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To want kind words and thanks rather than criticism

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fizzzness · 05/05/2013 15:25

I do pretty much all the housework and childcare in our house and with our 2 kids. Fair enough in some ways, DH works full time and when he's at home he pitches in.

If I do anything " wrong" then he's having a go at me. I.e. stuff I see as petty or a wee mistake. ( load the dish washer in the wrong order, let some food go past sell by date, not washed a plate properly etc.

This drives me mad as he doesn't notice or say thanks on a regular basis for ALL THE OTHER STUFF I DO all the time day in day out in order to keep the house and kids intact. All the stuff that leaves me no time or energy to do anything afuckingtall else. No thanks , just going off his head for the small things that escape me.

Aaagh, fucking hate this. When did I turn into a house wife.

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nenevomito · 05/05/2013 21:11

What Ruby says.

Constant criticism is just so wearing and unfair. You don't go into his work and point out where he's doing it wrong, so he should respect you back.

Either let him get on with it himself or say what Ruby suggests above.

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fizzzness · 05/05/2013 22:28

Humph. I hate it. It's so fucking cliched. What the hell am I doing in this stereotype?

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CoalDustWoman · 05/05/2013 23:39

fizzzness, can you suggest to him that he takes charge of washing up and food control? i.e. he stacks the dishwasher and keeps an eye on food stocks, letting you know what needs eating up first (or even cooks the food before the use-by date) or taking responsibility for freezing stuff before it goes off? What would he say to that?

It's not even the doing, is it? It's the thinking that goes along with it.

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C999875 · 06/05/2013 20:08

I can sympathise of course I can and he is unfair to criticsise you. You can only do your best and we are all entitled to our rants and down days. they're more than allowed! We all want to be appriciated and a little thank you on both sides never goes a miss.
However I am a single mum and I have to go out to work be a mum and look after the house and no one sees me as hero. I just have to get on with it. Which don't get me wrong I don't mind as I adore motherhood and work but like I said we all want a little well done and thanks now and again. xxx