I over reacted didn't I?

[TheLadyEvenstar]

DS1 has had 2 days filming at this school after being picked for a part in a channel 4 production.

So I gave him my trust and allowed him to go.

Last night the filming ended at 6.15pm he got home around 6.40.

Tonight he was meant to go from school straight to my mums which is about the same distance from school to home.

At 6.45 I called the school to see if filmong had finished to be told it was over running by an hr 45minutes. So I thought it would be safer for me to meet him, left home and got to the school at 7.30.

Waited a while and no sign of DS1, tried his phone and no answer. So called mum who said she had just spoken to him and had told him to come back to me. Waited a few minutes and still no sign of him so phoned him again and he told me that he couldn't be bothered to come back.

I told him he had no choice but to come back.
I walked up the road he told me he was at the other end of to me, and there was no sign so I called him again and he told me he was at the pther end now. I walked back down it and was halfway when I called him and said you have not passed me so where are you. He said again he was at the other end of the road to me and was outside his school.

I crossed over the road and as I did looked to my left and there running out of a VERY dodgy estate was DS1. I am ashamed to admit I did yell at him to move his backside.

This estate is very bad, drug deals take place there, it is muggers paradise it is awful. I am furious as he had no need to be there.

I then took him to my mums myself as I was so angry with him and all the way he was telling me I was an embarrassment, had no right to go near his school, Should not have gone to his school, needed to let him live his life etc. This went on until we got to my mums and he then started with the attitude to her.

I have told him and my mum that I don't care who asks him over the next few days while he is with her, that he is not under any circumstances allowed to go out with the other children in the family unless an adult is with them as he has again proven he cannot be trusted to be where he is meant to be.

I must add this is not the first time he has done a disappearing act. But he has recently been chatting to a girl on FB who I have to say I disapprove of, when she is sending him messages that 12yr old girls should NOT be sending and I have told him he is to have nothing to do with her.


So AIBU to stop him going out without an adult and to also take his expensive phone away from him and give him a more basic one. Until he can prove he is trustworthy.

[LynetteScavo]

You probably over reacted, but I would have reacted in exactly the same way.










And I'm an ace parent.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Squeaky the girl is sending him messages

"I like the boys to touch me up"
"I let and touch me so that ** would dump me"

she is 12, yes I will stop him having anything to do with her.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

Mumbling, he was meant to be in school. Not visiting friends - which I have to say the few he does have are not particularly nice children.
As for the estate it is notorious for trouble and is Muggers paradise. Many People who are fortunate enough to move off of there refuse to visit it.

[squeakytoy]

You do sound quite over-protective. And telling him to have "nothing to do with" a girl will be like a red rag to a bull and will probably make him even more interested in her... :)

[MumblingRagDoll]

Well yes yabu. He was visiting a friend I suppose...he was rude...but some of his mates may live on that estate. YABU for assuming that ALL an estate has to offer is shit and drugs.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

I must also add he is going to be 13 in July and also has aspergers.

[TheLadyEvenstar]

12

[squeakytoy]

How old is he?