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To assume that someone that refers to you as a friend, would actually be one

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freedom567 · 12/06/2013 21:21

Honestly, I just want to understand something. A fellow mum with same age ds as mine (possibly my ds best friend age 7) quite often refers to me as her friend, when she is in conversation with others....but never invites me to any of her social occasions. It was her birthday a few weeks ago, and I dropped off a card - it was a special birthday - she hasn't even acknowledged that I did so, and she had a birthday party last weekend which I found out about from someone else....I wasn't invited. I don't mind being left out of the loop but she keeps telling everyone what a good friend I am........??.?. I just don't get it, why do people insist on playing around with other people's feelings...

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WestieMamma · 12/06/2013 21:31


I have a 'friend' like this. All gushing to others and on Facebook about what good friends we are, when the reality is that I only ever hear from her when she's wants something. It's taken a while for me to see it.


SisterMatic · 12/06/2013 21:37

My personal favourite..telling you how good a friend you are but never mentioning you to anybody.When they meet up with others they post gushing statuses about how amazing they are, what a brilliant time they've had with @joe bloggs.

Not a word about you.
Think it is a facebook thing. I try not to pay too much attention but I do notice these things.


SisterMatic · 12/06/2013 21:38

That makes me sound quite needy [cringe] its not something that bothers me just an observation I have made from facebook lol


HollyBerryBush · 12/06/2013 21:40

Your children are friends (what ever that means at 7yo) - you are anacquaintance with the parent.


freedom567 · 12/06/2013 21:55

I agree hollyberry, and if it wasn't for the kids I wouldn't bother.....

Thanks all for listening and posting! X

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raisah · 12/06/2013 22:01

Start referring to her as an acquaintance and hopefully she will get the hint.


Triumphoveradversity · 12/06/2013 22:35

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freedom567 · 13/06/2013 06:59

Raisah - I already do, and triumph your's about her needs - being the complet opposite myself I don't need lots of friends to make me feel good about myself - my kids and the effort I out into them and my health are my 'drivers'.....was just at a low point in the month (you know the regular one) and it has just got to me this month!

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