To be scared of giving up smoking

[McNewPants2013]

I want to give up smoking, but I have failed many times.

Everytime I fail it really knocks my confidence and my self esteem.

I hate smoking, I feel guilty that the money I spend on smoking could be used to pay off debt or treat the kids. I am sick of smelling like smoke, wasting my break times by going out for a smoke.

I have tried everything to give up but a few bad days with my son my stress levels goes through the roof and I give in and buy another packet of cigarettes.

I gave up smoking 13 years ago. Thought about it every day and started again this year. Would never give up again.

This probably doesn't help

Please don't be scared! It really is the most brilliant thing to do. You will not live the rest of your life craving cigarettes, I absolutely promise you.

But you do have to give it more than just a few days . I think a smoking cessation counsellor could really help you. You just need to adjust your thinking and really believe you will be a happy non-smoker. You will, honest.

I would like to quit, but like another poster up top mentioned I like to smoke

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This is what I'm frantically puffing on tonight... (or something eerily similar) and there's a 'new' habit/ritual to it... which suits me for now. I don't LIKE it as much as a cigar, but when I reach my trigger points of desparation it DOES work.

Obviously this is only 'step one' in quitting, and I've not reached step two yet (actually not being a slave to nicotine) but the really NASTY stuff (tar and chemicals) I don't miss.

I got menthol, but then I like menthol and it does feel like you're inhaling something (part of the habit I like rather than the addiction) downside, I suspect I smell of socks... but my non smoking friends say I smell far better than usual.

I bought this starter kit 4 months ago, still on my first pot of nicotine, so actually, I'm doing well, and not as addicted to the drug as I thought. DH has smoked less 'actual' cigs than me since we started (I have had the odd 10 pack on a night out and felt like SHIT) but he's on his second pot'o'nico. x It feels like a hefty investment at first, but perhaps because of that I'm more likely to reach for my crack pipe than drive to the shop...

That's the stage I'd like to get to Worra, and it would be comforting that if I was tempted, I would have the E.lite sitting in a drawer, so I wouldn't go out and cadge 'just one' from a neighbour or buy a packet of 10.
Then it's the slippery slope.

I should add, I was scared too.

That's why the E.Lites were so good for me because I didn't have to give up real cigarettes. I used to smoke both at first and gradually depended more on the E.Cig.

I swear I'm not on any kind of commission

It's just that if I could go from 30/40 fags per day, down to nothing then I know anyone can.

I always found that most people I knew who gave up, didn't really smoke a great deal in the first place.

I need to do this too, my kids hate that I smoke Is the womens Allan Carr book best or just the normal one?

Yes yes yes to Alan Carr. Nothing at all to be scared about. You have to keep smoking while you read it (its great, reading a stopping smoking book while puffing away) but it really does work and you will do it. All those times I thought I would be killing for a fag...no problem.
My absolute favourite smoking times ever were on hot holidays. So a year later I wondered how I would feel when I was lying on a beach in the heat. I made myself think about it. I didn't crave it. it was like thinking about an ex boyfriend...nice memories, enjoyed being with him at the time, but had absolutely no desire to be with him again.

If you really want to stop get down to the library and borrow the ooh. Don't rush through it. Read every word carefully, follow all instructions and make sure you understand everything he says. It will work. It is amazing.

I read the women's book. Just a couple of extra chapters and something's are slightly veered more to a woman's viewpoint.

Just order the e-cig from the link.

I think I will set Monday as my quit date as I have a big birthday party this weekend so I am planning on being a binge drinker which of course means you smoke more.

See I found the Alan Carr book interesting and it really did change my way of thinking.

But what it didn't do was take away the nicotine craving. You know that sort of craving where you want to rip someone's fucking head off for no reason?

So despite the book (and the £150 course which was a con) I still ended up smoking.

Don't despair McNew. I recently read somewhere that the average person takes 7 attempts before they succeed in giving up.

I found thinking about my triggers and trying to avoid them helped enormously.

As someone else said you sound as if you're at the stage where you hate it enough to give up. That was something I found very helpful, keep telling yourself what the negatives are.

And put aside all the money you would have otherwise have set light to and treat yourself to something nice.

Good luck. It is doable.

This time I am not going to tell anyone I am doing it ( just like my 5th driving test that I passed)

Yay you ordered it, good luck

Actually I went out for a meal the other evening and I spotted a couple of E.Cig 'smokers' standing with the real smokers puffing away outside.

Worra you are normally right on here so have every faith in it :)

Good luck to anyone else giving up

Oh fuck now I'm scared!

I DO like that the e-cig has a Marlboro looking pack... that's the smoker in me speaking obviously.

My Vaporiser looks like a neuroliser from Men In Black... it's the little things that make the big things work

(It even has a light)

YES my GP is still cross because I'm still an addict and the health service will probably never recommend them because you're still addicted to nicotine. But, to quote some supermarket of other, every little helps.

I saw a BEAUTIFUL (and very trendy) girl enter a pub the other night, all dolled up, no bag, vaoporiser in hand... she looked very Sci Fi. And the other pluse side is that you can still hang out with the random cafe society that are smokers.

No two people are the same.

For me, the book, combined with gum (just for 1 week though) was what eventually helped me stop after multiple attempts. I had cravings but they were manageable. Now, as another poster said, nicotine is like an ex boyfriend. Nice while it lasted. Still sometimes remember them, but know its better that they're gone for good.

Patches were no good for me, they work for others.

Good luck and keep trying. It's now 16 months since I quit... The longest since I was 16 years old (I'm now 34). One thing the book has helped with... I know I'm not the type that can have just one and I'm pretty sure I'll never smoke again.

Good luck.

Worra

Disclaimers I don't hold worra in any way responsible if I do not get on with the e-cig trying it is solely down to my own discretion :)

Hi - I tried everything - but found my will power was weak every time. Im now trying an app on my phone which is quite helpful - it allows me smoking breaks and shows me how much ive saved in cash so far. Hoepfully ill be able to give up completely using it itunes.apple.com/gb/app/smoke-alarm/id588344270?mt=8

Alan Carr did nothing for me. Then I went into hospital with pneumonia. Seeing the woman next to me on a 22 hour a day breathing machine made me stop. Use an E-Cig and haven't smoked for nearly a year.

I had smoked for 46 years and rolled my own. It was my friend, my saviour, my prop, my down-time. I thought I'd never live without smoking. I resented every minute I couldn't have one for the first 4 months, then it got easier. After 8 months I was fine, although I still use the E-Cig.

Good Luck OP - you can do it.