to tell my cleaner not to come tomorrow?

[reddwarf]

I've had a cleaner for a few months. Tomorrow is the last day of the school holidays. My dc are all still in bed and likely to be there for quite some time. As is dh. My cleaner normally comes at 7.45.

So not only are 5 people going to be in bed, but as everyone is here, the house is a tip.

I feel guilty for cancelling, but otoh, it#s not exactly ideal.

What to other people do re cleaners in school holidays, and AIBU to tell her not to come? ( WHich I did last week )

Should I just make it a blanket rule not to come during any school holiday?

[betterwhenthesunshines]

Our cleaner also starts early - 8am. This morning the children were still in bed, I was awake but reading and not yet dressed. She just started downstairs, but she knows the house and has been with us for 13 years

For tomorrow you could call her today and let her know you are all still in holiday mode ( sensitively - she is coming in to work!) so that she doesn't feel embarrassed you are still in bed! She could clean the oven, kitchen thoroughly, and do ironing for you.

Maybe she could start at a later time in the holidays, but bear in mind she will probably have other clients to strat after you, also a later start will mean reduced wages which is not fair unless it is agreed in advance.

[ImaginateMum]

"People manage their money in different ways. Some people prefer the PAYG option rather than lifetime membership!"

Absolutely fine, but both sides of the agreement need to have signed up to that.

[cansu]

YABU she was expecting to work and be paid. If you don't want her around maybe either ask her if you can pay her and bank the hours for some extra cleaning later on at a mutually convenient time or ask her to come and take ironing or some other job that can either be done tucked away somewhere or at home. I also have cleaner and think that you need to be very upfront and clear well in advance. Your cleaner will be relying on your money in the same way you do. It really isn't fair to cancel like this.

[cathers]

I have a cleaner. I pay her £10 per hour. I think less than 24 hours notice of cancelling her work and you should offer to pay her. More than 24 hrs, is fine in my book.

[FreudianLisp]

I think messing her around like this is very mean, TBH. She may well be struggling on a very low income. Some of us are lucky enough that we'd be fine if we lost some of our wages, but I know our cleaner really really struggles to make ends meet. The only time I've cancelled her is when we all had D&V and I didn't want her to catch it, but I begged her to take the money anyway. (She refused.) Please don't do this to her: it's really unkind.

[FairyChristmas]

Mine usually comes at 9am on a Friday. I called her earlier to ask if she could come a bit later tomorrow and she was fine with that.

I think you are really out of order.

YABVU

[MrsMelons]

My cleaner comes sometimes in the holidays depending on whether I am working at all or not. If I know she is coming in and the DCs are around then we get up and ready then go out when she is here.

We agree between us what weeks she comes in the holidays and she is really flexible. She is happy for me to cancel for instance if we are having building work etc but I would not cancel adhoc for more than a week without paying her and definitely would pay her if it is short notice.

If you agree holiday dates in advance then I would not pay then!

[LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance]

Nothing new to add except another voice to say YABVU.

I don't pay my cleaner if she cancels because she or her DCs are ill. I do pay if I cancel.

[CaHoHoHootz]

YABU and mean and flakey sorry

I have had cleaners for years. I would never ever cancel at short notice and if i did I would pay them. I pay year round even when I go on holiday. If my cleaner requests time off I don't usually pay her.
If the cleaner has kids working term time may suit her but if she doesn't I imagine she may want continual employment.
I always try and be very consistant with times and hours and my cleaners seem to appriciate it.

TBH I would still have the cleaner come over. She won care if your house is messy and imagine she would be able to keep herself busy doing the downstairs if everyone is asleep upstairs.

[PorridgeBrain]

If I cancel my cleaner, I pay her anyway (as per policy of agency). In holidays, I normally try and negotiate a slightly later start and then get family up and ready, let cleaner in and then we go straight out so she can clean in peace. I have on one occasion stayed in and just camped out in one room upstairs until cleaner finished downstairs and then moved downstairs.