to want pics of my baby off a third party business page

[LadyGranulomaFortesque]

We attended a 1st birthday party last year and unbeknownst to me, one of the people there was in the process of setting up a photography business. I had no idea she was even taking pictures but a friend has just messaged me to say there are a few pics of my then six month old baby being used as promotion on her business Facebook page.

I am fuming - she didn't even ask even though she is a friend of a friend. I keep all of my pictures private and apart from a little cameo of me and my son together in my profile pic, there are NO pictures of him on Facebook and even pics of me are mostly private (I am weird like that).

I realise she took the pictures (covertly as today is the first time i have seen them) and I have sent her a polite message to take them down. Anyone have any idea where I stand legally if she refuses. I am so not happy about my little man being used as advertising for someone else's business. I feel like our privacy has been violated when I am normally so careful.

[IneedAsockamnesty]

Don't say anything at all about her grammar it will make you look like a knob and invalidate genuine concerns.

[differentnameforthis]

The photo's have been removed

Make sure you tell her that there is no apostrophe in photos & that as a consumer, this would put me right off using her services.

[GingerBlondecat]

? Davey? Are YOU the photographer?

what an odd responce to this. Have you read the whole thread ?

If you have then here have a

[maddening]

But Davey - she didn't ask permission and was then rude when she was asked very reasonably to remove the pics which is the op's legal right to do so. 

[MoonlightandRoses]

Yes, I remember those days, heaving my bulk wandering gaily along having a hot flush 'glowing', wearing a 'floaty' outfit...Not sure how, given that lot, but the due date really did arrive before I knew it.

So, two weeks to the bank holiday, then two weeks after that it's four weeks before and then...

[daveydavidson]

Wouldn't of bothered me at all if she asked permission. YAB a bit U and precious

[MrsSpagBol]

I hope so!!! I am so tired of being pregnant!

[MoonlightandRoses]

Ah, but this is a virtual one, so you're fine.

The nine weeks will fly in.

[MrsSpagBol]

Oh Moonlight I wish I could imbibe - 9 weeks to go!

[MoonlightandRoses]

MrsSB. Ditto and ?

[Purplehonesty]

Ooh this would have annoyed me too. When we got married a young videographer who was just starting up did our video. We didn't pay very much and there was no contract etc. he did a good job and we were very pleased.
However a few months later someone stopped me in the street and said they recognised me from my wedding video...I asked where they had seen it and they said the guy had been sending out copies of my full wedding DVD to potential clients! I was livid, I've no idea how many people had seen it, watched me cry during my vows and dancing with my dh.
To top it off we went to the cinema one night and our picture came up during the averts at the start, promoting his business!
I had to ask him about ten times to stop, eventually left him a very angry and ranty voicemail threatening legal action which his dad replied to stating our video would not be used again.
Talk about mad!!

[JenaiMorris]

Indeed.

Rarely but effectively, blowing a gasket is well worth it.

[MrsSpagBol]

Moonlight fair enough. Here: peace offering?

[StuntGirl]

Aw gutted I missed your response to her OP! She sounds like an absolute charlatan, what have your mutual friends said about the whole thing? I'd take a very dim view of one of my friends behaving like this.

[MoonlightandRoses]

MrsSB - Apologies, that certainly wasn't the intention - I'd simply responded as you'd mentioned my name in your last post - that's all. Hadn't found anything emotive or offensive in them and wasn't belittling your view-point, just re-stating mine.

[MrsSpagBol]

TBH Moonlight I still don't really understand why you picked on my posts specifically. I did not encourage any specific action in any of my posts (eg trashing her business), I just said I couldn't bear the issue being minimised as it was(in my view - which I believe I am entitled to) :

1. Common sense
   
2. Basic photography "etiquette"
   
3. Obvious business practice
   

That anyone should be expected to know, let alone a professional.

So my views still stand. I was bemused to be honest as to what you found so incredibly emotive and offensive about my specific posts. I didn't actually suggest any specific action in any of my initial posts.

[MoonlightandRoses]

Goodness, she showed her true colours. Glad the second response was rather more appropriate than the first. It might be worth tie-ing her into a timeline for removal too, which I am guessing she didn't provide in her second email. It is also worth flagging the issue with the ASA and other relevant bodies irrespective of the 'apology' if you feel she still doesn't understand what the problems in acting this way are.

MrsSB - my point still stands. Where there is no immediate risk, and there wasn't, one should not react in the way suggested until there is proof that one should. In this case proof was provided and LadyG acted on it.

[LadyGranulomaFortesque]

I know re the last line. I do agree but it was important, simply because it demonstrates that this was someone that clearly didn't like us but thought it was ok to take advantage.

[treas]

I think Op that you will be unlikely to receive an apology from this person as they are covering their arse should you take it further legally, as an apology would be seen as an admission of guilt.

[Blatherskite]

You diluted your point with that last line.

You should always have MN proof read your ranty emails first

[LadyGranulomaFortesque]

She has managed to apologise (for her responses, that I am unhappy), without ever apologising for the actual images, the advertisements or the distribution around the net..... so no, the penny clearly hasn't fully dropped.

She has focused more on the very last sentence than any other (touched a nerve?)

Just multiple apologies and an assurance that as soon as she has full access to the net that she will remove everything.

[JenaiMorris]

Ah, well it sounds like badbride is right about rockets

What has she said?

[MrsSpagBol]

Please expand on "sounds worried" - has the penny (finally) dropped?

[badbride]

...QED