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To think there are worse pains than labour?

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coraltoes · 07/02/2013 15:37

Having recently badly broken a bone WIBU to say actually, it hurt a fuckload more than giving birth? I honestly thought nothing could hurt more than labour, but lo and behold something did! (for less hours admittedly but nothing amazing to cuddle at the end). The bone had to be pulled back into place with gas and air and a local block, which made me nearly vomit.

Come and share with me your injury horrors and tell me whether they trumped your labour pains. please do not thik i am trying to undermine ladies with horrendous labours, i am sure some of you would put me to great shame :D

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Vunsure · 16/02/2013 23:30

Just had acute tonsillitis and loved labour in comparison!!

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digerd · 16/02/2013 21:15

oops 'torture wrack'

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digerd · 16/02/2013 21:14

My labour was also back to back, but decades ago so didn't know and also no epidural. I too looked around for a hammer to hit myself over the head with to put me out as they wouldn't do it. Also saw the window and thought if I throw myself out of it that will knock me out.
I felt as if I was on the torure rack having my bum pulled apart for 3 days, and couldn't understand why I didn't pass out. Pethidine injections and gas and air didn't even touch the edge of the pain. But once I felt the urge to push all pain disappeared and she shot out face up towards me. Didn't even feel the pain of the tear, as nothing compared with the pain of the 1st stage.
Had lots of tooth root abcesses but pain killers got rid of that pain.

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pmTea · 16/02/2013 20:52

LaQueen - yes I sadly also know what that feels like...aspirin my arse

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Snowkey · 15/02/2013 20:50

Have broken my arms 3 times, chipped thumbs broken fingers but when I went into labour dh asked me how I knew it was for real and I said because if I wasn't in labour I was dying and I meant it - it was beyond hideous pain. My midwife didn't feel labour pains, my mum's cousin had 10 kids and was a midwife too and never felt labour pains - I think it's impossible and a bit pointless to compare pain between 2 people.

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Alamaya · 15/02/2013 20:42

my gallbladder pain hurt far much more than both my labours.

Although my tattoo hurt more than both my labours.

I loved my labours lol

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JugglingFromHereToThere · 14/02/2013 18:45

Blimey that sounds really awful Cecelia Sad You poor thing x

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LittleMissSnowShine · 13/02/2013 08:58

I've had a few broken bones (clumsy!) but 53 hours of spurious but relentless and then active labour with DS, ending up with a drug free birth in flipping stirrups plus episiotomy was pretty flipping sore and a lot worse than any broken bones, migraines, tonsillitis, bad sprains I can think of.

Of course I'm preparing to go through it all again in 25 weeks time so not sure if that makes me a crazy masochist Hmm

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CeceliaStrange · 13/02/2013 08:13

Labours are so different, my first was long and painful, so tired and thought it was an awful birth.

I remember thinking in my second is was like giving birth for the first time, out of your head pain and losing it a bit. It was an urgent straight to drip induction and I wasn't ready in my head as I 36 weeks. 3pm at work, 5pm drip started. Then way too strong continuous contractions suddenly from nothing and going 4cm to birth in under half hour. But that wasn't even the worst...it was stopping the pph there and then with manual clot removal and no pain relief. That was a three person pinning me down job. That was the kind ofpain that leaves you shaking in shock after.

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ButtonBoo · 13/02/2013 07:41

Yep - gall stones. Absolute, unbelievable pain. Proper white-out pain. Trumped my labour and delivery!

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TheSmallPrint · 13/02/2013 07:15

I broke my foot and it was painful but not that same intense deep down relentless pain. The only pain that was worse was an ear infection which eventually burst my ear drum. I would have happily chopped my head off after lying awake all night with that pain. Never again will I dismiss my DCs ear complaints as something minor!!!

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RyanGoslingsMissus · 13/02/2013 05:39

Kidney stones.

Would rather go through 62 hour labour, Synto drip without epidural and 2 crash sections than have the kidney stones again.

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gaelicsheep · 13/02/2013 00:24

SeymoreInOz - conversely I remember labour pains vividly from both times and would never EVER put myself through it again.

Having said that, there are two pains that I consider worse than MOST (definitely not all) of labour. Firstly breastfeeding. Secondly, putting my neck into spasm.

However I tend to think that we somehow deal with whatever pain is thrown at us, and it usually feels like the worst it could be at the time. Obviously I'm not talking about a papercut lol. I think it's hard to compare from memory after the event.

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damppatchnot · 13/02/2013 00:17

I've had three children but by FAR the worst pain was when I shattered the two bones in my wrist while falling when pregnant with dd1

I had pins inserted through surgery whilst awake with a block on my arm then it quickly wore off and no morphine but only 2 paracetamol and I was head banging the walls with the pain

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redrubyshoes · 13/02/2013 00:04

Waffle

I can't do press ups and my elbow does a very noisy 'crack' when I try. Twenty bloody years since I broke it!

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SeymoreInOz · 13/02/2013 00:03

Not sure if this has been mentioned up thread but the weird thing about labour compared to other types of pain is that you can't really remember it.

DS was born 10 weeks ago with gas and air. I can remember that the transition was the worst part and begging for a general anaesthetic, but I can't really remember what it felt like or how bad it was. If I got pregnant, I wouldn't be worried about going through it again.

I can vividly remember the pain of a tooth abscess 10 years ago though.

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Wafflenose · 12/02/2013 23:16

Yes, I had to start physio the day after the op. They originally said plaster for 6-8 weeks, but the surgeon overruled that and said I had to move it immediately. He also explained why I'd never fully straighten it again, but I am very determined, and managed it after two months. I can't put any weight on it though. They screwed two pieces back on, and removed another two. I have a 3.5" scar (and honestly didn't care how bad it looked, just wanted it fixed) and yes mine is lumpy too!

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redrubyshoes · 12/02/2013 23:02

Waffle

Did you have to start physio the next day? They wouldn't plaster a broken joint and it was cracked straight again the next day and for six weeks after.


Three times a week for three months! That was twenty years ago and I still have a knob of bone sticking out at a weird angle and I am still pissed off with that nurse that dragged me up on a (very obvious) compound fracture.

I fainted with the bloody pain and not for effect!

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Wafflenose · 12/02/2013 22:38

I thought nothing could top labour pain, which was horrendous (24 hour first with gas and air; 10 hour second one with no pain relief, even though I was screaming for the gas) - until I broke my elbow when my youngest was 8 months old, so labour still fairly fresh in my mind.

I slipped and put my hand out, and my whole bodyweight fell on my straight arm. Elbow smashed to pieces. I have a very high pain threshold, but was screaming the place down. It was Saturday, and the fractures were so complicated that they had to wait for the expert to come in and fix it on the Monday. I was in hospital for 4 days, and still crying in pain when I went home, partly because it wasn't plastered after the op and I had to start moving it right away to try to save my career. It still hurts. Fortunately, nobody tried to pick me up by it - ouch, redrubyshoes.

Would rather go through labour ten times over than do that again.

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redrubyshoes · 12/02/2013 21:09

Compound fracture of the elbow. Had the arm snapped straight to take an x-ray.

I passed out with the pain of a local anastaetic (sp?) which didn't work and then a needle going in to aspirate the blood sack that had formed.

The sack of blood was drained without LA and then the broken joint was snapped straight to take ANOTHER x-ray. I passed out again and a nurse pulled me up by the broken joint and shouted at me for passing out and put me in a chair alone which I promptly fell off.

Bitch.

That really bloody hurt.

Labour was a five hour doddle and 20 years later my elbow still aches when it is rainy and cold. My fanny doesn't. Grin

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persimmon · 12/02/2013 19:29

A heavy, old, solid wood door once shut completely on my hand, crushing my poor fingers to fuck. This was almost 20 years ago and i still have faint marks across my fingers.
That hurt a damn sight more than labour.

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EugenesAxe · 12/02/2013 18:21

No I agree... I very badly broke my arm at the wrist and in the words of the surgeon sustained a lot of 'invasive trauma' to my wrist tendons... it was very painful. I nearly fainted with the pain and I went white with shock. When I got to A&E they knocked me out with morphine.

Then the next day I could barely move my arm or fingers because the bones kept grinding together... that was when the surgeon phoned and said I needed to have an operation to pin them. I was very grateful! But pin-ends inside your cast aren't a barrell of laughs either.

DOn't get me wrong - labour does really hurt (made me vomit), but it's just not the same kind of pain. I think back to that break and feel woozy; I don't think that of labour.

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PostBellumBugsy · 12/02/2013 15:22

Brilliant thread - not sure why other people's pain is so fascinating, but it does make me think we are a fairly tough crowd.

Birth 1 - felt like pain that would never end. Could not stop puking after the epidural failed because it hurt so much

Birth 2 - very intense but over so quickly, it seems less bad in my memory

Tooth abscess - really awful

Crushed fingernail & end of finger - puke inducingly painful

Tonsillectomy as an adult & post-op haemorrage - really awful

Broken arms, collar bone, feet & toes - very painful but not as bad as childbirth

Outright winner - slipped disc. Could not remain conscious. Kept passing out from the pain. Had to be hospitalised & morphined until it went back in a bit. Every movement, even breathing, was agony.

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Latara · 12/02/2013 15:10

Pain is all relative to the individual's perception... personally i wince at some of the operations & leg ulcers i've seen at work in a hospital; also i've seen tumours growing out of the breast or bowel & breaking through the skin - horrific stuff.

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Xiaoxiong · 12/02/2013 15:05

SilverMoo don't get me wrong, I found labour awful. I was weeping and vomiting with the pain as the induction progressed (no epidural for 12 hours) and pleading with DH to make it stop and/or to kill me.

It's just that a burst appendix three weeks later was even worse.

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