DS (Aged 8) and his friend of same age want to take part in the talent competition doing a "fighting" routine sort of martial arts style.
This is a bloody ridiculous AIBU, but I am torn between letting them do it and then finding out that it is a bad idea and telling them NO because someone will get hurt and they have no chance of getting through anyway.
They were showing me their "routine" in the play ground after school when one of the teachers told the boys to stop what they were doing.
ARGH!! What should I do? I think this is one of those times when I should be the adult and say NO they cannot do it!!
(Apologies for the non-issue that this AIBU is)
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In telling DS that he is not taking his silly routine to the school talent show auditions.
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere · 15/01/2013 17:09
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
29/01/2013 09:22
I was surprised to realise how disappointed I was when DS told me yesterday that they were not successful in their audition!
DS is fine about it, but his friend is more disappointed. Not sure how happy I am that they are already talking about next year's auditions!
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
17/01/2013 12:25
pinkyponk67! I am so glad that I have not been alone in my cringiness re DS! He and his friend also had not arranged an ending for their routine, so I said that they had to make sure they know how it was going to end. Does that count as directorial input?
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
17/01/2013 12:05
SO glad I started this thread. I really love some of the stories that have been told.
I do feel redeemed, I must say! Now I cannot wait to hear if my boy is in the finals .
I will offer all of you special rate tickets for his performance at The Royal Albert when he gets there....
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Chopstheduck ·
17/01/2013 08:13
aww glad it went well!
My eldest son has sn, is asd somewhere and his talent show offerings are dodgy in the least. He lacks any self consciousness. One was a Mario routine where they jumped around the stage to the Mario theme music, then he did a LMFAO Sexy and I know It routine. At a CofE school with a rather austere HT. They did tell them they were NOT doing it in Speedos, but otherwise they were left to get on with it!
He also set the trend for wearing dresses on Pink day, so last year for the last one, to stand out, he went as a flying pink pink with fairy wings.
I love him for it, and anyone who sniggers at him can fuck off!
Eliza22 ·
17/01/2013 08:08
When I was at school I was a quiet little soul. I went through 4 years without the need to sing, beyond assembly and church services. In my final year there was a "stage" competition and you had to sing, on your own. I chose a really old song and I'll never forget that day. It was like that scene in Snow White where all the woodland creatures peep in from the forrest. By the end of my rehearsal of said song (and I'd been putting it off thinking "I don't need to rehearse in front of everyone, I'll just do it on the day) the doorway was packed with pupils asking "who IS that?"
I sang. Out of 80 or so pupils, I came second to the girl who won the year before. The following year, I won. The music teacher said "we had no idea you could sing!"
I went on the sing and get paid for it!
Never quash your kid's enthusiasm. That's my advice
Spuddybean ·
16/01/2013 22:27
aaaaaawww My school were holding open singing auditions for a musical they were putting on and my bf kept going on about how she had the best voice, that she was going to get the part and no one else need apply etc. She walked on the stage and sang really loudly, not a bit self consciously...and absolutely awfully! We were all stunned. None of us knew why she was so adamant she was a great singer. She didn't get the part and was absolutely outraged and demanded to know why. The teachers gently told her she couldn't really sing that well. She accused them of lying, totally convinced was she of her amazingness. When we asked what made her so sure she was that good she said because her mum had told her...
She went home and incredulously recounted her experience to her Mum. Her mum explained that while SHE thought she was amazing and loved to listen to her sing, that was because she was her mum and loved her, but in actual fact to other people who could hear she was fucking awful not that good. It never occurred to her that she wasn't fantastic. 
Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
16/01/2013 17:22
After school, I asked the boys how it went: "PERFECT!" they shouted. I can just imagine.
What a relief. They did not come out crying or down in the dumps. All good!
No idea if they got through, but at least they made it.
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Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
16/01/2013 09:50
Enjoyinglife, your post is brilliant! Thank you!!
You are right - I remember things from my childhood that disappointed me or made me glad .
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Snazzynewyear ·
15/01/2013 22:15
Agree with Delta - let the school crush their dreams, you don't need to 
It is seriously a good sign that a child previously lacking in confidence is willing to do this now.
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Eliza22 ·
15/01/2013 22:09
Wow, let them do it! I think it's great they want to have a go and are willing to put themselves up for it!
It's character forming
Alliwantisaroomsomewhere ·
15/01/2013 21:50
Bobyan, the auditions are tomorrow - the boys are going ahead with it! I will report back tomorrow night 
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