I am pregnant, very nearly full term, with MIL's first grandchild. She hasn't really shown any interest throughout the pregnancy, but I realise that not everybody is interested in other people's pregnancies/scans/etc and would never expect everyone to be as excited as us.
Anyway, now that baby is very nearly here, I thought she might start to become a little bit more excited. At the last ante natal appointment, we found that there were a few issues re baby's growth and a couple of other things. I left MIL a message just to let her know, and also to ask her to let us know what arrangements she wanted to make for visiting.
I wasn't trying to push her into giving us firm time and dates, but she hasn't let us know yet what she plans to do at all, she doesn't get on with FIL who she is separated from (or his wife) and wouldn't be happy to visit if they were also up here, and she has cancelled her last two visits to us at short notice so haven't been able to discuss what she wants to do as she doesn't often respond to any calls/texts from me.
So I left this message over a week ago and have had absolutely no response from her. I'm really quite annoyed that she couldn't make the effort to respond to a message about the health of/when she wants to visit her grandchild - all she had to do was pick up the phone, even if it was to speak to DH rather than me.
Whilst she has never made any obviously rude comments to me since I started my relationship with DH, she's always had a bit of a tendency to be a bit indifferent to DH and towards me/puts us down perhaps not maliciously but without thinking, eg no acknowledgement of her birthday presents we have made a real effort with and thought hard about, no card on my birthday, when I sent her a get well soon card a few months ago she text me saying 'thanks for the card, everyone here has been so lovely and sent me flowers and chocolates', if DH has had a promotion at work or other good news she tends to respond by saying 'Oh. Well, BIL [insert how brilliant BIL is]'. It was only a few weeks ago that she made a comment that she hopes that BIL will get married this year as she needs 'something to look forward to'.
All this has been annoying but not the end of the world. However, should I really stand for this if this is also going to be the case for our child too? I really feel like sending her an arsey message, as the fact that she couldn't be bothered even acknowledging my last attempt at contacting her has really annoyed me (or maybe I'm just hormonal). Would this be unreasonable?
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lostsocks · 04/02/2012 19:01
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