DH is sulking with me nearly 24 hours later and I really dont want to apologise.
I am not spending money on myself at the moment as am on maternity leave with DS 10 weeks, so no new clothes. I was given vouchers for christmas for a very upmarket online store that I cannot normally afford. My old dressing gown was four years old, had a hole in it and was thin cotton so freezing for getting up in the night when the heating is off. I managed to find a lovely luxury one in the dregs of the sales at 50% off and it arrived yesterday. I hadn't worn it yet, but it is just so lovely and double layered but could be unisex.
Last night DH went out for drinks with people he used to work with and came home at midnight, kebab in hand, a little worse for wear. Obvs no problem with that. DS woke up at 3am and I was feeding him in bed. DH decided to get up and get himself a drink of water and offered to change DS when I had finished feeding. He came back in in my new dressing gown (his was next to it on the bathroom door) which was pulled stretched across his shoulders and as he reached over for DS, I heard it rip a bit. I asked him to take it off as he was ripping it and I didnt particularly want his beer sweaty naked self all over it. He got really cross and told me that I was being petty and selfish and took it off, scrunched it up and kicked it across the bedroom.
He wants me to apologise. I think I am entitled to have something new, without him ruining it before I have even worn it.
told you it was petty, but AIBU and should I apologise.
AIBU?
To think I should get to have one nice thing without DH ruining it? (warning petty)
Lambzig · 17/01/2013 20:16
Chunky 
, I had wondered if my OP sounded like DH was dying to wear all my clothes.
I think he was tired and just starting a hangover and grabbed the nearest one. Its not too girly, its a lovely double layered flannel one from Toast. Its just I feel like wearing one of his expensive suits to feed DS in, burping him on the shoulder and then going "but its just a stupid suit".
Pictish you are right, its not about the dressing gown, its about general disrespect, or at least that is how it feels.
I wouldn't be happy.
I mean, I'm all for sharing within a marriage 
but I draw the line at my bloody clothes!
If my husband ripped an item of my clothing, I'd expect a whoops, sorry, get yourself a new one.
Not to be told how selfish I am for daring to object to my stuff being ripped!
Tell me. Does he have this lovely share and share alike mentality for his own stuff?
For example, you put on his favourite jumper and stretch it out of shape. He's fine with that, yes? You can help yourself to anything that's his and if you wreck it through drunken fuckwittedness -he's fine, right?
YANBU. I feel furious on your behalf! Might go and shout at DH for a bit
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