Dh has just announced he is going out tonight and tomorrow night. I have a week old baby and 2 other children under 5. AIBU to feel mightily pissed off with him

[Mugglewhump]

i have just arrived home from visiting my Mum on mothers day with all 3 children. As I walked through the door and just as DH's parents arrive at the house he announces to me "by the way I forgot I am going out tonight and also tomorrow night" He brought tickets for 2 comedy nights a few months ago (and would have known full well we would have had a newborn baby)

His will be going out just before bath and bedtime so i will have to bath 2 under 5's and get them to bed whilst the newborn screams as it will coincide with the time newborn ds normally cluster feeds.

Aibu to feel pissed off about this? I will have to sit on my own this evening with a baby plugged into my boob who i can't put down feeling pissed off, upset and knackered and to top it all its bloody Mothers day. I am fuming. Dh went out only 1wk ago to see Harry Hill (this was when i was 8 days overdue and could have gone into labour at anytime) but I was fine with this as thought I would be v miserable to moan and make him stay at home with me.

In 1wks time he has to go to Prague for a week with work so he will get rest and sleep whilst yet again I am left literally holding the baby! Am i being a miserable cow as Dh has just told me?

[landrover]

bumping to find out what happened?

[SweetSeraphim]

The second night out was on Monday fatnfrumpy!

[fatnfrumpy]

Came late to this thread!
I suspect the OP DH has not gone out hence why no update.
They are having an early night catching up on sleep!
Ironically Marcus Brigstock is married to a doula and baby massage expert!
I,m pretty sure both of them would not condone a fan for attending a show leaving a newly delivered wife home alone with three youngsters!

[SweetSeraphim]

I think that's fairly obvious, sadly.

[CurlyhairedAssassin]

Hope you're ok. Have read all this hoping that he came through... But fear the silence means he failed the test....

[Tolly81]

Just belatedly read this whole thread about the turd of a husband. Muggle what happened? Hope you're ok and weren't on solo duty again last night

[Gigaflops]

Holding thumbs for Muggle - I hope he stayed in last night but fear that the silence means he didn't!! Thinking of you...

[dreamingbohemian]

Hope you're okay Muggle

[LittleMissFantabulous]

What a knobrash that man was. I sincerely hope he decided to be a man instead of a muppet and that you all had a lovely evening last night.

[notnagging]

Alarm bells would be ringing for me op. I'd rather be on my own then with someone that selfish. So what if he cooked & bathed the kids?! That's what you do day in day out. Paternity leave is for help & support not a holiday. I'd also be asking who he's going with. Sorry op but he is a prize twat.

[ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged]

The baby's a week old zippey! She doesnt want to go out. She just wants her dh to stop being a nob.

[zippey]

What about doing swapsies and you going out and leaving him with children instead? Formula milk for the little one.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I hope he didn't. I hope he took the babies, sorted them, sent Muggle to bed with a hot water bottle and dealt with everything. Unless you come back OP, that's what I'm going to hope.

[Marcheline]

He went, didn't he?

Muggle, I hoPe you're ok.

[mathanxiety]

And I agree with everything AThing said.

[mathanxiety]

Hoping you will be greeting him with the business end of a heavy duty frying pan if he goes out tonight and dares to return.

He is a knob. Not just for what he has done but for playing mind games with a woman who has a week old baby and two others to care for. That bespeaks a man with some sort of real problem.

[KatOD]

He sounds like a seriously manipulative, spoilt twat. He should be looking after you not playing mind games with you while you're exhausted in order to try to get his own way.

Anyway, I think you prob get the general message here so enough with the husband-bashing for the mo, hope you're ok.

[ChairmanWow]

Hope you're okay and working things out OP

[StanleyLambchop]

I suspect he has gone out, and the OP is now busy with a new born on her own.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

We need to know...

[YouTheCat]

Has he gone out then?

[YellowAndGreenAndRedAndBlue]

I'm agreeing with AThing again. I think he is being extremely manipulative now.

[Bartlet4America]

Not saying anything new here, but if that were my DH, I'd probably kill him.

Then bring him back to life, and kill him again. all in the name of hormones, of course.

Seriously though, don't let him disrespect you in your role as a Mother to HIS children and don't let him disrespect your children by getting his priorities all fucked up.

Hope you and your DC are okay.

[motherinferior]

He really is living in an alternative universe

I seem to remember that a week after having both my babies I was exhausted and non-functional. And actually my partner was pretty damn knackered too what with being on childcare duty 24/7. This is not unusual, dammit, it's how most people operate with new babies. Not swanning off to comedy bloody nights.

[GregBishopsBottomBitch]

Yeah tweet him, because that would be hilarious to be put in his place.