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to be againt the death penalty?

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BaresarkBunny · 16/02/2013 14:24

With the Jon Venables and Robert Thompson pictures and hideous comments that have beem circling, this is a subject I have been thinking about alot, so in fact that it has been keeping me awake at night.

I am against the death penalty and i feel it has no place in a civilised society. It's not just because I think it's quite difficult to unkill someone if they are later found innocent but also for the definitely guilty.

However I'm struggling with the fact that I can't honestly say that I would be anti it if it were my loved one that was killed. (this does not relate to the above because I would never believe that if the perpetrators were children).

I don't believe that two 10 yo children should spend the rest of their lives in prison but again if it was my child they had murdered I cannot say 100% I would still feel like that.

I feel like a shit person and a massive hypocrite to boot. How can I say I'm against something as long as it doesn't affect me? I am no different to the other people with their mob mentality justice aren't I?

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TidyDancer · 16/02/2013 15:52

(Would probably kill for DP as well, if he's been good)

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Maebe · 16/02/2013 15:57

God, no. It's nothing more than state-sponsored murder. Bringing back the death penalty is probably the one thing that would make me emigrate.

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Trills · 16/02/2013 16:01

Anyone who could abuse and murder a child is not human. They should be stamped out like the cockroaches they are.

It's tempting to want to separate yourself from people who could do things like this, to say they are not human, not like us, different.

But it's not true. They are human. And it's also not helpful. Trying to pretend that bad things are only done by "monsters" might make you feel better but doesn't help us to stop bad things from happening, because bad things are done all the time by people who seem to be nice and normal. If we say that only "a monster" can abuse a child then that makes it harder for someone who has been abused to come forward, or even to believe that it has really happened and that it is really abuse, because they know that the person who did it is not seen as "a monster".

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MsVestibule · 16/02/2013 16:02

I've always been against the death penalty and when doing a university access course a few years ago, wrote a polemic explaining why I was against it. It was really interesting to research a subject so thoroughly, rather than just have a 'gut instinct' that it was wrong.

Bunny I don't think your 'hypocrisy' is particularly unusual; I feel quite murderous towards towards reckless drivers and will say/think "I hope he wraps his car around a tree soon", but I don't actually mean it.

I don't like the idea of families bring involved in the justice process at all (apart from as a witness if necessary). In some states in America, a statement can be read by the victims families describing how the murder has devastated their lives. That's fine if it is just to give the families their 'moment' but not if if is supposed to influence sentencing. What happens if a vagrant with no known family was the victim? Should the perpetrators get a lesser sentence because nobody misses him/her?

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chickensarmpit · 16/02/2013 17:15

My family was riddled with abuse before I was born. My great grandad was the perp. He didn't kill anyone but the damage that man has left behind is shocking. Him and his dirty friends should of been lined up and shot. But because it was the 60/70 and 80's nothing was done. The affects of what they did still affect my mum and even me. I believe that men like him have no place in our society, they should be wiped off the face of the earth.

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maddening · 16/02/2013 17:37

The feeling of anger in reaction to actually thinking about what they did - I just think about the terror and pain Jamie went through and that he was crying for his mummy while they tortured and murdered him and I feel it - is natural - and probably comes from an innate part inside all of us that drives human society.

But as a conscious society we have decided that to act on that anger is wrong - the majority of us do not want the death penalty for many reasons and that is right.

I do not want the death penalty but understand that feeling of anger and that is what people are expressing - all be it in an awful way but it was an awful thing that happened.

I they were killed by someone taking revenge for example I would not support that act at all but I would not cry for their lives ending.

It is a natural response but as a society we have decided to rise above that. 

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HoratiaWinwood · 16/02/2013 17:42

Narked - actually the death penalty is well known to cost more than a full-life prison sentence, at least in countries with due process - appeals are hugely expensive, for instance.

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maddening · 16/02/2013 17:44

An example is a pack of dogs - if a member of the pack stepped out of line the pack would kill it or expel it - it is natural and protects the society they live in - the order of the pack.

We have the ability to deal with societal infractions differently - humans have greater capacity for compassion.

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lljkk · 16/02/2013 18:25

I was raised in a staunchly anti-Death Penalty family (in a fairly pro-DP country). I can't help but regard DP as barbaric. "Why do we kill people to show people that killing people is wrong" etc. I don't have any strong principles about it, though (I tolerate lots of barbaric things).

So I'm relatively reactionary compared to my parents, in that I feel pretty indifferent about people receiving DP when they have been convicted of heinous crimes.

However, I am acutely aware that it would dishonour my parents if I wanted DP to avenge my parents' murders, I might even feel compelled to campaign against DP for my parents' (hypothetical) murderers; parents would be horrified if DP happened in their names. I imagine I would decline to express an opinion either way if DC were the victims. I don't think I would feel any greater satisfaction if the penalty went as far as death.

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Nancy66 · 16/02/2013 18:28

I am opposed to the death penalty but I'm sure that if a child of mine was ever tortured and murdered in the most horrific and unimaginable way that my standpoint would be seriously challenged.

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nokidshere · 16/02/2013 18:32

I also think that the two things are completely different. I am totally opposed to the death penalty but it would be a very strong person who wouldn't want revenge for their loved one. It's possible to imagine the person who has hurt your family being killed in a horrible way without condoning the death penalty.

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