AIBU?
to wonder wtf my xp is playing at?
littlemisssarcastic · 06/04/2013 20:44
XP and I are not on speaking terms. He has not seen DD for months now, because he chooses to spend his spare time with his latest g/f's DS instead. (Another thread about that on here somewhere.)
He does not pay maintenance, and I have now closed the CSA case.
Why oh why, when he apparently begrudges DD a penny of child support is he approaching my DS and his best friend in our local town and buying them drinks?
Why oh why, when he apparently can't spare DD any of his precious time, does he approach my DS and his friend in our local town and want to spend any time chatting to them, ensconsing himself in their group of friends and acting like he is up on bloody stage??
I am not comfortable at all with xp talking to DS, and xp knows that DS or his friend doesn't even like him, but the offer of a free drink was just too tempting. 
Why would he want to buy them a drink FGS? Why can't he just fuck off and leave my family alone?
Disclaimer: XP has no idea that I know about this. I was only informed today, and XP didn't use this as a way of asking after DD, or of digging for any info on me, so why would he even bother?
DS doesn't like XP, his friend doesn't like XP, they both think he is a twat. XP knows this I think.
I never know what to expect with XP, so maybe am reading too much into this, but for the love of god, if you had a bad history with someone, why oh why would you approach a member of their close family in town and buy them drinks, talk general crap with them??
(the good stuff)littlemisssarcastic · 06/04/2013 21:12
That sounds quite plausible actually Neo.
Apparently, DS and his friend were in a large group of friends, young men and women, and xp left his g/f on the outskirts of the group, and positioned himself right in the middle to ensure he had everyone's attention while he basically showed off. 
littlemisssarcastic · 06/04/2013 21:15
Thanks quote.
I guess I am concerned because I just don't trust XP as far as I can throw him. He always ends up having an ulterior motive. I have never known him to do something for nothing.
I suppose I am wondering what to expect, if anything now?
ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 06/04/2013 21:46
I suppose it would be unacceptable to ask your son to say, when offered a drink "No ta, I'd rather have the cash, I can give it to my mum and then at least you'll have contributed £3 to your daughter"
If nothing else, I bet your ex would never try to approach them again!
I know, I know, that is really horrible advice and you shouldn't take it seriously, but wouldn't you just wish you could do something like that to humiliate the tosser?
MammaTJ · 06/04/2013 21:49
I suppose it would be unacceptable to ask your son to say, when offered a drink "No ta, I'd rather have the cash, I can give it to my mum and then at least you'll have contributed £3 to your daughter"
What Hecsy said really. If your DS is old enough to drink, he is old enough to be choosy who he drinks with surely!!
littlemisssarcastic · 06/04/2013 22:06
I expressed my disgust at DS that he even accepted a drink from XP, and told him that I'd rather wished he'd thrown the pint over XP's head.
I am disappointed in DS, and although I understand that DS does not want to get involved in the bad feeling that exists between XP and I, and does not like confrontation, I still fee, at the very least, he should have declined.
I wish DS had said No ta, I'd rather have the cash, I can give it to my mum and then at least you'll have contributed £3 to your daughter or even No ta, I'd rather have the cash, that will go towards the hundreds you stole from my bank account. When can I expect the rest?
I suppose DS just couldn't see further than the sparkling pint of beer being presented to him.
DS's first loyalty is often to friends, beer and work before his family. He has virtually no empathy.
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