To be annoyed with cleaner in John Lewis?

[Tralalalaha]

Went out with 21 month old DS in a back carrier to buy some new shoes in the sales. Got to JL and realised as I took him out to get his feet measured that he'd done a mahousive wee and was sopping from waist to knee (as indeed was my back). So nipped over to kids wear, bought some lovely trousers in the sale and sprinted into the changing room bit to sort him out. Both changing mats were in use by little teeny babies, the BF and bottle feeding rooms were in use and I didn't think anyone wanted to see a nappy change while feeding, but there's a big lobby bit so I thought for a quick whip and wipe, I'd just kneel on the floor and rest him on my bag.

I'll say now that DS never ever wees on me during nappy changes, so I was a bit surprised and horrified when he started peeing like a horse and grabbed a cloth out of my bag to put over his winky while jokingly saying 'naughty boy DS'. All of a sudden someone starts shouting at me, and I look over my shoulder (while mopping up DS and the floor) to see a cleaner looking pretty angry. She was shouting and saying why didn't I use one of the mats, so I said they were busy, then she said why didn't I use the table in the disabled loos. I hadn't spotted it to be honest, but wouldn't have taken up a disabled loo just to change a nappy anyway, then she told me I should have waited for a mat to be free. Leaving aside the fact that the little babies on those mats were still being changed when this was all over and I was leaving, poor DS was sopping wet and I didn't want to hang around with him in soggy clothing. I said as much, and then got a bit peppy and asked her if there were any of my other parenting choices she'd like to question and she stalked off muttering about mopping the floor and I finished up DS, wiped the floor with antibacterial wipes and left in a bit of a fricking snit actually.

So, AIBU to be peed off if you'll forgive the pun, or was she perfectly within her rights to be annoyed at the pee on the floor?

[fryingpanalley]

I fucking hate Westfield Stratford. Your DS can piss all over it as far as I am concerned, and do a massive dump in the atrium on the way out, and neither of these things could possibly lower the tone of the place any further.

[Narked]

Not more odd threads.

A 22 month old and you were out without a change of clothing?

[Feminine]

I don't really think YABU but you do sound a little preoccupied with yourself.

It seems piss is dominating your life, and that everyone else will have to enjoy it too.

It was the bit about waiting to train your DD that made me think this. Why would she have to stay at home because she us potty training

You are making your life more difficult than it needs to be.

I do think the cleaner was rude though, you are still a customer and deserve respect.

Pull-ups would be useful for your dd

[Tralalalaha]

You know people say that, but we've found she just treats them like a nappy. So given she's only two days into the latest attempt, it really seemed more sensible to leave her at home so OH could continue to remind her to sit on the potty. He took her to the park, where it's slightly less of a problem if she has an accident. She's three and a half, and the first two times we tried to potty train I took her out in pull ups. Found that she just decided she was back in nappies and that was the end of weeing in the potty.

The people using the mats had teeny tiny babies - they were going to be ages, and in fact they were. As I was leaving, one lot were still changing an entire outfit, I'm guessing because of pooplosion. I also didn't want to hang around making them hurry and of course, I didn't think DS was going to wee once his nappy was off.

I very very rarely take out changes of clothing. I've never had to go and buy something before now. Unless I'm going to be out longer than a couple of hours, I generally just shove a pack of wipes, a couple of nappies and some nappy sacks in my bag.

[Sirzy]

Why does a newborn take ages to change? You can come up with as many reasons up as you like, doesn't change the fact you should have waited

[bringbacksideburns]

Next time find a toilet and take him out in a disposable.

I would have found a loo. Can't think why you didn't.

[Tralalalaha]

No, in hindsight I should have waited, but people with teeny tiny newborns and no other children tend to be first timers and a bit slow and nervous. Like these people were in fact.

And bog off with the disposables. DS has been in his cloth nappy since I changed him at eight and he's still fine. He was in that nappy yesterday for less than an hour, it was just one of those things.

[HugoDarling]

If there is a nervous first timer there, all you need to say is a cheery, 'take your time, no rush,' it's no big deal!

YABU.

[Feminine]

I do love your responses op

good luck with your DD

[2rebecca]

I probably wouldn't have bothered putting a nearly 2 year old on a changing table and would have just changed him on the toilet floor. I don't see why the toilet floor wasn't OK if the shop floor was. You could have still laid him on the bag. By toilet floor I mean the floor by the wash basins, in the cubicle is a bit cramped, I used to carry a thin plastic mat with the spare nappies to lie them on.

[2rebecca]

I used terries for mine, although usually took them out shopping in disposables, because it's unpleasant carting around a soiled or sodden cloth nappy and shopping always takes longer than you think.

[Narked]

'I very very rarely take out changes of clothing. I've never had to go and buy something before now.'



You've been very lucky.

[catchafallingstar]

WAIT!
YABVU

[2rebecca]

I rarely took changes of clothing either, especially when they were nearly 2.

[Sirzy]

Ds has been potty trained for 6 months but I still keep a change of clothes in my handbag for him. Very rarely needs it but better to be prepared!

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

Didn't bother to read most as it was all getting a bit hysterical as usual. If, as it seems, you bunged him down on the floor in the lobby of the changing 'suite' :o and not in a walkway by the checkouts then I see no issue. But mnetters do like to make a wanky fuss over nothing and shite

[Momsnatter]

erm... I don't think you were being unreasonable. I would have done the same with a wet toddler. You weren't to know he would wee. Accidents happen! Yikes at the responses on here!
As for the not having a change of clothes I have two boys and can count on one hand the number of times their nappies have leaked, and you bought a change set anyway!!!

[AmberSocks]

cleaner was rude to talk to you like that,you could probably complained.you could of waited a bit buti know what you mean.

[HoHoHoNoYouDont]

You probably could have waited but you didn't. It's not a crime! All I can say is that had the cleaner not come up at that moment would you have been prepared to have wiped up any mess? If yes then I don't think it's an issue, if no then yes YABU.

[CockBollocks]

Wow, tis wee on the floor from a very small child, tis all it is!!! It was cleaned up!

This is your 2nd child op, DD2 was lucky if I remembered to take wipes out let alone a change of clothes. As for change of clothes for mum - ahahahaha ha ha ha.

[JamieandtheMagiTorch]

OP

I agree with your approach to training your Dd.

Bothe mine were over 3 when they were trained, and it took a concerted few days at home, with no nappies or pullups, to get the ball rolling. Both were trained with no accidents very quickly

[BarredfromhavingStella]

Not read the whole thread but I'd have probably done the same if I'm honest, this is due to my lack of patience-would've just ignored hysterical cleaner.

HTH

[PumpkinPositive]

Wow. You really stuck it to that (probably) underpaid cleaner. She won't go telling people not to piss all over the place again. Well done.

[maisiejoe123]

Eww - it sounds horrible to come across. Just like the poster who said she took her young baby to the cinema and then proceeded to change them on the seat next to her. I wouldnt like to sit on THAT seat!

How aboutthe lady I sat behind on a flight last year who started asking the person next to her to stand up as she wanted to use her seat to lay her baby down and change her!!

Yuck yuck yuck....