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Are bare shoulders acceptable in work?

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nothingbyhalves · 10/07/2013 23:15

Am a teacher in a comp. today I considered wearing a strappy top. Nothing see through . Just a top with thin straps. I didn't wear it because my shoulders would have been exposed. But did think to myself what is the problem with shoulders?
In work a colleague was spoken to about wearing a strapless top by a senior member of staff who was wearing a dress with thin shoulder straps.

So what is acceptable? And when did shoulders become something seductive?

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rabbitlady · 11/07/2013 04:13

you should be fully covered in school, no strappy tops, no strapless tops, no cleavage in any direction and a skirt that reaches your knees (top of knee is fine, any thigh exposure isn't). nothing lycra.

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MidniteScribbler · 11/07/2013 04:20

What about teaching PE rabbitlady? Or when we take students swimming?

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Want2bSupermum · 11/07/2013 04:29

When considering my workwear I like to think along the lines of 'Would a man be ok dressing like this?' For that reason I don't wear sandals or expose my underarms. I do wear short sleeved tops/dresses. I always wear tights or stockings too. I don't want men to ever think they can expose their feet, underarms or not wear socks.

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PeriodMath · 11/07/2013 04:32

Good point. Imagine a male teacher showing up to work in a wife-beater.

I think it dies depend on your workplace but in a school? Go conservative I'm afraid. If you're exposing more skin than your pupils, you need to rethink the outfit.

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imademarion · 11/07/2013 06:43

YABU. It's school not the beach.

You don't need to provide any unnecessary distraction.

Shoulders have been 'sexy' for centuries. Winterhalter?

What's wrong with dressing professionally? Teachers in the tropics do it daily. In my school, they also wore black academic gowns!

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katydid02 · 11/07/2013 06:46

It's against the dress code at the school I work in.

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nkf · 11/07/2013 06:52

A strappy top is a bit beach wear, I think. What about bare arms? I have been wondering about this. Other people in my workplace do, but the very senior people seem to keep their jackets on at all times.

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HoratiaNelson · 11/07/2013 07:40

There's nothing intrinsically wrong with having your shoulders out - it depends on the item of clothing. I wear dress suits for work, and the dresses are sleeveless, in this weather, if I'm in the office I take my jacket off and voila! I have bare shoulders. It is neither problem or unprofessional. If you wear either a properly tailored sleeveless dress, or you can get sleeveless tops which don't have so much of a strap, but quite a substantial width, then you'll be perfectly acceptably dressed.

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MrsMelons · 11/07/2013 07:50

Sleeveless is fine but not strappy.

I work in an office so it can be a bit more flexible but unless I know I am in the office with just one or two people I wouldn't usually wear a strappy top but often wear sleeveless ones as it looks a bit more formal.

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Helpyourself · 11/07/2013 07:56

I've worn a vest top at school. However it was in a v hot classroom, reception and I wore a jacket outside the classroom.

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orangeandemons · 11/07/2013 07:59

Absolutely not. Inappropriate. In our school, the 6th formers aren't allowed to wear them.

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ScarletLady02 · 11/07/2013 08:12

I used to wear strappy tops at work all the time, so I suppose it depends where you work. This was at a big London office where the men had to wear suits. I really struggled wearing anything else because I suffer from a form of Urticaria. I get overheated incredibly easily (even in winter) and come out in big horrible itchy hives, which were pretty debilitating until I finally managed to get taken seriously by the doctor and get some proper medication. Even walking into town in a t-shirt would make it happen, and a hot bath used to make me swell up so badly I could feel my throat closing.

I think if worn in the right way they can look professional, but I can understand people not agreeing with me. I just had to make do with what I was physically able to wear and be comfortable at work. My boss never had an issue. But obviously this wasn't a school so I can't comment there.

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soontobeburns · 11/07/2013 08:23

Oh guess im unprofessional then. Oh well its only a temp job Grin

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ThreeMusketeers · 11/07/2013 08:29

Not a professional look for teachers.

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echt · 11/07/2013 08:35

I think the flesh revelation is less about the arms, as sleeveless dresses seem acceptable, but the strappy top exposes chest, shoulders and back, and is usually, though not always, cut lower in the front.

I wouldn't do it myself.

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Bonsoir · 11/07/2013 08:37

Sleeveless blouses and dresses are fine in very hot weather but strappy tops are very unprofessional. As a rule of thumb, if you uncover one normally covered area of your body, be reasonably modest with the rest.

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imademarion · 11/07/2013 08:38

If you really cannot cope with the heat, something loose in linen has been proven, for centuries, to be your best bet.

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2rebecca · 11/07/2013 09:25

It doesn't look seductive, it just looks sloppy and unprofessional. Why do so many people think they have to take their clothes off to be cool? A loose cotton long sleeved top will be cooler than a tight strappy one.

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OctopusPete8 · 11/07/2013 09:37

I don't think a strapless maxi dress with like a necklace would look too bad.

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echt · 11/07/2013 09:40

Strapless maxi? In a school?? Trying to imagine the moment the teacher puts her foot in the hem and pulls the top of the maxi down.

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orangeandemons · 11/07/2013 11:02

Heh heh at strapless maxi! All those adolescent boys and their rampaging hormones...

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happygirl87 · 11/07/2013 11:05

When I worked in retail (in last 5 years) tops had to have straps which were minimum 1.5 inches thick, and the bosses would measure with a tape measure.......

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meganorks · 11/07/2013 11:12

I have a vest top that I think is suitable in the office - wide straps, high neck, loose linen type fit. But thin straps I would say no, and strapless definitely not! That said in my office you can wear what you want so would probably be ok.

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BadRoly · 11/07/2013 11:15

I wouldn't (and didn't) in a secondary school but I have an ample bosom and wouldn't want to make hormone ravaged teenagers lives any more awkward!

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Damnautocorrect · 11/07/2013 11:53

I second no to spaghetti straps, yes to wider straps.

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