to feel angry and upset at ebay sale gone wrong

[lakia]

Its partly my own fault I sent an expensive item took my chances.
Buyer claimed he hadnt recieved it obivously I am stuffed no tracking details to show I was really stupid.
The buyer turned out to be a business recieving a few items like mine.
I suspect although cant prove that he may have had it mixed up amongst other items and overlooked it.
Paypal have refunded him case closed and now they will debit my account for the full amount.
Buyer has now left negative feedback saying that I am a scammer cheat etc.
Its really unfair and I am so upset to the point that I dont want to do ebay any longer and just close the account.

[whois]

Sorry you've had a bad transaction, BUT you should never ever post anything for an eBay sale that isn't a tracked delivery. That's was a bit silly but I bet you know that now!

[JackyDanny]

Could you message the buyer saying something like, you are sorry the didn't receive the item yet, but you have def posted it, describe the packaging, and as they have had a refund, to please think about revising feedback? That your mistake here was to post without tracking?
You can respond to their negative with something like that.

Sorry you feel so down.

[RoooneyMara]

1. Check with THEIR sorting office (I mean find out the number nad ring them up to check it isn't still there)
   

1. RING royal mail and ask them to have a look for it on their system (says different things than the one you get online)
   

1. Reply to his feedback, in calm, honest words saying 'I am really sorry your item was lost. I have proof of postage but did not send recorded. Buyer refunded'
   

People will look at your fb and his and they will make their own minds up.

I know how you feel, totally, ebay is very weighted these days in favour of the buyer and it's unfair.

[helenthemadex]

I can understand why you are upset, but ebay rules do state that you have to send stuff by trackable method, if you dont you leave your self open to fraud, it is really upsetting.

I would go to the post office and fill in a form to get some of your money back it may only be £20 but its something

you may also have a case for getting your feedback removed, it supposed to be factual not accusatory or name calling so I would get in touch with ebay and ask them to remove it as it, they may not do it but its worth a try and you are more likely to succeed if you have good feedback already, you have to go to customer support and contact ebay, you can phone them or do live chat I can't post a link you have to sign into your account

[sarahtigh]

you know you are not a scammer but the buyer may have had items not arrive before, and it is perfectly possible that the item has actually not arrived so it would not be reasonable to expect a buyer to just accept that you had posted it

i totally understand sending low value items out not signed for I do so as a business but only for things under £20 as you then claim from royal mail with your proof of posting

from buyers point of view they bought valuable item it did not arrive they ask you for tracking you do not have tracking only proof of postage they wait and then ask for refund, as you do not give refund they open case with ebay, you have no proof of delivery so case will always be found in buyers favour, ebay can not really find in sellers favour when there is no tracking and no evidence of delivery.

if you had refunded earlier you probably would not have not the negative, your reluctance to refund may have made it look like a scam

reply politely to feedback along lines of " sorry item did not arrive, proof of posting offered, glad you now have your refund" then add buyer to your blocked buyers list

you can ask buyer to revise feedback but they do not have to

[DoJo]

I don't understand why you wouldn't use a racked service when you can charge the buyer for it anyway? Or is it that you charged them for special delivery and then posted it normally and that's why they have accused you of being a scammer?

[DoJo]

*tracked service

[teetering13]

I have a website and 3 parcels have gone missing in 4 years .. I sold on ebay for less than 6 months and had 4 go missing ...

You can't sell on ebay without protecting yourself against the scammer buyers ... tbh I think it's just common knowledge how easy it is to scam a seller that even the ones that haven't stole in their life will still go for it on ebay

I packed it in ... you have thieves both ends robbing you, the buyers and ebay itself :(

[ARealDame]

I had a similar experience, and it is strange how emotional it can all get -I think we all have to learn from experience, unfortunately!.

In the end I just think you just have to accept these "blips" in ebay. Buyers have a right to give poor feedback, even if it is v. upsetting and even sometimes unfair.

If you are a good Seller generally, it is will all even out in the end. Few people can keep up 100% positive feedback, its just unrealistic. Think of all the positive sales and positive feedback.

(But perhaps it is true, it is weighted to big sellers now).

Hope you're feeling better about it now x

[cheerfulweather]

Can ebay alter or remove the feedback? They can't be allowed to call you a scammer or a cheat, surely?

Ebay is too heavily weighted in favour of the buyer. I had four of five non-paying bidders out of 20 recently, had to open a case before I could relist and have my fees credited back, can't leave negative feedback to warn other sellers either!

[TidyDancer]

eBay are utter cunts for this. They always always side with the buyer and the feedback system is massively unfair since they now refuse to allow the seller to leave negative feedback.

I got stung by a skanky bitch who claimed she didn't receive some boots she bought from me. She wasn't too bright however, and in the emails that we batted back and forth, she mentioned something about the boots that hadn't been in the original listing so I knew she'd received them but still eBay refused to look any further into it they refunded the thieving bitch and took money from me to cover it.

I do not sell on eBay unless I can help it.

[TidyDancer]

Can't help it, I meant!

[lakia]

Okay thank you for all your replies.
I offered free postage to attract the buyers so tried to keep my costs down I was also offering the item at a good affordable price.
I have been experiencing some money problems of late and needed the money badly now I am in an even worse mess as I dodn,t have the money that Ebay saying they are going to takeon the 18th this month its simply not going to be there in my account I really dont know what to do.

[lakia]

I have sent lots of items before with no problem I took the chance and its backfired.

[BreadNameBread]

If you add up all the times that you have saved yourself money by not sending items by tracked mail you may find it is more than the amount that you have lost on this transaction. IYSWIM This doesn't help with this situation but it may make you feel better.