A friend of mine will be having a night out soon, for her birthday (not significant age) and to celebrate something. I did say before that I would be going (this was a couple of months ago when she mentioned it).
Now though there is a clash of dates. There is something at DDs school that I didn't actually think she would be interested in but she is and wants to go so I am going to take her as its more of a priority over a night out and its something that she got really excited about when I asked her (I was making a bit of an assumption about her not wanting to do it and I was wrong). I am going to take her out for tea first and make it a bit of an occasion as I never get to spend time with just me and her now. It is on in the evening of this planned night out, but I would be home by about 8.30ish.
I admit I am having second thoughts about the night out anyway as I know my friend will invite a lot of people I don't know, and others I do but don't really have much to do with anymore, we used to be more of a group but I feel like I have drifted away from them really although my friend would tell me its not like that if I brought it up (but this would be if I actually see her, I don't see her much at all anymore, a case of she wants a catch up when she can fit me in somewhere). I feel very socially awkward around people I don't know or if there isn't some good friends there at least.
Another reason is another friend of mine is likely to be moving away and going to have a big goodbye night out just after this first night out. I definitely can't afford 2 nights out, plus they take their toll on my shite health so I go out very rarely and just suffer the consequences after. It has to be really worth it for me to go on a night out. A friend moving away for good would be more of a reason for me to suffer after, plus there would be a lot of people I know there as well and it wouldn't be after me taking DD out beforehand, which will tire me out.
I have a feeling that if I tell the first friend I can't go out for her birthday and celebration, then she isn't going to like it too much as she told me to mark it down months in advance as our next night out. Even apart from my health though (which is a reason in enough for me to only have 1 night out that month) I definitely can't afford 2 nights, plus there is the clash of events now.
WWYD and AIBU to say to first friend that I can't go on her night out now?
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CrapBag · 07/05/2013 20:10
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