I spoke to some friends of DH last night - I have known them for a while but am not that close to them. Anyway, I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my first and so far my bump has been quite small and "neat", i.e. I only look like I've put weight on at the front and nowhere else. Anyway, in the last 3-4 weeks, my bump has got huge, it's measuring big for dates but is still quite compact so actually looks pretty ridiculous, like I've swallowed a bowling ball!
I used to be a dance teacher so have got quite strong tummy muscles so I think that's maybe why the bump is that shape, or maybe it's just nature, I don't know. I'm happy to laugh along with people who think it looks funny and have been quite laid-back about it.
Anyway, when I spoke to these ladies, their comments were "oh dear, you're really never going to manage to get that baby out, you'll have lots of pain and trouble giving birth, you may as well ask for a c-section cos that's never coming out naturally, you'll get ripped to bits even trying" etc. I have nothing against a c-section and if that's what it takes then so be it but these comments just seemed really unnecessary and mean and designed to worry me. AIBU to be annoyed (and worried now)?
AIBU?
To get a bit offended by these women? Baby bump related...
spg1983 · 10/01/2013 22:55
Some women can't resist getting a dig in 
just about the least supportive, encouraging sort of talk any pregnant woman needs to hear. Hopefully not all your encounters with people are like this, try and tune out any negative stories.
Fwiw assuming you are going to have help with delivering your baby from trained professionals, they'll have seen it all before, you'll be in safe hands and when your pfb will be safe in your arms you'll not give those witches a second thought .
HollyTheHedgehog very good riposte!
What rude, nasty women! Ignore them completely. I'm glad you posted on here so you can rid yourself of the effects of their dumb, thoughtless comments.
The thing is, daft/malicious people will continue to say stuff - at every stage of pg, when your baby is tiny, when they're a toddler, etc...some people seem to be unable to help themselves from seeping out toxic crap!
Ignore, laugh at them, change the subject, walk away - never feel you have to be polite or take any of it on board.
Your birth story will be unique. Could be easy and quick, could be more complex like mine was. But episodic and sometimes challenging as mine was I coped brilliantly, and look back and think, wow! I seriously impressed myself 
And it was an astonishing experience.
Sounds to me like you're fit as a fiddle and that will help enormously!
Congratulations on your pregnancy 
My friend had a HUGE bump and her DD was only 5lbs when born. Everything else was fluid and all the good stuff surrounding the baby. My bump was quite compact and my DD weighed 8.3lbs! Her birth was amazing and I actually enjoyed it. The most harmful part of birth is the fear that goes with it. Get yourself a hypno birthing book and CD. Did wonders for me as I went into it with a positive attitude. I only lost it briefly just before she came out. The rest of the time I was calm and in control. Ignore the silly twits!
Just ignore them, bump size is no indication of baby size-midwife told me she thought DD would be 6lb 12oz from my bump & her prodding, she was 8lb 3oz. 
You'll be fine, as said before everything is very stretchy
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