AIBU?
To mention this to DS's teacher
Tweasels · 12/05/2013 18:54
DS is 8 in Year 3. He has told me some things that a friend (same class) has told him. The first incident was when DS asked me what spunk was? After choking on my tea and asking about context he said X told him about it. X said spunk comes out of your willy and you put it on girls faces, boobs and bums. 
Second incident in the car yesterday, DS pipes up that X has told him that if his mum is nasty to him he is going to stick his balls up her arse 
Obviously, this has led me to have conversations with DS that go way beyond your average sex ed chat. Thankfully he's very naive and was quite uninterested.
X has older siblings, which is where I assume (hope) this language is coming from.
WIBU to mention this to DS's teacher as something to watch out for as I feel this is age inappropriate sexual language or am I being naive and this is the norm for 8 year olds (please tell me it's not).
BarbarianMum · 12/05/2013 19:02
The spunk thing, together with the complete misunderstanding of the sexual act is, unfortunately, entirely normal. Quite a lot of young boys who've heard a bit about sex (but not much about anatomy) imagine that the willy goes up the bum, presumably as that's the only hole they've got and don't know women are constructed differently. I wouldn't assume from that a child is aware of anal sex, necssarily.
The second comment is quite disturbing. Are X's siblings teenagers? I would probably mention it to their teacher, but in a fyi way rather than a 'do something about it' way.
SilveryMoon · 12/05/2013 19:04
Yes, I would definitely be talking to the school. Either teacher or welfare/pupil protection officer.
My ds1 (5yo Y1) came home talking about knives and how he was going to go to the kitchen when I was in bed, find his favourite knife and die himself.
I was straight on the phone the following morning to raise my concerns.
I do agree that the language your ds has picked up from this other boy is way way too above what he should be hearing and I wouldn't be happy at all.
Tweasels · 12/05/2013 19:06
stitch I thought about it being a CP issue. I know it's something I look out for in my line of work.
My instinct is that is that there is a lack of structure and supervision at home (just from other stuff DS has said). And I feel relatively confident that it won't be a CP issue but I think I'll speak to school and let them follow their procedures.
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