AIBU to think that 7am on a Sunday is far too early for kids to be out playing?

[lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain]

I'll lay my cards on the table early: DH and I have no.children yet. I also quite like the sound of children playing (not the screechers, mind)

BUT... 7am on a Sunday? I remember as a kid that we weren't allowed out until at least 9am or something on a normal day, let alone a day when it is universally acknowledged that most people are enjoying a bit of a lie in.

Not only are they loud but the noise they make as they jump off kerbs on their scooters is horrendous.

Grrrrr!

Ours don't go out until 10am.

Our old neighbours used to let theirs out whenever they woke up, usually 6.30-7. I found it very annoying not least because they were SO noisy and the parents would have been up until 3-4am keeping us awake. Don't miss them at all!

It doesn't bother me when neighbours have Late night bbqs.

I don't complain about my neighbours making a noise.

If you live near people sometimes you might hear them when it's not convenient. Tough shit.

I don't expect the whole street to work round my dds nap and I don't expect you wanting to laze about in bed to affect when my dd is allowed to play.

Get a grip, the world does not revolve around you wanting a lie in. It carries right on.

It is your problem to solve. Move to house with no neighbours or by ear plugs

Yanbu. It is horribly selfish. I can't begin to understand how some of you can defend it!!

I wouldn't let mine out till 9am...although both dcs slept till 10 this morning

YANBU at all! I nearly went over and complained but someone else clearly did cos they suddenly stopped. Maybe you live on my road, OP!

HerrenaHarridan

yes its called common courtesy.

On the flip side I don't expect your DD playing to affect when I lie in bed, she is your problem to solve, keep her inside during the early hours or teach her how to play quietly.

Does anyone keep their children in between 11 and 3? It's not the middle east, you're in England, ad thats most of the day. Ever heard of sun cream and hats?

Yanbu

YANBU
Everyone should stay at home until a time that suits you.

Maybe you could make an announcement on your local radio or do a leaflet drop.

Yes what?

Dd is not a problem to be solved. She is a normal kid who wakes up in the morning. She doesn't have an off switch for when she's not convenient.

I just don't get why you honestly believe the rest of the world should tip toe round you.

You need to learn coping mechanisms if it bothers you that much

I agree, YANBU.

Mine are 3 and 5 and very noisy.

I don't let them play outside until about 9am.

*HerrenaHarridan

"Dd is not a problem to be solved. She is a normal kid who wakes up in the morning. She doesn't have an off switch for when she's not convenient."

But you can kick her outside for when her noise is not convenient for you.

She's my problem if she's screaming outside my window at 7am on sunday morning, and you'd soon find you had a problem too.

Well, our neighbours are happy to sit out BBQ'ing until the early hours in this good weather so I have no problem with ds playing out as early as he wants to.

nice for your other neighbours, to have to put up with both of you. Late nights and early morning, lucky them!

exactly BoneyBack - parents are kicking these kids out so they can get a lie in or a break - and everyone around has to share the noise

My 3 have no problems staying in doors until 8:30/9am - they aren't desperate to go out - they play in their rooms, eat breakfast (make me a cup of tea in bed ) - I don't understand why parents find it so hard to entertain them indoors for a bit

No I can't she requires constant supervision, as a lone parent I don't really have convenience as an option.

But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street

You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you.
People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored.

I have trained my dd to sleep with a lullaby cd on to create a sound barrier between her and what ever noise is going in. I do not expect everyone else to shut up for her, I found a solution to our problem ie noise at nap time and bedtime because that was OUR problem to solve.

I certainly did not think the solution to that problem was to go round to my neighbours and complain about them making a noise when my kid was trying to nap, can you imagine!

"Excuse me mr/s NDN but half past 7 is my daughters bed time and she finds it difficult to get to sleep when you have your tv on that loud but don't worry in return for you ceasing all noise when convenient for me I will keep dd seen and not heard till 9/10"

YANBU

We've had the family from further down the road screaming and squabbling over bikes from 7am this morning. Followed by continual knocking for my kids from 8am

If they want to scream at each other, they should do it outside their own house - but then they'd be annoying their own parents and that won't do

I am a single parent of 3 - 2 have SEN - I manage to keep them in

sorry, but that's way too early - DD nipped into the garden at 7.30 this morning (door was open in kitchen for cats) - I hoicked her back in smartish. I had a summer of neighbours doing this a few tears back, pre-DD, every Saturday and Sunday their kids were out at 7.30, for about 6 weeks. I do not have loud parties every single weekend. In fact, I've had a loud party about 3 times in the 9 years I've lived here. If I did have a loud party till the wee hours every weekend, I would expect the neighbours to complain - and rightly so. It's called living with others.

HH - if you are so insistent that your kids have to be out at that hour (they have of course more than enough hours to be outside, surely - 9 till say 6 not enough?) then you move to the backside of nowhere where you can teach your kids to be as inconsiderate as you.

Sheesh.

few tears? few years.

YABU. And I say that as someone who has no children and slept into 10am this morning. Next doors youngest was up about 6am, I registered that and went back to sleep.

Everyone needs to be a bit tolerant, we put up with their kid noise, they put up with our watching films late at night. They sometimes tell their kid to be quiet and we turn our films down if it's late. If you want total quiet then move to an isolated house in the country, in reality we all have to adjust to each others noise.

I used to work shifts and often I'd be sleeping in the day. Should everyone forbid their kids from playing in the street between 9am and 3pm because I am trying to sleep?

HerrenaHarridan

"But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street"

That would be because

1. she is your DD
2. In the garden for you would be less noise

"You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you."

The compromise is that between 0900 and whatever time she goes to bed I do not come round and complain about the squeeling, laughing, crying, slamming around and general noises that children make.

"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."

been there tried that, a little over 6 months worth of ear infections and sinus problems.

"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."

Earplugs do not stop the thumping vibrations of those wretched scooters.

It's a lovely day.

We don't get many, let the kids enjoy it.

Yabu.