every other wedding I've been to, whether more or less formal has also been very comfortable and nice with no drama. I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

[purplewithred]

I am getting married next year and am a bit concerned that I'm going to fail at the Bridezilla bit. However I have plenty of time and will keep on top of the threads. Will start with the Save the Date thing, which I'd never heard of before, so that will be very useful. Don't actually know the date yet so I can not just send them out to people who won't get invited but I can send out several dates too. Wasn't going to have a wedding list but am working on my poem asking for money (which we don't need) - may sing it and make it into a youtube link or something. Will also work on an appalling colour theme and insist everyone adheres to it.

Honestly don't know where I'd be without Mumsnet.

[nenevomito]

When I had a young baby, I was allowed to take it to my friend's child-free wedding as well. The bitch. There was a whole thread in that and she let me down by being rather nice and reasonable about it all.

[deleted203]

I've decided all my friends are clearly dull. None of them stressed over their wedding days. None of them made ridiculous demands. Most of them couldn't give a shit what colour their napkins were.

Perhaps I need to wait for their offspring to get married...

[NumTumDeDum]

None of my exs though. They're not very nice.

[NumTumDeDum]

I have two of dp's ex girlfriends coming to our wedding. They're both very nice.

[nenevomito]

I've been invited to a number of weddings where my ex's were also invited. This is what happens if you are liberal with your loving at Uni.

[SantanaLopez]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/960326-wedding-dance-thriller-hell

[NumTumDeDum]

A choreographed dance you say? It has potential.

[SantanaLopez]

You should make them all perform a choreographed dance at the reception Num.

[NumTumDeDum]

Perhaps by way of a limmerick?

[NumTumDeDum]

Hmn. I could randomly disinvite a few BOF. Given the recession, I think maybe anyone with more than two children?

[nenevomito]

I have one friend at the moment due to get married soon, having perfectly reasonable worries about having made too many wedding favours and wondering what to do with them.

However she's not invited extra people to go with the number of favours.

She's missing a trick

[BOF]

Are you able to disinvite a few guests, Num?