To be upset about this text sent to DP.

[qazxc]

"You fucker, you never told me you had an STD. What am i going to tell my husband"

I know that DP has been sent this because he told me. he said that he got this next late last night from an unknown number. I suspect that it is some sort of "joke" text as i would imagine the likelyhood of DP straying (presumably with more than one woman, one to catch STD and one to pass it on too) is as likely as him taking a cheese grater to his gonads. I absolutely trust him 100%.

What upsets me is the idiot that sent this. What was their game? Presumably they know DP (to have his number). Do they realise that if our relationship was less strong or open it could have split us up? Why would they want to do that? in what universe was text funny?

I guess i am touchy about the cheating subject as both my parents were serial cheats and it marred our childhood (Dad is now living with his long term mistress, mum had serial affairs as revenge/to get attention from dad and ended up running off with one of the blokes). AIBU to let it get to me, would it bug you?

[ProperStumped]

How are you OP?

[mumandboys123]

dig deep....anything bothering you?

I trusted my ex husband 100%. He had no time for affairs or anything else. Worked hard, came home every night. Kissed me good bye in the mornings and hello in the evenings. Said I love you all the time.

None of that stopped him from having an affair for several years and an account with an 'adult dating' website.

I knew. For the last 6 months, before I walked out, I knew. Not that he was having an affair, not that he was shagging all and sundry...I just knew something was wrong. As I say, dig deep, be honest and see if anything is bothering you.

If not, it's probably some idiot who thinks this kind of thing is 'funny'. Just keep your radar on full alert.

[OHforDUCKScake]

Tbf to the OPs DH my reaction would have been anger.

For all the reasons the OP stated. What if she didnt trust him? What if they werent solid? It could have split them up.

That would have made me angry, and Id have bent their ear too.

[theoriginalandbestrookie]

How awful for you ninja - what a weird response from his sisters, it seems utterly bizarre to break up a relationship over that with no other evidence.

DH got a weird text on Sunday it read "Did you manage to get her leather trousers off?". I was very but produced it calmly to DH - turns out it was about the fact he was on Robot wars hundreds of years ago and Philippa was wearing leather trousers so it was a bit of banter about something that happened before he even met me.

If you have reason to doubt your partner then I'd take something like this a bit more seriously, but people in real life rarely send texts like this, it's more likely to be private facebook messages and emails if someone is doing the dirty, oh and they wouldn't rush to show it to their partner either.

[TheFallenNinja]

I received a text strikingly similar to this about 3 years ago. I got home, showed it to DP, we had a laugh, I didn't know who it was from either.

Later that week I got home to find my partner drunk with her sisters, bags packed and was told that there must have been something in it and got given my marching orders. I pointedly denied it. No use.

I knew nothing about it, didn't know the number. So here I am 3 years later, divorced.

These texts are insanely damaging.

[flipchart]

It could be that the person is known to your husband but they sent it to the wrong name in their phone book eg if your husbands name is Alistair and they meant to send it to Alan?

I know I sent a text to my boss saying ' you fucking idiot' Her name was Carol and I meant to send it to Caroline as a joke response to something bonkers that she (Caroline) had done!
I was for ages!

[wigglesrock]

Years ago there was a whole rake of these doing the rounds :

You've got my daughter pregnant

You're sacked

You've given me an STD

You've been caught speeding

The calls came to your home phone - one of those silly joke lines.

I would assume that the text was just a progression of that, it wouldn't occur to me that it was an error in number etc. Nor would I bother chasing it up - the wording is very generic , your husband's actual name isnt in the text is it?

[Alisvolatpropiis]

monty

[Rulesgirl]

So sorryWorra I missed a whole page of this thread.

[montysma1]

I accidently sent a photo of my baby to a wrong number with the caption (for reasons of an in joke between myself and the intended recipient): Who's the daddy?

Somewhere there must have been a furious female or a terrified male!

[WorraLiberty]

Rules as I said, I missed the husband part.

[RiotsNotDiets]

Happily though, men can have husbands too

[WhiteBirdBlueSky]

Yes, scam, or daft joke.

[Rulesgirl]

Well it sort of does "Worra". It says what will I tell my husband.

[scrumpkin]

Google the number.

I had some very generic texts ie: "hey it's been ages, lets hook up" sent last year. I don't know anybody who would say that who's number I didn't have and said to my husband "wtf is this?" Thinking he might know.

Googled and it was some scam making money from each reply they got.

[longingforsomesleep]

Given the OPs experiences growing up I don't suppose she would laugh at a text accusing her DH of infidelity. And no doubt mindful of the damage her parents' infidelity caused the OP, it's not really surprising her DH was angry about the text is it?

[ExcuseTypos]

I was recently sent a picture of a cock and I'm not talking about the bird variety.

As its not the kind of thing my friends would do, I presumed it was a wrong number and deleted it. My dh just said 'oh righty' and carried on eating his breakfast

Anyway OP, I'm sure it's a wrong number, just ignore it.

[StuntGirl]

Very odd reaction - from both of you. If I got that text I'd show my partner and we'd laugh at it.

[dreamingbohemian]

I agree that his reaction seems a bit OTT.

Why would he be angry that this text might threaten his marriage, when he could have just rolled his eyes, deleted the text and never told you about it.

Dirty slapper

[ProperStumped]

Something doesn't sit right with me here (and I've just written that on another thread as well

He seems to be ever so angry about it..... and ime, when people are lying, or guilty, they over dramatise about this kind of stuff to try and convince you that they know nothing about it.

[ChipsNEggs]

I once got a text thanking Sue for her gift of dirty knickers after a filthy meet. I googled the number and the sender was a right pervert. It could have caused ructions if I was in a relationship though.

[SarahAndFuck]

OP a bloke my DH used to work with played a similar 'joke' on DH, picking nights when DH was working night shifts etc so it looked like he was out with another woman.

And the joker did find it funny that DH was ringing the number to find out who it was.

Best to ignore the actual message sender, but I agree with the others, it might be best to get checked out yourself.

[propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS]

Only thing to do is ride your husband bare then go for an std check in a month or so. That way lies the truth.....

[Boomba]

oh

[Bobyan]

Google the number, if its a scam you might find it.